Tim it really didn't feel like I was rushing anything. On your specific comments about what to expose her to I see the benefit. In my case the crossing walk activity Maple was comfortable with. She was not comfortable with all the cars but in the school zone they slow down and I felt she was handling it. She was relaxed enough to lay down, mill around not paying attention to the kids but looking for things in the grass etc. Only when the kid approached did it become a problem and I take full responsibility for how that went down. For me I live next to two schools (one middle one elementary (one block distance). Kids are walking to school, parents are walking their kids to school, middle school kids hang out in my front yard waiting for their parents to come get them. So for me early socialization in this area was important. Way more than the things you referenced above Up until the close hand over head contact all was fine.
Not trying to be critical, but I wonder why you feel so pressured to "train" this ity bity puppy. Slow down, stop overwhelming her, it's not helping her! It's a marathon not a race!
People talk alot about the "socialization window" ending, supposedly at 16 wks. In my experience that's a bunch of baloney!
When a puppy is young they are unafraid, because it hasn't yet dawned on them that there really are some scary things out there. After 16 wks or so they do, and it's not at all uncommon for a puppy to have what is known as a "fear period" at that point, because they are adjusting to their newfound reality. It usually passes in a week or two. But continuing to push them with "scary" encounters is not at all helpful until they do!
At 14 wks your puppy hasn't had his final round of vaccines, so taking him frequently to places frequented by other dogs is risky for his health, not to mention his peace of mind!
Snapping at kids, and you're still asking if you should take him down to the school crossing each morning? Wow! Listen to your puppy! It's too much too soon!
Socialization is exposure, not being petted by strangers or kids or other dogs for that matter, at least not taking it beyond what your puppy is comfortable with. Instead introduce her to new floor textures, elevators, stairs, walks in the woods, farm animals, bleachers, a ride in a wheelbarrow, motorcycles, bicycles, baby strollers, back packs...you get the idea. Just lots of stuff. But all the while, honor her feelings. If she's showing signs of being uncomfortable give her time, let her watch from a distance she seems comfortable. You'll make better progress if you do!
We have not been back to the school crossing but I have been letting her meet people (no kids at this point). We have had painters, carpenters, and counter people in our house for the last two weeks. I asked if they mind if she greats them and I'm upfront about what has happened in the past. I have told them when she comes in don't pay attention to her and just let her come in and sniff you and see if she licks you. If it goes that far then hand them a treat to hand her low and open hand. She has done well. The thing is adults have not been a problem for her. Kids in 2-3 feet proximity are. 10 feet no problem. Probably even 5 feet. So will need a plan to how to work it the best way for her and the kids. As for cars we are just staying off the main road. So still get cars in the neighborhood but not big loud trucks etc. Our walks have been good. Lucking she doesn't pull and stays by my side and if slows or speeds a very small tension and she comes back in line. With praise and treats when I feel it is best. Thing is I don't feel like I've had anything to do with that. I'm definitely a lot more relaxed then my dogs in the past but walking on leash I've just been shocked how she has handled it after the initial omg what is this thing around my neck while in the back yard and then some sessions back in forth in our yard. Even then I think I waited a decent time before I went out for walks to make sure she was comfortable with the leash and staying with me.
Well as everyone sees I can write for hours. All positive thoughts your way and thanks again for the comments good or bad.