I agree with you on a certain level of expectation across the board and think that applies to kids and animals alike. Common courtesy when you are out in the world, let's call it. I don't accept teeth on skin, I don't accept jumping, I want a solid "leave it," and I expect a calm sit when I ask for it so people can meet and greet. (All assuming dogs on leash - actual, not flexi.) Basically, enough owner control that the dog doesn't pose a risk to others.
But as for the rest, I completely agree with the premise that we all have different pictures of what "fitting into our lives" looks like and we all prioritize accordingly. For example, I have a German Shepherd with a big booming bark, and I live in the middle of the city where the lots are practically on top of each other. We are continuing to work hard on "NO BARK" - while I want her to bark when she feels an alert is warranted, I also want her to immediately stop when I tell her to, so she isn't a nuisance to my neighbors. This is a process; I'm noticing that progress has started to go in stops and starts since she hit 18 months or so, but it remains a high priority to train through.
What we haven't ever bothered with is the "place" command, which some people swear by, because we are pretty relaxed about her being allowed on the furniture with us and we almost never entertain. I'm starting work on it now for something to do, because I'm sure it will come in handy, but it's more of a luxury than a need, training-wise.
I do judge other owners, against the advice of the blogger, but that's more for things that go against that basic courtesy and basic owner control, or for bringing an aggressive dog out into the world and then not managing it. I judge those things harshly, mostly because I don't want 1) my own dog harmed, or 2) life as a dog owner made more difficult because stupid people had to go and ruin it for the rest of us.