Hi Everyone,
New to the site, but myself and my girlfriend are kind of in panic mode and we desperately need some insight training our 5 month old puppy, Ludo. As a bit of backstory, we have myself, my girlfriend (we share in training duties), and my 5 year old son.
We have had him since 2 months and things had been going great up until a month ago. He already knows the following commands: sit, down, stay, wait, shake, go lay down, speak. We are crate training him and the accidents have slowly faded away. Not all the way though. Still a work in progress.
The problem is the last month we have noticed a change in our boy, Ludo. He is much more aggressive towards ME then ever before. He is constantly biting at my hand every time I try to pet him and today he even mouthed my chin today... (he didn't bite down, but it was the first time he did anything but lick around my face). This is not the case with my girlfriend. He is much more gentler with her (almost viewing her as a den mother) and over the last week he has even begun to mark her (pee on her) 3 times. He listens to her every word.
I do not want him to fear me or try to become competitive with me in this household. I feel like he is almost testing my authority as pack leader. Is that what is happening? If 2 people are training him is he getting confused as who the pack leader is? Should I just take over the training completely? I want him to respect me, but not fear me. I feel if I get aggressive with him that he will become afraid of me and that is not something I want. At the same time, I do not want him to think that biting (especially in the face) is at all acceptable. I have a 5 year old son and suddenly I am very cautious with this new change in his behavior.
Why is this happening? As a side note, I should make it known that my girlfriend has been spending a bit more time with him the last few weeks as taking care of my son and work has taken up a lot of my time. It's not like I ignore him, but she definitely spends more time with him. I know this might be part of the reason... but on the flip side, I have been the one to teach him all of these commands. I thought he knew for sure who the pack leader was and I didn't expect him to turn on me on a dime.
I love him so much and I know I have to change this behavior right away while he is still young. Every since we got him, he has gotten used to my touch. I would hold him and cradle him and touch his belly, and his paws whether he liked it or not because I wanted him to be comfortable with human touch. Up until the last month it worked great. Please help!
Any tips you can give me regarding the following would be great:
1) Is it okay for both my girlfriend and I to be training him or does this just lead to confusion?
2) How do we stop the "marking" on my girlfriend?
3) How do I stop him trying to bite me every time I go to pet him without him fearing me?
4) We are slowly trying to ween him off crate training, as we eventually want to be able to trust him alone in the house all day without him tearing it up. Currently, we leave him out in the afternoons (I come home for lunch) and simply gate him in the kitchen area. But everytime we come home after work, the whole area is torn up. Should we continue to ween him off the crate training with this method or is there a better one?
I know these are a lot, but we have a lot on our mind and we're not giving up on our good (but stubborn) boy!
New to the site, but myself and my girlfriend are kind of in panic mode and we desperately need some insight training our 5 month old puppy, Ludo. As a bit of backstory, we have myself, my girlfriend (we share in training duties), and my 5 year old son.
We have had him since 2 months and things had been going great up until a month ago. He already knows the following commands: sit, down, stay, wait, shake, go lay down, speak. We are crate training him and the accidents have slowly faded away. Not all the way though. Still a work in progress.
The problem is the last month we have noticed a change in our boy, Ludo. He is much more aggressive towards ME then ever before. He is constantly biting at my hand every time I try to pet him and today he even mouthed my chin today... (he didn't bite down, but it was the first time he did anything but lick around my face). This is not the case with my girlfriend. He is much more gentler with her (almost viewing her as a den mother) and over the last week he has even begun to mark her (pee on her) 3 times. He listens to her every word.
I do not want him to fear me or try to become competitive with me in this household. I feel like he is almost testing my authority as pack leader. Is that what is happening? If 2 people are training him is he getting confused as who the pack leader is? Should I just take over the training completely? I want him to respect me, but not fear me. I feel if I get aggressive with him that he will become afraid of me and that is not something I want. At the same time, I do not want him to think that biting (especially in the face) is at all acceptable. I have a 5 year old son and suddenly I am very cautious with this new change in his behavior.
Why is this happening? As a side note, I should make it known that my girlfriend has been spending a bit more time with him the last few weeks as taking care of my son and work has taken up a lot of my time. It's not like I ignore him, but she definitely spends more time with him. I know this might be part of the reason... but on the flip side, I have been the one to teach him all of these commands. I thought he knew for sure who the pack leader was and I didn't expect him to turn on me on a dime.
I love him so much and I know I have to change this behavior right away while he is still young. Every since we got him, he has gotten used to my touch. I would hold him and cradle him and touch his belly, and his paws whether he liked it or not because I wanted him to be comfortable with human touch. Up until the last month it worked great. Please help!
Any tips you can give me regarding the following would be great:
1) Is it okay for both my girlfriend and I to be training him or does this just lead to confusion?
2) How do we stop the "marking" on my girlfriend?
3) How do I stop him trying to bite me every time I go to pet him without him fearing me?
4) We are slowly trying to ween him off crate training, as we eventually want to be able to trust him alone in the house all day without him tearing it up. Currently, we leave him out in the afternoons (I come home for lunch) and simply gate him in the kitchen area. But everytime we come home after work, the whole area is torn up. Should we continue to ween him off the crate training with this method or is there a better one?
I know these are a lot, but we have a lot on our mind and we're not giving up on our good (but stubborn) boy!