- Good point you make. I explained somewhat of what the fights look like in another post, but basically, this looks different than their usual play fighting. They have play-fought a lot in their 6 months together, so I feel like I probably know the difference, though I wouldnít fool myself into thinking that quite yet LOL.
Basically, they snarl and growl and bark very loud. They have stiff bodies and are flailing about with teeth bared and paws occasionally hitting each other. They never put teeth on each other, and so far the paws to just touch occasionally, but no blood is drawn. It takes them a little while to calm down afterward. This is what the two fights have looked like since the surgery. But I'm happy to report there have been no fights the past two days
I will try to find ways to keep them separated during the day and away from the other 5 dogs when Iím not there so nothing terrible happens.
dyís Mom -
So, he would be willing for one of your dogs to seriously injure or kill the other before he would consider re-homing one of them??? I'm guessing that he wouldn't actually, it sounds he's just dismissing that as a possibility.
Youíre correct, heís dismissing it as a possibility. I was harsh when I put it that way. I agree he needs to take it seriously. We had a long talk a couple of nights ago and I explained my fears and he listened much better. I think heís coming around
And since they want to bring up children, have any of them considered the danger kids would be in living with dogs that already have a fight history?
Great point here. I havenít considered giving them that argument. We want children but if I'm every afraid our dogs will fight or hurt our child, I'm definitely putting my foot down. I really don't think it'll come to that. Husband is coming around a little at a time.
Itís an odd family, my in-laws. And as bad as it sounds, they would die for their pets before dying for another human being, be it their spouse, children, etc. I know, I know. It sounds terrible, but that is just the culture and mindset Iím living around. They humanize the pets very much. Itís hard to reasonably talk to people like that. Iím trying though. I think my husband, at least, is coming around.
You may not be able to break up or prevent a fight, even if you are paying 100% attention.
Good information. I guess I thought it could be prevented. Iím glad to know that the pressureís off in that sense, but itís even more important to separate as much as possible to prevent it. I know that now. Thank you for that info.
- Thank you for that post. He isnít reading the posts (not a big forum guy) but Iím relaying as much info as I can. We did have a very good talk a couple of nights ago and I also vented my frustrations to friends and family, which helped a lot. Hubbyís coming around. His mother offered to take care of one or both if we feel like itís too much for us in our situation, so we have options. And I truly hope the dogs arenít living under stress. I feel like Iíve given them a very good life so far. I exercise them multiple times a day, Iím training them, Iím giving them new experiences as often as I can. My hands are a little tied given our living situation, but I really think theyíre coping well. The surgery has just thrown us all for a loop. They canít exercise and their hormones are out of whack, so I think everything just seems more amplified than usual.
I hope to find better ways of separating them during the weekdays when weíre here. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!