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So good things and bad, my 1 year old boy is velco and everything to my wife and not me. (not complaining ;p) but here are some examples.

When I wake up at 5am, I let him out of his crate. I can't get him to go outside for the life of me because he goes to my wifes side of the bed and sits there staring at her. If she doesn't wake up, he'll lay down by her until she does.

When I come home from work, not much excitement. When she comes home, tons of excitement but I feel that this is due to the fact when I get home I just take him out and just say hi. I don't do the baby voice and go crazy over him.


The bad..he mouths her a lot and me barely at all. She sits down, he jumps on her. I sit down, he doesn't bother me.

Do you think its because I'm dominant or just more laid back? Does he still think shes a litermate? Looking after her or just velco clingy to her because thats what he loves?

I'm not complaining at all, just looking for views on what you guys think.
 

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Well I can relate
My husband was gone 24 hours he had an operation when I brought him home the dogs didn't even go up to him.
Brady is a mad man when I come home, he'll lay in bed with me giving me baby kisses until I get up.
When I am not arounf My DH says all the pooches do is sleep.
I say its because I am the fun one, give them treats and play with them all the time. Brady is mine and Missy is my husbands.
 

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My dogs were always that way with me. DDH, they loved him but just didn't get as excited to see him. Yes I walked with them more, played with them more, always fed them and always cooked dinner (lol, DDH was British).

I did notice when we were on vacation, my male was more affectionate with Bob. Maybe becuase when we were together, he walked the big boy and I walked the girl. Or, when we were on vacation, Bob was more likely to buy the big dog a sandwich. Look at how much that dog loved a sandwich...

 

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My 8 month old is totally much more attached to me than my hubby. Maybe because I do that baby voice you talk about, or cuz I spend sooo much time with him even though I work full time, or because I feed him every day, or because I tell him how much I love him every time I get?


Whatever the case, he will still go out potty w/ hubby if need to. As a matter of fact I have to travel on business twice a month and Charlie stays with hubby. Hubby says he gets all depressed, but survives and keeps eating normally, which is good.

GSDs as well as other breeds I think usually attach more to one leader of the pack. In this case I am no. 1, my hubby is no. 2 and Charlie of course is last. When we go for walks, in the golf course after hours, off leash, Charlie will stay right in the middle of both, and watch us BOTH at all times. He keeps an eye on his pack. I have also heard that they are more attached to the opposite sex. I could be totally wrong...but...whatever the case, I LOVE MY VELCRO CHARLIE.....
 

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My pup adores me more probably cause I am the one home w her 24/7 but somedays she leans to him. My minds tells me that she just want to be accepted by him and that is why sometimes she tries so hard. Not if that is the way it is or not.
 

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It's the same in our household. When my husband gets up in the morning, Heidi will stay in her crate or next to my side of the bed on the floor. She usually won't get up until I'm up. If he calls her to go outside, she will go to him though.

If he goes somewhere, she doesn't seem to mind. However, if I leave the house, she'll lay by the front window, waiting for me, and pine. When we go on hikes, if he gets out of her sight, no problem, but if I do, she'll start whining and carrying on.

When we first got her, she really wasn't too interested in him at all, and was kind of scared of him, in fact. I think she had some bad experiences with men in the past. She definitely prefers women, and I also work at home, so she and I are together a LOT.

These days, she's getting to like him more and I'm doing what I can by trying to get her more excited when he comes home. He's also taking her on walks more, feeding her, giving treats, working on training, etc.--and it does seem to be helping.
 

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Jesse seems to love both hubby and me equally (some days more him some days more me), I do all his feedings, taking care of him when he doesn't feel well, play with him, give him most of his walks, spend most time with him. Hubby plays with him and walks with me and Jesse when he is around. Jesse seems to want to be with both of us and if one leaves to go somewhere else in the house he has to follow doesn't matter which one. Settles down when we are both home and sitting and watching TV
 

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Originally Posted By: wrenny

The bad..he mouths her a lot and me barely at all. She sits down, he jumps on her. I sit down, he doesn't bother me.
These are normal ways that dogs play with each other. He just needs to learn how to play with people. If he mouths or jumps, play stops for the time being. He will learn that he cannot mouth or jump if he wants to play. Substituting a toy for a hand can also be effective. As for him being more velcro to your wife, they seemingly have a stronger bond for whatever reason but it's not to say that you can't also bond with him. Spend some more time with him and play or even do some obedience (extra special treats might help him listen to you too). He may not listen to you better than he does your wife, but you can start building a better relationship with him. Both of my girls love their dad but they still listen best to me, but they will listen to him too. Hope that helps.
 

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I don't think dogs jump on, mouth, or go nuts over people they see as the leader. My hypothesis is that he ses you as alpha and perhaps is a bit more respectful of your space.

I don't think they go nuts either when the alpha comes home (at least this is what I tell myself since I get no wiggles when I get home - my husband gets them all, including jumped on). I usually get a nice tail swish and a head butt but nothing compared to my husband who treats him like a littermate (they wrestle, etc.)
 

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Originally Posted By: wrenny I can't get him to go outside for the life of me because he goes to my wifes side of the bed and sits there staring at her. If she doesn't wake up, he'll lay down by her until she does.
Sean does the same exact thing, i.e. he sleeps by my side of the bed and will not go out or get up until I wake up. However, I was the one who took him to obedience training - DH and the girls watched from the side lines. I also give him his meds., brush him, feed him most of the time, etc. - you get the picture. But Sean does not mouth or jump on me. The only time he gets a little full of himself is when I get his toys to play. I think our dogs are pretty good judges of our personalities. Perhaps your gsd has bonded to your wife in a different way than he has bonded to you. As you said it's not necessarily bad but maybe just his personality.
 

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Apollo is definitely a mommys boy. he is stuck to me no matter where I am or what I am doing, unless DH is taking Rocky outside.

Rocky goes back and forth. I feed them. take them potty, play in the house. We both work on training but different things. DH teaches them the fun things, I teach the basics.

I am hoping once Apollo gets older he will be split between us like Rocky.

They both get excited no matter who comes home or how long they have been running around the house. They even get excited when my son comes home from work at night.
 

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Wrenny, I don't think your dog sees you as dominant or laid back.
You are kinda neutral, while your wife seems to be his best friend (it's a given, since she's probably more around).

My dogs don't care about my DH at all. They listen to him (after the second try or so, since they are not used to getting commands from him), but they are never around him (like follow him to the bathroom etc). He never really interacts with the dogs, never feds them, so they see him as neutral (he is more an accessory to the house). If I'm not home, my GSD goes up to my daughters room and is with her (even sleeps in her bed) , he doesn't care about DH at all.
 

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I agree with all you guys and I think its funny but heres the kicker...

I spend more time with the dog. =) Wife has to work 7pm-5pm. I work 5am-4pm but I go home from 9pm-noon daily to work at home and make sure he gets some excerise and attention.

We play and do all that stuff together, walks, etc. I think we read each other well and know we don't need to be velco with each other in order to bond as my wife and him do. Kinda like he knows how to act with each person.

100% content with me when we are just laying around or in different rooms but if it was the wife, he'd have to be with her every step of the way. It's a guy thing!

I just love how dogs in general have that natural instinct of how to act with each person(usually! :D)
 

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Originally Posted By: wrennyI just love how dogs in general have that natural instinct of how to act with each person(usually! :D)
I do too! Both of our dogs seem to take orders from my husband better than me. They listen to me, but it may take me saying something twice or they like to push the envelope a little further with me. I know they see him as the alpha in the house.

However, they follow me around all day long! My husband comes home from work in the morning, takes them out and feeds them. Right after they are done, they both run upstairs to say good morning to me. Then, they go back to sleep until I get up. If my husband is downstairs and I'm upstairs taking a bath, both of them are sitting outside the bathroom door.

I'm the one who does the training, gives them treats, baby talk to them and gives them hugs/kisses all day long. My husband plays rough with both of them which they love. If we are both in the room, Elmo only wants to play with daddy which is very cute.
 

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This reminds me of an article I read a while back, I did some digging and found it.

Scroll down to where it says "King of the Castle Syndrome"
http://k9deb.com/socialis.htm
 

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oops re-reading the article it doesn't exactly fit your situation, but it may give you some insight anyways.
 

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Although I'm the one who spends much more time with our dog and I'm the one who feeds her and loves her up, she is much more mellow when I come home compared to when my husband gets home. When he comes homes, she goes absolutely bonkers. She races back and forth and in between his legs and whines and works herself into a frenzy. And he is definitely the alpha at our house ... will not put up with any nonsense from her.

I think the difference in responses goes back to when she was a puppy, though. Whenever I would come home, she would get very excited, and I would cuddle her and calm her down. Now when I come home, she lays down and waits for me to come to her and love her up. When she was a puppy, my husband would get home from work and start calling her name and work up the excitement, and she still responds accordingly.

So I'm with Wrenny. Our dogs respond to us the way they do for a reason. We can learn a lot about ourselves from our dogs ...
 
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