To be honest I haven't yet seen more than a few dogs that will do Schutzhund the same way for more than one person. The Schutzhund aspect of the dog's life is typically controlled by one person, yes. Otherwise it is confusing and unfair to the dog. Schutzhund is not like basic obedience where once a dog knows sit pretty much anyone can say sit. There has to be a very strong bong, a working relationship, a mutual respect between dog and handler. You just can't get that at the same level with two or more people and I don't see how that would come as any surprise. It's like having champion pairs ice skaters being expected to perform at the same caliber regardless of who they are paired with on any given day. No way.
I'm not one of those that let's a "Schutzhund dog" get away with everything just because. I do have high expectations for my dogs as far as manners and that includes ALL my dogs, maybe my SchH dogs are held to an even higher standard because they've had more training and impulse control overall. The difference is that when the dog is young it's more about controlling the environment and setting the dog up for success than correction the dog and squashing the drive. My SchH dog was never allowed to get mouthy on me or treat me like a doormat. He is not allowed to jump on house guests or bite at their clothes for fun. If he had exhibited these behaviors as a puppy, my solution would be exercise him hard before guests come over and then give him a big reward bone in his crate rather than allow him to jump on people or yell at him for doing it. If he mouths at me, I redirect him to a toy and play a game rather than slap his face.
I agree with most of this. My DH and I split our dogs...does that mean that they are absolutely uncontrollable for me if I wanted to take one of his for a walk in the neighborhood?? No. However I will not use his formal commands except in dire emergency
I will use their house words instead. I do not ask his dogs to sit or down because I don't need to. They know come, and walk, and off, and crate, and that pretty covers everything I need for us to get along. The reason for this is that for several months (like 8), my puppy does no obedience without reward. And the way I want my dog to do formal commands is specific. In the beginning obedience should be done in drive, so that pretty happy obedience becomes a habit. You want to avoid that average pet training you see with the owner telling the dog to SIT, SIT, SIT...and finally the dog sits. Formal obedience should be FAST and you have to set it up so that your dog learns to want to be fast and correct.
As you train you learn that your dog does not listen to words alone. It responds to body language, tone, environment, and a dozen other cues that you don't even know you give. 2 people do not give the same cues so it's difficult on a beginning dog to work with more than 1 person. Once the dog is older, it can generally transfer much better. Our older dogs would go off with anyone with a treat or a ball and work. As pretty as they do for their handler? No. But still good.
I also do not think SchH dogs need to get away with murder. I have boundaries...but I make sure that my boundaries are NOT counterproductive to what I want from my dog. I want my dog to make body contact with people and not be afraid to plow into them...So I can expect to be jumped on and pushed around a little by my puppy. When he gets older and knows Sit...well then I can ask him to do that instead...but I never want him to have the idea in his head that making physical contact with people is bad. Likewise for the mouthing. Using his mouth with a full hard grip is an admirable quality in a SchH pup. He cannot have a negative association with using his mouth, but I have to channel it to toys. This is a process that takes time. In the meantime I will bleed. This also applies to leash manners. My dog needs to know that it is OK to pull against a collar or a harness because he's going to have to do it in bite work. Can I start teaching him leash manners right away?? Sure. By rewarding him next to me. But what I cannot do is start popping him on the collar to get him to stay with me or using aversive that "stop the pulling". Also don't want to inhibit the dog's instinct to chase. He wants to run down the kids, the cat, the other small dog?? Teach the kids to not run. Manage the situation so that he's never able to give chase, or wait to introduce those situations into his world once he's older and has the self control and obedience to understand that this is not the time or place.
So while I agree that some boundaries are necessary, I think you can see that the initial training of a SchH prospect (at least for me) is not really about livability- all that comes later.
To my mind SchH puppies are terrible house pets. But SchH dogs are the absolute BEST.
It's just getting there.