please help me,advice needed

first please forgive me for posting here,as i know this site is for gs.if you need to delete my post i will understand.i hold all of you in such high regard and respect,that i truely trust your advice. i have 3 dogs. cocoa , a 3 yr old male full blooded peckingese, about 14 lbs ,baby a 2 yr old boxer mix(resue from neglectful owner) she is about 75-85 lbs solid as a horse,lol, and i have mia a 1 yr old female shep/lab about 40 lbs( also a rescue so to speak).

I was told mia's parents were ,mother a full blooded yellow lab and dad was a full blooded GS.when i picked up mia,i also took her sister,the sister looked just like a gs and man her paws were huge.she went to a family friend,i could not leave her behind...it was a or else situation.now my mia was a challange and required alot of understanding and patience,and still does(all together another story) we were told the pups were 8 weeks old,however the vet estimated no more than 5- 6 weeks.i wonder if she has enough gs in her to make her ears stand up,because they do, it is so cute. i told you alittle about each dog so you know alittle of the background.

Anyhow,will start with my worst situation,cocoa my pek.i bought him when he was about 10 weeks he was the runt of the lit.he seemed to begin losing hair about 2 summers ago, he had bald spots but it would grow back.he was shaved down( only his back and tail,that is where he chewed the most) since then he has not ever fully gotten his coat back,only a thin layer.every spring/summer and into the beginning of fall he nearly goes bald from chewing himself,makes sores,his skin turns black and hard.he chews his,paws,his hind area and his tail.since day one he has had a oder ,almost like a musky smell.

i spoke with the previos owner very nice people ,my husband has know them forever .in the plant where my husband works they almost all have a pek from these people.anyhow the owner told me that cocoa's mother has the same smell and chews herself bald too.yet the father does not.we know some of the people whom have these peks from other litters,same parents just not cocoa's litter, there peks dont have this problem.before i bought cocoa he had the shots he needed and was deworned,the owner came to my house with cocoa and has called to check on him over the time i have had him.

anyhow my vet... from the first time i took him in for losing hair etc. treats cocoa for allergic ( spelled right?) to fleas and said one must have bitten him,well duh.he runs a fever and they do a anal gland expression( what is that for really,is it helpful) the anal ,god it stinks,lol. they give him 2 meds everytime.i have research and researched i know peks have skin/eye issues.i have researched mange,every skin condion i can find. in the winter he starts to get new hair,pretty soft hair ,it is thin as i said.i am at such a lose i have begun to give him vit.e tabs,very careful with those because they can cause lack of eatting,i also put vit . e lotion all over his back feet etc. now i have noticed he is losing hair around his eyes and his mouth,like under one check feels crusty( yes he is bathed,lol)he is going bald on his ears,his neck is so thin with hair that when he has a collar on you see nothing but skin.

i have tried everything i can,and have read.this dog is my baby,my heart,he is not happy medically,does that make sense?he is still a young dog,full of life,so loving----people are suggesting to put him down he looks that bad.I WILL NOT PUT HIM DOWN,NO CHANCE IN H>>>.(i just lost my beloved rocky last august and lost my mom to lung cancer 5 months ago.) i will NOT give up on cocoa( i could not safe rocky ,rip my doddle).cocoa does not see the same vet everytime,same location diff. docs,they all go by his charts.i have argued the point of mange..........maybe? they have not tested him,keep saying it is a flea issue.and because he is so bad,they advised not to do flea prevention this year---hello what the heck? i have contacted another vet , whom is willing to see cocoa,but can not see him until the beginning of august,i told them the facts and they were ...shocked at his treatment thus far.

i have now noticed my boxer mix has what appears to be little red bumps in her ears and has like circle shaped areas where she is chewing and losing hair,mia has the same thing ,but her worse area is like by her hinds legs ,the crease where her buttm eets her hips. mia has no smell,baby has a slight smell very faint,yet her ears stick.i have clears her ears and used mite med on her ,i got tiny little black things.i have noticed mia eats grass and throws up,right away.baby has been throwing up like a white film stuff every now and then.i bathe these dogs once a week.

i really do not want to take these dogs to my reg vet,just am not satisfied there,the new vet has agreed to see the other 2 dogs when she sees cocoa.my question is what am i looking at here,any ideals????can cocoa be saved/helped,i know it is hard to know until tests are taken etc. i will accept the harshness i may get here,if it means getting some helpful advice for my dogs. just know this they are loved so much,kept indoors,spoiled, and have been vetted.i stayed with my reg vet, because i was able to make payments there,not alot of vets like that here.(ohio) i spent the last year trying to take care of my family,my dying mother and have enough money for everything that was needed,it was ****. my mom lost her insurance and alot of things took a backseat to her needs.

all i am asking for is some advice,judge me if you want to,call me a bad pet owner,,,i know what i am and what we have gone through lately.i am now able to direct my full att. on getting my fur babies well and i pray we are able to.i cant lose them. thank you for any advice or suggestions .