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post #1 of 25 (permalink) Old 06-27-2013, 12:33 AM Thread Starter
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Having a hard time coping

Not exactly german Shepherd related - I lost my dad exactly two weeks ago, right before fathers day. Extremely sudden and unexpected, heart attack in the middle of the night. We still lived together and were really close. Ive been having a really hard time adjusting, this is my first time really experiencing a close death. Then I find out tonight that my husky just died.

Let me explain that relationship - I lived with an ex for almost 4 years, we both bought puppies at the same time. His Hannibal was 6 days older than my Zeke, they grew up together, I raised and trained them both. We had a very nasty break up, I was suppose to be given Hannibal but he lied to me and said he sold him. All he really did was keep him locked in the backyard. And all I know now was he was only 6 years old, May 19 2007, and he died tonight. I cant help but judge and assume that whatever happened, if I had him it WOULDNT of happened

Ive just kind of lost it. I dont know how to handle, how to cope, how to comprehend. Why all this bad stuff is happening to me?

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I am so sorry for the loss of your father. It's a pain that does not go away, but it does lessen in time. Cheap words, I know, but I am 25 years post losing my dad and I still think of him daily. Know that he is still with you in spirit. When you think of him out if the blue, it's him, letting you know he is still with you.

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I am so sorry. My father died suddenly, he was gone in 3 seconds, just had dinner and sat down to watch TV. It is hard to cope with it. And another loss, it is not fair. Hang in there and spend some quality time with your pup and the people you do have.
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post #4 of 25 (permalink) Old 06-27-2013, 08:23 AM
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So sorry for your loss

I lost my Father when he was only 46. I wish I could say somthing that would make the pain go away, but it has been 28 years for me and I still miss him like crazy.
Keep trying. Keep taking the next step. Keep going to work. Keep looking fo joy. Keep remembering the good times. It is difficult on many days and down right almost impossible on others, but keep trying.

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That is a lot of bricks the falling on you in such a short time. I am so very sorry. The only thing I can think of is that Hannibal went to be with your dad.
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There are no words to lessen your grief...gsdsar said it best....please try to find comfort in your place of peace and keep your memories and love alive..I am very sorry for your losses...jan

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I am sorry for your loss of your father My dad died in 2000 from congestive heart failure. It was very tough and I think about him every day. Prayers to your family...

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Honestly, I find talking helps as I'm prone to bottling bad emotions inside.

I talk to both my animals and human family and friends, that helps me personally. But if it got really bad I would seek professional help, sometimes having a completely unbiased sounding board helps the most.

You can check quietly to see if your workplace covers it, I know mine does and it's completely confidential. Noone from the company actually knows who is using the service, they just know it's being utilized. I like that fact it's there if needed and I wouldn't have to worry about other people knowing about personal things like that, even HR or head office

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I am so sorry for the loss of your Father. I can't imagine it right now. The love and memories you have is something you'll never loose. He'll always be with you. Find peace in that. Loosing a pet is just as hard as well. You will learn to cope with both. Keep your friends and family close to talk with. That helps alot.
I lost my beloved GSD 6 years ago and he was only 9 and just had to put my cat down in February. I just now was able to get another GSD pup at the end of April and OH BOY am I glad I did. THe love is amazing for sure. Pets will do that everytime

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I am so sorry for your losses. I can't imagine the heartache you must be feeling, and I'm sure I don't have the words to cure it. I can offer only my support and condolences. You are in my prayers.

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