Re: How do I teach myself not to be hyper sensitiv
Quote:Hyper sensitive in that if she barks at the dog park or on a walk that others will think she is vicious
Basically worried about every little thing
If you aren't getting joy out of your dog cause you are so worried about everything, you do need to take a breath and re-evaluate what's going on. The truth is if you are a nervous wreck when out with your dog and worried about everyone else, those feelings go right down that leash and may be making your dog behaviors worse.
First of all, you may want to widen your search for trainers and dog classes. I live in a fairly populated area in the NE and yet STILL have to drive over an hour to instructors I feel comfortable with.
Other thing you may want to do is really back off on training and go back to happy, positive training with teeny tiny victories before moving onto more challenging things.
DO YOU CLICKER TRAIN?????? This is a new thing you can learn (and the human stubborn resistance to learning is one of the main problems with clicker training. We all think it's the dog that needs to learn and change, heavens knows I'm too busy to learn something new that will help
) It's 100% and only rewards what you DO want to see from your dog. So even if you are learning, the dog doesn't 'suffer' cause it just means you are late with the treats/toys/whatever. Hey, if killer whales, sea lions, and elephants can be clicker trained, I'm thinking I can do it with a brilliant dog.
Also, is your dog toy motivated at all? Can you work to make it better? Neither my dog OR I can be stressed if we are playing a rousing game of tug. Happy happy fun fun with ME!
What you need to do is stop focusing on the problems with your dog and things she doesn't do well. And instead start teaching her new things (slowly and easily, baby steps!) that she CAN do and will succeed with! Use distance to get confidence.
tons of great info, start with the puppy stuff, attention, focus, etc.
AND have you purchased and watched the DVD/video Calming Signals by Turid Rugaas? This was a huge help for me in reading my dog EARLY when she's not comfortable (I was great and knowing there was a problem when she growled/barked/over reacted, but that was way too late to modify her behavior and prevent the situation. Me being able to manage the situation BEFORE my dogs are in mid-freakout is key).
Do not just buy the book cause it's cheaper. Either buy the DVD and book or just DVD. She does a great job with the DVD to SHOW what she's talking about with real dogs in real life situations. Many of the dogs are GSD's also, which makes it much easier to see all the subtle cues and behaviors she's trying to get we 'stupid humans' to see. It was so clear to me after viewing this that all the times I said my dog would 'suddenly' do something was not true. They were shooting out all kinds of signals all along, which I ignored, until they were in meltdown and THAT I could see!