Okay, I appreciate all of your input. I have a few more questions. I was told and I disagree with these (from BB's):
1. Your dog is hiding under the table because he respects me. Iy is not fear but a sign of respect. Really? I see dogs being trained very strictly but positively and they never hide, they look up with strong attention to the trainer or owner and are happy, wide open mouth, tongue hanging out, ears erect.
2.If one aspect of Alpha behavior is not done my the owner, the whole training can collapse. Really? I choose to have one aspect very lenient as it works best for ME.
3. Is letting a curse word out at your puppy by the trainer, calling it a nasty name, being positive. in positive training. Where is the patience by the trainer.
4. Because I admitted to having a hard time with one aspect of training ( see #2), I was told that I was spoiled the dog and that I will never be able to train him in any of it, that I was the problem. What a vote of confidence.
This trainer started out sweet and helpful but we are only a few lessons in and although I didn't train my pup as much as I could have this week due to illness (I did do many of the exercises but not to the best standards) that I was wasting her time.
The trainer interjected a few misplaced compliments after a number of bad comments as if trying to repair what he said.
As I am locked in ( no they will not refund, the main office refuses it to everyone) and no other trainer is in the area), I am not throwing my money away but we are going to have a sit down discussion with the trainer with all of our concerns and boundaries that should never be crossed again.
I researched far and wide for trainers to handle fear agression and other issues not handled in other classes and this seemed to be the best option with great reviews from our area. I was happy with the first few sessions but darn, I am steaming.