It is really about obedience. Reliable obedience takes a lot of repetition, knowing how to correctly reinforce and correct, good timing and you have to put the work in. The idea of having all the family being the pack leader is not a great one. She needs a primary trainer and that should be you or your husband. The obedience doesn't have to be complicated. You can focus on sit, down and out (let go.) If you train correctly, the dog should immediately out and then either sit or down, which is incompatible with jumping and tugging at your child and her clothes. You also need to have a release command to let the dog know when she can stop the behavior, such as "free." What motivates your dog? Your options are essentially food, a toy (prey drive) and/or compulsion/corrections. Training Ideally uses all of these stimuli to motivate a dog. For food to be of value, it has to be something the dog likes and the dog has to be hungry. For a toy, the dog has to have prey drive and you have to learn how to use a tug or ball on a string to stimulate prey. Rewarding at the correct time is crucial. You reinforce a behavior immediately after it occurs in the beginning and you reinforce it frequently. You can continuously reinforce a behavior with food but not with a toy because with a toy, you have to interrupt the behavior to pay the dog with the toy. It is not rocket science, but it does require a certain knowledge and skill base and is something you can learn to do better and better with good information. You also have to set up situations to proof or test the reliability of your dog's obedience and have a way to correct the dog if she is disobedient. But a fair handler lays the foundation of teaching the dog certain behaviors through many repetitions before correcting the dog because otherwise you are correcting a dog that doesn't understand what you are asking or expecting of her. To proof an out, sit or down with your dog around your child, you would first, have to have done a lot of outs, sits and downs without distractions, then gradually add distractions and then increase the level of distractions. When it is time to proof the obedience, the dog should have a correctly fitted prong collar and be on a long line so that you can give an effective correction. So you need to learn how to size, put on and use a prong collar correctly. That is another skill set. Training is a lot of work.