[KZoppa]

i have trouble keeping my mouth shut and my opinions to myself. I dont take insults regarding me, my family or my dogs. I'm 23 and female as well. Yes things can happen but they can happen whether you day anything or not. My dogs are well behaved. If someone is insulting myself or them, they better have a good reason behind it. They WILL get a piece of my mind.

 

[LaRen616]

It looks like our generation has some strong minded girls.

 

[gsdraven]

It looks like our generation is raising strong minded girls.

You can be strong minded without putting yourself in harm's way. I not that much older than the rest of you (26) but I agree with Rerun.

Too many people these days can't control themselves and will kill people over the stupidest thing.

To me, a strong minded WOMAN is one who knows when to keep their mouth shut, shake her head and move on and when to pick her battles. Arguing with an ignorant stranger gets you nowhere fast and potentially somewhere bad faster. And it has nothing to do with how old or young you are.

 

[LaRen616]

You can be strong minded without putting yourself in harm's way. I not that much older than the rest of you (26) but I agree with Rerun.

Too many people these days can't control themselves and will kill people over the stupidest thing.

To me, a strong minded WOMAN is one who knows when to keep their mouth shut and when to pick their battles. Arguing with an ignorant stranger gets you nowhere fast and potentially somewhere bad faster. And it has nothing to do with how old or young you are.

I do not value my life like most of you do, I dont care if I live or die, it's whatever to me. If I died today and had a chance to come back I wouldn't. So I speak my mind and I dont back down. I refuse to listen to insults and not do anything about them.

 

[KZoppa]

You can be strong minded without putting yourself in harm's way. I not that much older than the rest of you (26) but I agree with Rerun.

Too many people these days can't control themselves and will kill people over the stupidest thing.

To me, a strong minded WOMAN is one who knows when to keep their mouth shut, shake her head and move on and when to pick her battles. Arguing with an ignorant stranger gets you nowhere fast and potentially somewhere bad faster. And it has nothing to do with how old or young you are.

my husband keeps me from meeting his superiors because he's afraid i'll offend someone. I know when to keep my mouth shut despite not wanting to sometimes. I hate picking my battles but i do. Sometimes though, people just need to be told off.

 

[gsdraven]

I do not value my life like most of you do, I dont care if I live or die, it's whatever to me. If I died today and had a chance to come back I wouldn't. So I speak my mind and I dont back down. I refuse to listen to insults and not do anything about them.

Who would take care of your furry family? I'm sorry you feel that way and I urge you to do something about it.

 

[LaRen616]

Who would take care of your furry family? I'm sorry you feel that way and I urge you to do something about it.

Their futures are already planned out. I know who gets what animal and those people know as well. They have all agreed to take the animals that I would want them to care of.

I'm not suicidal, I just dont care, I've been through enough crap in this world that if it ended today I wouldn't be disappointed.

 

[gsdraven]

I'm not suicidal, I just dont care, I've been through enough crap in this world that if it ended today I wouldn't be disappointed.

Almost the same thing isn't it? People who don't care tend to be more careless with their lives and while you may not be actively trying to end it, you aren't actively trying not to. Don't mean to take this thread in a completely different direction but trust me, it's never as bad as it seems and you should care.

 

[Sunstreaked]

I do not value my life like most of you do, I dont care if I live or die, it's whatever to me. If I died today and had a chance to come back I wouldn't. So I speak my mind and I dont back down. I refuse to listen to insults and not do anything about them.

I mean this in the kindest way possible. I've seen several of your posts about Rogue, how you're trying to help him to have a happy life and fit in with your dogs and yourself.

At the very least, you should do the same for yourself or find a "people" you to do the same for you as you are doing for Rogue.

 

[Jax's Mom]

You can be strong minded without putting yourself in harm's way. I not that much older than the rest of you (26) but I agree with Rerun.

Too many people these days can't control themselves and will kill people over the stupidest thing.

To me, a strong minded WOMAN is one who knows when to keep their mouth shut and when to pick their battles. Arguing with an ignorant stranger gets you nowhere fast and potentially somewhere bad faster. And it has nothing to do with how old or young you are.

x2.
I will never arm myself with a knife or mase because I will never have enough time in my day to win every pissing contest with every idiot I meet.
Just because one doesn't fight, doesn't mean the fight is lost.
Think of it as letting your GSD win a fight with a small dog. Did it really win the fight or is it just going to get euthanized at the end of the day?

 

[Glacier]

I usually don't respond to these kinds of posts, but you're young and I've read several of them lately.

You need to be careful talking to people the way you do. You don't know these people, and I guarantee you that you have no idea what goes on in this world - no matter how nice your neighborhood is. Take it from someone who does know what goes on out there - next time someone makes a comment about your or your dog, either don't respond at all or say "thank you" politely and be on your way.

One day you're going to say something to the wrong person and being a young female, it isn't going to go well for you. Please be careful, and don't take such offense to what people think of your dog.

The trouble with this is in some neighborhoods being perceived as "weak" is just as bad, as it also leaves you looking vulnerable. Sometimes you have to stick up for yourself, as well as take proper precaution with self defense. This is just what I've experienced.

 

[Kris10]

I agree w/ gsdraven and Jax's mom. I think you need to be assertive but choose your battles. That is wisdom. In the situation that started this thread I probably would have laughed like I was in on the joke.
He wanted to get to you-and by acting the way you did you let him know he succeeded.

 

[Glacier]

I agree w/ gsdraven and Jax's mom. I think you need to be assertive but choose your battles. That is wisdom. In the situation that started this thread I probably would have laughed like I was in on the joke.
He wanted to get to you-and by acting the way you did you let him know he succeeded.

This is what I was trying to say, though I do believe women in general can benefit from a self defense class or two, if not for anything other than a confidence booster and exercise.

 

[Lesley1905]

People suck, it's a way of life anymore and it's sad. I hate people who think they are better than everyone else.

Haa! My thoughts exactly...People suck!

 

[Jessiewessie99]

There are times to act strong and be a strong woman and know when its necessary to stick up for yourself.I have a bad temper(cops were called 3 times each time more cops.) but if someone is going to make a silly comment like the man in this situation, it is not something to get your panties in a bunch about. He was being an ignorant idiot. I will turn 19 in a week and I know its necessary to stick up for my dogs, my family, my friends, and myself(I have many times).

Now if he was threatening your dog and you then you need to stick up for yourself.

 

[selzer]

I am now an older single female. I think that to view the world as a scarey place where everyone is out to get you, makes you a victim anyway.

I do not usually respond to rude comments because I consider the source and do not usually think they are worth my effort, but, I am NOT afraid of anyone. Sorry. Life is too short to walk around terrified of your own shadow.

 

[Dainerra]

I'm with Sue.. I have been known to smart off and wish I hadn't later, but that is because I was rude and misconstrued a comment. I'm not worried about someone following me home or to the store or anywhere else. I'm not afraid when the big scary man comes to knock on my door - I don't hide and pretend that I'm not home like my neighbors.



If someone says something rude and flip, I'll be flip right back. If they want to get in my face about it, then I'll react right back.

 

[Syaoransbear]

You can stand up for yourself without being offensive to the person. Attack their words, not them. You'll find yourself getting in less trouble, and you won't stoop to their level.

I believe that whenever someone does or says something that is hurtful to someone else, they need to be corrected for it by the rest of society. Ignoring it makes them think it's acceptable for them to do it and they are special because they alone can get away with it. It's like people who steal things for the sake of stealing things, they get a thrill over not getting in trouble for doing something unacceptable.

If we all stood up for ourselves, I think there would be far less people looking around for a cheap shot at someone. Most people are not looking for confrontation when they are rude to a perfect stranger, they are looking to get away with it.

 

[DJEtzel]

You can stand up for yourself without being offensive to the person. Attack their words, not them. You'll find yourself getting in less trouble, and you won't stoop to their level.

I believe that whenever someone does or says something that is hurtful to someone else, they need to be corrected for it by the rest of society. Ignoring it makes them think it's acceptable for them to do it and they are special because they alone can get away with it. It's like people who steal things for the sake of stealing things, they get a thrill over not getting in trouble for doing something unacceptable.

If we all stood up for ourselves, I think there would be far less people looking around for a cheap shot at someone. Most people are not looking for confrontation when they are rude to a perfect stranger, they are looking to get away with it.

I agree with this.

 

[Rerun]

The trouble with this is in some neighborhoods being perceived as "weak" is just as bad, as it also leaves you looking vulnerable. Sometimes you have to stick up for yourself, as well as take proper precaution with self defense. This is just what I've experienced.

Yes, but if you don't have the ability to back up your words, then you better hope the person stops at just words. Standing up for yourself is great, but be prepared to do it fully or don't do it at all.