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post #1 of 22 (permalink) Old 05-13-2018, 10:00 PM Thread Starter
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How do you cope?

We just lost our GSD to bloat/twisted stomach while we were st Disney last week. The boarding place recognized the symptoms immediately and rushed her to the ER but it was already too late. She was only 7.5 years old. We didn’t even get to say goodbye (but my husbands parents were there with her at least).

It’s been 4 days and I’m still a mess. I know it’s a process but what do you do to cope? We will definitely get another GSD but I’m waiting a bit. I’m just so devastated without her. I’m stuck in the “were there signs I missed” mode. She always had a sensitive belly even when she was a pup. This just sucks 😞
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post #2 of 22 (permalink) Old 05-13-2018, 10:09 PM Thread Starter
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I just have to share a few more of my special girl. She loves her humans (a 7 and a 2 year old) like her own.
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post #3 of 22 (permalink) Old 05-13-2018, 10:13 PM
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I am so very sorry. I lost my puppy one year ago tomorrow. It was on Mother's Day last year, and it was so awful.

To help myself feel better, I went to the farm where his ashes were spread and saw that they had planted some new trees there. I felt a bit better, like his body was helping something new grow. I also have gone back and looked at all the pictures I had of him (all 758 in the five months I had him). I allowed myself to laugh at the memories and smile at how cute he was. He was so sweet, and he loved children. Talking with others about him made me feel better.

It sucks to lose a family pet, especially a German shepherd. They just love so much, and we love them. Again, I am very sorry. Try not to think about what you have lost and instead think about what a gift you have. Those memories will be with you forever. It is such a blessing to have them in our lives for even a day, and she knew how much she was loved. Please be kind to yourself and don't second-guess. It was not your fault.

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post #4 of 22 (permalink) Old 05-13-2018, 10:13 PM
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You grieve for as long as it takes. I lost a dog to bloat, but the vet said even if it had happened in their office, it was a type they could not have fixed.
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post #5 of 22 (permalink) Old 05-13-2018, 10:16 PM
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I'm so sorry about your girl. That is such a hard way to lose her, but your parents were there. It isn't ever any easier when they leave us. She was such a beautiful girl.
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So sorry for your loss.

If you need equipment to maintain control of your dog, understand you’re hanging on to your dog’s body because you’ve lost his mind!

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post #7 of 22 (permalink) Old 05-13-2018, 10:19 PM
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I am so sorry for this loss to your family. I can imagine that not being there is making it harder on you, but it certainly sounds like you had her in excellent hands. Take care.

"If there ever comes a day when we can't be together,keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever." A.A. Milne


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post #8 of 22 (permalink) Old 05-13-2018, 10:21 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

How did I cope when Maverick died and we had no other dog - nor do we have any children? The house was awfully quiet. We coped slowly day by day, week by week and month by month.

Time heals all wounds - some wounds just take longer than others to heal.

I still miss Maverick. He was a great dog.

It sounds like your girl was a great dog too.

Prayers for you and your family.
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post #9 of 22 (permalink) Old 05-13-2018, 10:48 PM
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My deepest sympathy for your loss. What a beautiful girl, I wish I had words to help the hurt and grief for you and your family. You have your children's grief and loss to navigate too.

Here's a site about 'top 10 : Best coping with loss of pets books for kids'.
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post #10 of 22 (permalink) Old 05-13-2018, 11:12 PM
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I lost my last dog to antifreeze poisoning in one day. The second I noticed her acting weird, I called the emergency vet and took her in immediately, but she couldn't be saved...she was 12.

I went almost 20 yrs without a dog after that...and I now regret that. But my dog was so prefect, I didn't want to unfairly judge new dogs/puppies by that standard...anyway...

Just grieve, then move on when you can. Sorry for your loss...

I talked to one owner this week who said they're doing elective surgery to pin the stomach in place so as to avoid your scenario. They had also lost a dog previously from the stomach twist thing..

It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog. Mark Twain


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