I've had my dogs together for 5 months now and they do the exact same thing. You can tell they are obviously playing but when it gets too rough momma breaks it up! I give a firm *Hey* and they simmer down.
I do the same thing. Some play is normal and I want it. But if it's getting out of hand, they need to stop. Usually a 'hey' works for me too, or I get up the stand between, or I'll just take the puppy away from the situation and crate for a bit.I've had my dogs together for 5 months now and they do the exact same thing. You can tell they are obviously playing but when it gets too rough momma breaks it up! I give a firm *Hey* and they simmer down.
I could not have said it better myself!Some puppies will play non-stop, so that is normal. Older dogs will give pups a lot of latitude and let them rough house without correcting them. So if your older dog is enjoying the rough housing, I woudn't worry about it. If it gets annoying for you, don't hesitate to separate them for your own sanity and to help them calm down. If your older dog looks like he is annoyed and tired of the pup, don't let the pup harass him - though at 1 1/2 year old he is still such a pup, he probably loves having a playmate.
GSDs do play rough, scratches and nicks are common - if the pup is getting really crazy, I would step in and break it up and calm her down. You can teach her proper play by discouraging really crazy play. Though a certain amount of wild crazyness is normal - a lot of people would thing that my two are fighting when they play, there is so much growling and snarling and throat grabbing going on, but it is only noisy play.
I would continue to take them out seperately, they still need a lot of one-on-one time with people to bond to people. Especially with the pup - letting her play with your boy all the time can get her to bond to him more than to you, which will make future training very hard. I know you don't want to play favorites, and your boy was there first, but the puppy will need more opportunities to burn off energy and to spend fun time with people so she can bond to people over other dogs. It isn't favoritism, it is meeting the pup's needs and setting her up for future success and harmonious integration into your family. So for the first year at least, I would put in the extra time and extra work to get her socialized and trained - a lot of it apart from your older dog - before considering them more 'equal' time-wise. Instead of thinking of it as favoritism, you can think of it as temporary measures until she is more mature.
For now, I would limit their time together in the house also - use crate rotation, and baby-gates to give each dog their own space and time with the humans in the house.
I agree, it's important to have everyone on the same page, and for everything. What kind of manners and rules will you have? What kind of play is okay and at what point do you stop it? What commands you're going to use, so everyone is consistently using the same words for the same things, all of that stuff should be discussed and agreed upon so that the dogs don't get confused.To address the other part of your first post, you do need to get your husband in line too. Having two sets of rules in the house is a problem. You can't expect the dogs to know that one behavior is okay when Mom's out of the house, but not okay when she's home. It's confusing, and might even make your rules harder to enforce, because some of the time they can get away with it, and sometimes not. If you can try to explain to your husband that he is undermining your authority and making it twice as difficult to teach your dogs proper house manners, maybe he will understand why letting the dogs break the rules is a bad idea.