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So I have had Sasha in training with this new dog trainer for 4 weeks now. She is making huge changes in her behavior as am I. Much of the training I already knew and have used in the past but I was getting very lazy. I have realized I am falling lazy since I can't get my husband in the routine lol not really blaming him (I picked him) but I can't get him to follow the instructions for behavior modification in Sasha.
When all four dogs are acting crazy, he reacts by being more obnoxious and I can't get him to just say the word No calmly..he has to talk loudly and angrily at the dogs or yell and push them out of the way. I know he is frustrated ( and frustrating at times). I am the only one who cares for the dogs... weekly bathing,weekly washing of crates and bedding, brushing...you know the drill.
so any suggestions to coax him to get with the program would be appreciated. The one dog he has, as his own, he neglects as far as training or social interaction away from me. I guess its my fault lol but any help would be great! Any way,thanks for letting me vent!
 

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convince him to go to ob classes with you. He may learn better ways to control the dogs
 

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So I have had Sasha in training with this new dog trainer for 4 weeks now. She is making huge changes in her behavior as am I. Much of the training I already knew and have used in the past but I was getting very lazy. I have realized I am falling lazy since I can't get my husband in the routine lol not really blaming him (I picked him) but I can't get him to follow the instructions for behavior modification in Sasha.
When all four dogs are acting crazy, he reacts by being more obnoxious and I can't get him to just say the word No calmly..he has to talk loudly and angrily at the dogs or yell and push them out of the way. I know he is frustrated ( and frustrating at times). I am the only one who cares for the dogs... weekly bathing,weekly washing of crates and bedding, brushing...you know the drill.
so any suggestions to coax him to get with the program would be appreciated. The one dog he has, as his own, he neglects as far as training or social interaction away from me. I guess its my fault lol but any help would be great! Any way,thanks for letting me vent!
if he's food motivated.......a T-bone steak and a cold beer.

if he's praise motivated.....tell him how very proud and lucky you are to have a hubby as great as him.

if he's treat motivated......well, this goes without saying...:D
 

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Tell him he isn't allowed to speak to the dogs unless he is willing to learn how to do so. Then when the dogs are misbehaving you step in before he can even become irritated and diffuse the situation right away.
 

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I would tell him, maybe he's the reason the dogs aren't behaving well. They can sense when you are frustrated. I've always been told to walk away when your frustrated. Take a breather and come back. When I do that, everything goes as smooth as a babies butt!
 

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@Zoey, that is what I have started doing but he gets mad at me then lol I should mention my husband has MS and his meds make him confused, so I try to be patient but it is important to me that the dogs stay on course.
@Razin ha ha I get u and I might need to do that!
@MissMolly I asked the trainer about that in the beginning and he was worried Sasha might be further confused since it was a prey drive-aggression thing everything was distracting her. He might be able to now!

I think my husband needs walks as bad as the dogs LOL but he never goes with us.
 

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Is there any way you can sit him down and have a heart to heart talk about what you want him to start doing? Just be honest and share your feelings, you really could use the help with the dogs, you've put in a ton of effort and as your partner in life he should do the same. You're really doing a lot of work, and his lack of contribution must be kind of hurtful to you, and if it is, let him know that. Marriage is a partnership, he needs to be open to cooperating with you on this and at least just implement what the trainer taught you instead of just being dismissive and kind of immature about the whole thing. He should have respect for what you're trying to do.

I hope you can get through to him because honestly if you don't, things will never be 100% with the dogs. They need to know that BOTH of you are serious.
 

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I think most of us with husbands could post a thread like this. :D

I love my husband like crazy and he's grown up with and knows a great deal about dogs, but sometimes he just drives me up the wall. I think there's some sort of male ADD going on where he simply cannot remember some things ... like that the command for sending the dog off the couch is OFF and not DOWN. Or that you don't leave your food on the living room table and then walk out of the room, expecting the dog to ignore the juicy steak. :D

But honestly, just explain to him what methods you are learning and how they work, and that he's not helping when he uses something different because it interferes with the consistency. Dogs need consistency from both of you, not just one of you, otherwise it's very confusing to THEM.
 

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Thanks! good to know I am not the only one. I have him pretty "trained" on the off not down but he seems to get flustered if the dogs don't respond to him right away then he loses all awareness of the words and actions to use for training. I talked to him about it, but mostly likely, I'll be having this conversation weekly. hahaha
 

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Unfortunately after 21 years there are still so many things I have not been able to train my husband to do (or not to do). Most things he gets, but when it comes to the dogs he hasn't "progressed". I haven't given up on him, I just need to find a way that he doesn't think its my obsession. Maybe I could start using a clicker with him.
 

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Just crate hubby in the garage. Give him some alone time, until he learns to listen.
 

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Ok, I will share my secret weapon. After nearly 30 years of being married to a guy with ADD (true) that wasn't too much of an animal lover - unless it was on his plate next to the mashed potatoes - this is what worked for me...

Forget about attempting to make hubby a trainer. It isn't going to work. He already thinks because he is a man he was born with a wealth of knowledge of all things in the world and there isn't anything you could possibly tell him that he doesn't already know. Any attempts to share your wisdom would be doubting his abilities to rule the world.

Therefore, you only point out the good things he does. "Oh, look at the way Fido looks at you! He just loves you! Wish he looked at me that way!" "See how the dogs run to you when you get home? They missed you so much!" Silly, nonsense things like that. Thinking that their dogs believe they are the axis of their world, start to pay attention to what makes their dogs tick.

Example: If my dog is chasing a cat, Hubby reacts like this; "HONDOGETYOURBUTTBACKHEREANDSITDOWN!DOYOUHEARME?GETOVERHERE!DANGDOG!" The chase continues, with no reaction from the dog.

Same scenerio - my reaction: "Leave it!" and the dog (although voicing his disaproval) will back off the cat. Might take another "Leave it" to get him to actually disengage from the cat and turn towards me.

Hubby, being all powerful and knowing, learns that one word or phrase actually works alot better and will begin to mimic what he sees works. And he does it because the dogs all feel he is their Savior and would most certainly pull him from any well should he fall in. I, on the other hand, am only their feed source, pooper scooper, and dog groomer.

This is a very dangerous tool and must be used with patience. Any guys reading this must not attempt to utilize this against thier wives.
 

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Example: If my dog is chasing a cat, Hubby reacts like this; "HONDOGETYOURBUTTBACKHEREANDSITDOWN!DOYOUHEARME?GETOVERHERE!DANGDOG!" The chase continues, with no reaction from the dog.

Same scenerio - my reaction: "Leave it!" and the dog (although voicing his disaproval) will back off the cat. Might take another "Leave it" to get him to actually disengage from the cat and turn towards me.
OMG! I can't stop laughing! Everytime my hubby uses commands in a paragraph like a story I mumble "bla bla bla bla bla bla bla".
The best is when he yells out thier name to stop an action "LAKOTA" in a mean voice (so much for positive association of her name) I say "Lakota what?"
He did go to maybe 2 puppy classes 8 years ago, and retained 1 positive action, if she steals something and he gets it back or does something he wants he says "Thank you"!
 

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@Lillie, that is so funny ! thanks!
@Kiya, thats what Brian does...he constantly yells at them by yelling their names instead of leave it or No, hahaha
 
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