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My gsd is 9months old and extremely friendly. Recently we moved to a bigger place, where we rented out other rooms. One of them has a staffy. The other guy, acts as if our dog is his.
Not only does he ignore my requests of not letting him jump, or letting the dogs play rough. He blatantly disrespects me by continuing to play with him when I call for my dog.
My dog loves him, because he gets to do all the things we don't let him do when with him. For example jumping, rough housing with him. Furthermore he never disciplines him, so my dog thinks the guys the best. He is clearly biased and has stated he wants my dogs unconditional love, despite there being two dogs - the staffy which he plays with less.
Due to this my dog has been quite fond of him, and it's getting to the point where I think it's too much. Not only does he teach my dog bad habits, but he's adjusting him to a different lifestyle and treatment that I won't maintain when he's gone, leaving my dog and I to struggle to adjust.
I'm also concerned that because my dog is still young he will think hes part of the pack and assign authority to him.

So my question is, is this a valid concern.
And how do I resolve this.
How do I get my dog to be less attached?
 

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Do you own the property? Did these tenants sign any sort of lease or rental agreement?

If you own it, I would set a clear boundary with this person. "Look, if you continue to do this you're gonna have to find a new place to live."

If they signed some sort of contract with you, hopefully there is a clause that allows you to cancel said contract and boot them.
 

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Yeah contract or no contract (though hopefully you DO have one!), I'd definitely be setting some ground rules with your tenant. Your concern about your dog is absolutely valid, and the dog, and you and your family, will definitely suffer from his inexcusable disregard for your stated wishes regarding your dog. Nip this in the bud now!
 

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Is it possible to cut off all contact with the dog and said tenant? Can you put your dog up in his crate or in a separate room whenever the tenant is out and about and not in his room? That is definitely not okay.

One of the reasons I never want another golden retriever is because of this exact issue. I lived in the basement with another family upstairs, and every time I took my dog up they would do that exact same thing. Get her to jump up on them, let her on the furniture, distract her when I was trying to call her, etc. No matter how many times I told them to knock it off, they ignored me, and in turn, so did my dog. I started only taking her upstairs when she had a leash on so there was no way for her to ignore me, then I moved out soon after. My dog was not their dog, and they were being extremely disrespectful to me. Unfortunately, my golden does this with anyone, even strangers. Yes, I have done extensive training and it is no longer an issue, but still. Never again. Definitely stop this with your dog.
 

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We do have a contract and I have spoken to him multiple times about it, but his reasoning is "sorry I can't help myself",
I'd put my dog in my room but it feels so unfair I have to lock my dog up in my oen house.
 

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If it were me, I'd find a legal way to break the contract. To be clear I'm a mean B and your tenant saying "he can't help it" is just childish disrespect IMHO. If it were me I would be making it very clear that is how I see it. Being the meany that I am I would also be firmly letting the tenant know that you allowed him to rent space with the understanding he was an adult and are expecting him to act like one. "My house. My rules" no excuses or move out.

I wonder if the tenants attitude would change if you asked him to pay the bill for private professional training sessions to undo the bad habits he is teaching your dog???:surprise:

Seriously, you need to find a way to limit contact between your dog and your tenant.
 

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If someone cannot respect the rules of your home - if this is your home and you are renting the rooms out - I would make it very clear that their behaviour is unacceptable and there will be consequences. "It's just who I am" is a poor excuse to self-indulge.
 

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Honestly, and this is easy for me to say since your situation is the very reason I’ve never had a roommate... he’d be looking for a new place to live. Call it rules, respect, whatever... you leave other people’s animals alone.

You’re right, it is unfair to have to lock your dog in your room of your own home. More reason to give him an ultimatum... tell him you can’t help yourself ;)
 

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Until this tenant moves on, if it was me, I'd have the dog on a hands free jogging leash whenever the tenant was around.
 

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the law might not allow the "booting" of the renter. I remember a family member running up against this with a roommate that wasn't working out. It may take awhile to go through the legalities of an eviction, so you will have to get the ball rolling soon if this is the route you need to take.

Or have the offending roommate go to training lessons as an observer. A pro might be able to sink a little sense into their head.
 

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We do have a contract and I have spoken to him multiple times about it, but his reasoning is "sorry I can't help myself",
I'd put my dog in my room but it feels so unfair I have to lock my dog up in my oen house.
Sounds like your tenant has no respect for you...as you said your "own house"-you make the rules--who knows what the next situation may be that gets you a"sorry I can't help myself"....IMO the quicker you get him out of your life (as local laws allow) the better off and happier you'll be
 

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Do you share a common living space? I assumed that the tenant wasn't around a lot or most of the day, so I figured for the good of the dog, he could be put in another room for a little bit. That is unfair in your home though, I understand. You could also have your dog on a leash until the tenant is gone or learns to stop.

I would try to set up a consequence system of, "You don't follow my rules? Pay for my dog's training. You don't follow my rules? Rent goes up. You don't follow my rules? Find a new place to live." That can be hard or impossible depending on your contract and laws though. Not being able to help himself is one of the worst excuses I have ever heard. He's telling you that he has no self control and is immature. That does not sound like someone I want renting from me!
 

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I’d worry about an inept owner with his own dog that is not trained. If he is that bad with your dog, how is he with his own? It opens up a whole possiblity of behaviors there too.
 

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I’d worry about an inept owner with his own dog that is not trained. If he is that bad with your dog, how is he with his own? It opens up a whole possiblity of behaviors there too.
That is actually very funny you mention thay because, when I bought up I would be getting another dog at the house meeting he said oh I'm getting one too.
We said you should've said something before moving in and he said I was stressed and forgot to.
He said it's unfair how I get to get another pet, but he doesn't that if he got a dog, he'd leave mine alone. That made me hesitate, but from every aspect he appears to make a bad owner. His philosophy is I'll let my dog do whatever it wants to do because that's love . I seriously doubt this guy understands what it's like to care for a large size dog, but he swears he'll be capable.
For now, I've told him if he obeys the house rules including respect thr authority of the dog I could consider it. So far he hasn't been able to, so I don't have to worry about it but it may pop up nin the future. For now we aren't kicking him out as my bf feels sorry for him and says hes got some life **** going on.
 
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