This is a tough situation. I have a similar problem with the Rhodie mix that we rescued after she was dropped out of a car infront of our home. I cannot let her out with my female shepherds as she has instigated a couple of fights with them and lost. I have to rotate outside time with the boys and I feel bad for her as she gives the girls kisses inside the house and wants so badly to be with them. She has just never understood her place within the female subpack and instead of submitting to her correction, reacts and the fight begins. I have been trying to find her a home where she is only with males or the only dog as she also has issues with other small animals and has killed a kitten that accidently went into the dog yard and wiped out a chicken coop once when she broke in. She was also supposed to be a foster but since she is a Rhodie with issues I have not been able to find her the right home and know she could not go to just any home.
I tell you this so you know you are not alone with your struggle. I wish I could tell you that there was a magic cure for your situation. All I can say is that in my heart I know that unless the perfect home is found for Kibby, she is far better here even though its more work, than her previous situation. Or even worse being in a shelter. You obviously love her, or you wouldn't be so worried about her, so she is already in a better situation than many.
Sorry no helpful advise here but just wanted to give some support.
I tell you this so you know you are not alone with your struggle. I wish I could tell you that there was a magic cure for your situation. All I can say is that in my heart I know that unless the perfect home is found for Kibby, she is far better here even though its more work, than her previous situation. Or even worse being in a shelter. You obviously love her, or you wouldn't be so worried about her, so she is already in a better situation than many.
Sorry no helpful advise here but just wanted to give some support.