At myself, my DH, and the living situation at the moment. My apologies that I spew it all over the forum, but I’m a massive introvert, and don’t really have friends.
So Crios (our Husky) swims A LOT in the summer, and always ends up with ear infections. We can’t keep him out of the water. Noticed he started head shaking, so DH took him to the vet for another round of meds. I haven’t been doing a whole lot with Crios lately because of Seiran and Lyka, not to mention the weather only allows me to run him on agility at night, so I haven’t noticed anything abnormal during those agility runs.
I’ve mentioned earlier that my DH’s best friend moved in with us because his house sold before the one being built was finished, and he got a pup from the same litter we did. So it’s him and his 18yr old daughter, and the pup he got. They literally do nothing with him. Ever. They watch while I’m cleaning up poop outside and never offer to help, when a lot of it is from their pup. My two poop once a day. Pups poop way more than that. So I do all the poop cleanup, and clean up everything that has been chewed up Inside. They stopped kenneling him, and letting him be with the big dogs 24/7. I’ve voiced concern multiple times to my DH about this, and he’s been saying he will talk to his friend about it.
One of my major concerns was the pup getting into the pool and drowning. Well, he did get in the pool, and couldn’t find his way out. He managed to get on the ledge, but couldn’t get from the ledge to get out of the pool. Our master bedroom is upstairs. I sleep with a fan on high blowing right in my face, a window unit blowing full force, and a pillow over my head so just my noise and mouth are peeking out. You literally can’t hear anything in my room once you shut the door, except the fans. And I sleep like the dead. The only things that wake me are the dogs, and my kids. Just that instinctual wake up if something’s wrong with them.
His friends daughter is upstairs as well. No fan, nothing, and is constantly complaining that my kids are too loud, that she can hear them from her room when they are downstairs, and she is trying to sleep.
The friend is in the one downstairs master bedroom. 3 of his walls face the backyard. He is a very light sleeper, so we are constantly telling everyone to be quiet when he goes to sleep. So the two of them somehow didn’t hear the constant nonstop yipping and crying coming from outside, but it woke me from a dead sleep? Come on! There is no way they didn’t hear him. So I go out back, pull him out of the pool, come back inside, and the friend is looking around confused asking why I was holding his dog. Um, to save his life maybe?!?!? Told him what happened, and he said “well we know where he learned that from,” in a crappy sarcastic tone.
He literally blames everything on Crios and even when we catch his pup doing something, it’s still Crios’s fault for “teaching” their puppy bad things.
Yes, Crios has a destructive side when he isn’t exercised enough, but his MO is to find stuff inside, and drag it out back and destroy it there. Now all of a sudden, we are finding big tree branches, small branches from bushes, towels that were hanging to dry, pool noodles, and a pool float INSIDE the house. Crios is smart enough to not chew anything inside the house, he thinks he’s hiding it by dragging it outside. The only thing he has chewed up inside is the couches, and he obviously couldn’t get those outside, and that was over a year ago! The only thing he chews now is any bird he’s able to catch and any dish someone doesn’t put in the sink and gets left in the family room with the dogs.
Anyway, Crios is always blamed. After the pool incident I told DH to let him know his dog needs to be kenneled if they aren’t home. He said he did. Today the pup crapped in the house 3 times. We have a doggie door, he had access to go outside. So I tell DH to tell him again his pup needs to be kenneled (they weren’t home). So DH has the freaking nerve to tell me I should tell the friend, because it’s awkward for him because they are best friends.What?!?!
So I tell his friend. Made it clear that if they wanted to keep the pup, he needs to be kenneled if they are gone, or he can’t be supervised. He said okay.
So I just went to put the first round of drops into Crios’s ears. Been there, done that with him so many times before that as soon as he sees the bottle, he lays down on the floor so I can put them in. DH doesn’t help with anything medical wise because he has a weak stomach 🙄. As soon as Crios laid down, I noticed puncture wounds on his lower lip. I call DH over, and he said the vet told him he had bites in his ears, and under his muzzle from... Yep, razor sharp puppy teeth. So the friends dog is biting the crap out of Crios. I’ve added some pics below. They look darker in the picture, but they are bright red. And just a ton of tiny little punctures.
So I look into the family room, and the pup is laying there chewing on a shoe. The friend is asleep, and his daughter is out in the pool. I got PISSED. I banged on the friends door, and just screamed in his face to “kennel your dog now, I’m beyond sick of this.”
Needless to say I didn’t handle the situation well at all, and I am a crap owner that didn’t notice my own dogs injuries because I haven’t been giving him much attention while focusing on Seiran and Lyka.
I want to punch my DH in the throat because he has no fortitude to say anything to his friend, and leaves me to be the bad guy. He just stood there with a stupid look on his face while I was screaming at his friend like he was confused. He’s been complaining to me that his friend is never home and does nothing with his pup, but when it comes down to it, he won’t even back me up when his friends pup is jacking up his dog.
And I know, I KNOW that stupid pup is gonna manage to bite a sore spot on Crios, and he will attack the pup in defense. And it will be “our fault.”
Seiran has never had a second of unsupervised interaction with the big dogs. Even before the jaw injury. And I told DH over and over again that I wasn’t comfortable having the friends pup with them 24/7. We all know the dangers of that. And even with Seiran separated from the other dogs until she heals, anytime I can’t have her in my line of sight, she’s kenneled. We have one upstairs, and one downstairs, so if I’m cleaning, or doing laundry, or cooking, she goes in her kennel. She has zero issues with it. I tell her “in” and she happily loops over to her kennel and lays down, perfectly content until I let her out again. There is no reason why they can’t do the same!!!!
Sorry again, I’m just so mad. Mostly at myself, riddled with guilt that I didn’t catch this earlier. If you managed to read this far, I congratulate you for sticking through to the end, I know rants are easy to overlook, no one wants to hear other people’s drama.
I’m seriously considering taking my dogs, my kids, and telling DH to call me when he grows some and the friend and pup are gone.
Last edited by dogma13; 06-19-2019 at 08:47 AM.
Reason: Pseudo swearing