- Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry what you went through. What a great point to pose to my husband. Thank you for your "blessing" of re-homing. I mean that sincerely. I want to do what's best. And you're right, they aren't going to be happy being in cages and cooped up all the time. They haven't been like that to this point, so I really didn't want to start. I am definitely NOT well set up for a crate and rotate routine. I do want them to be safe. It's sad thinking I've put them in a situation where they might not be. Thank you for your input!
- It sounds like you are a very sweet person. Thank you for your encouragement! I do probably need some "mom" input right now
When we got these puppies at 8 weeks old, I didn't know what I was in for, and I did "shut down" several times during those first two months, where I would just cry, go to the bedroom, and shut the door and not come out because everything was so stressful. The accidents, the energy, the training. It was too much to handle at the time. Hubby handled the two pups during these moments, but it is that reaction that he saw in me that made him think I couldn't handle children, and when it got tough, I would just shut down. I understood that I reacted very immaturely and that I was very stressed at the moment and just couldn't handle it, but I was trying to tell him that I understood human child behavior much better than puppy behavior (I am a teacher, after all). So I would think that I could handle a child much more effectively than puppies. Regardless, I have stepped up with this life change that was happened to us without giving up. He remembers the instances where I "shut down," and I still do, occasionally, because I'm so stressed and frustrated, and I know he's always thinking of that when I give the "re-home" option. He thinks it's my way of giving up and shutting down.
Anyway, I say all that to say that that is the reason he takes the position he does. I feel like we have always had good communication and it has always been a two-way street with us. We have made a good team thus far. We're just at an impasse with this.
Sorry, thanks for letting me vent and explain that. You are so sweet to encourage me! Keep giving me "forum hugs" LOL. I need them
So then you do want to separate them when you are home as that is when they are getting into fights. It also would give you some down time to get things done and to relax before going to work.
- Thanks for the verification. It's scary to think it could get worse. I'm taking all this advice to heart. I want them to be safe.
Also, thank you for sharing your personal story. I've heard a couple of those stories where even human children have been "re-homed" because it is what's best for them. It's apparently hard for my husband, and even me, to know when re-homing is the best option. If we keep these puppies, would we have given them the best life they could have? If we re-home them, would we regret it and would our relationship with each other suffer? I know these are questions for counselors and therapists, but it's therapeutic to put it out there. And thank you for the encouragement. I don't like being guilt-tripped either and it makes me angry.
I actually really like the journey this thread has gone through. This has been therapeutic this evening
It's helping me put things in perspective.