He is GORGEOUS!!
I just love him! Do you have any more pictures of him? He looks just stunning! Looks to me like you have a purebred GSD. I can't be sure, but lots of us have solid black shepherds that are purebred. I bet he really is such a sweetie, too!
To fix your problem: Take a deep breath here... Stop thinking of your dog as your baby. You can love him, snuggle him, etc-- but he MUST accept handling of ALL parts of him. He is a dog. Handling is and must be a part of his life-- for his safety
. It is not up to him what you will and will not touch, manipulate, handle on his body. Who's in charge in this relationship? Who is buying the kibble? .. and paying all his vet, toy, food, supplement bills? Lotsa loving, snuggling, kissing, and playing with our dogs.. but we cannot allow them to dictate what they want touched or not. For their safety
, they need to accept handling when they are well.. because when they are sick, this will then just be rutine to have ears treated, nails clipped, hotspots treated, etc.. it will then be all ho-hum and no big deal to the dog-- and easy for you to treat him, too.
We practice doing things to our dogs that they do not enjoy.. so that they can learn to relax
and have no fear or discomfort at all when being brushed, restrained, teeth brushed, nails clipped-- in time, this becomes a happy, calm
event for the dog. Restraint is something a dog can learn to accept. We show no sympathy when the dog struggles, we just continue doing what we are doing. No chit-chat or pleading. No big deal to have those claws clipped. Ho-hum. We keep sessions short and easy for the dog at first, so they have success after success at being restrained. Maybe we clip only 1 nail at a time. We are firm, fair, and very casual about it-- no babying, just ho-hum, matter of fact.. nothing to get worked up about. Clip-clip, nail is clipped and we're done for today! Gosh.. with such a firm, fair, confident leader-- what dog wouldn't relax in trust next time they need to be restrained?
If the problem is that he threatens you when you try to handle ears, hotspots, etc-- then professional help can guide you best, can support you in learning to be his leader. If the problem is simply that he doesn't like it and you stop because you do not wish to upset him, the solution is much easier: accept that he needs to accept things he is not thrilled with.. it is for his safety. Today it may be just an earmite infestation or a hotspot, but another time it may be something far more serious.
You can do this!
Do not worry. He will still love you if he must accept things he doesn't enjoy. Whining and squirming does not mean his heart is broken, it means that whining/squirming worked in the past, and he is intelligent enough to increase those things to control the situation.
Do not worry. Begin brushing him for just 2 minutes, or clipping only 1 nail at a time, or gently massage just one ear. Afterwards, no big praise party. A few gentle strokes and soft words of praise.. but no big deal. No hoopla. This is an event he can learn to feel c-a-l-m about.