So if I wear a short skirt and it's tempting to somebody? That's my fault?
You said the victim was "inviting a disaster". That in itself, places some of the blame of the crime on the victim.
Yes I took it that extra step. Took where most people don't like to go.
Do I believe there are things we can do to protect ourselves. Sure do. I practice them a lot. But if I forget to lock to my door, and some creep criminal breaks in, I refuse to accept blame for another's actions. And I refuse to allow someone to tell me I am partially to blame for a criminals actions.
definitely not the owner's fault (which i won't capitalize again, cause that point has already been made multiple times), but a hard and painful lesson to learn about "what is" -vs- what "should be" What you should have to do -vs- what you might want to do to prevent pain and loss are two very different things.
Any police officer will tell you that prevention is the name of the game.
WYoung, I'm curious...when your purse was stolen did you feel your roommate was responsible for being negligent? I'm not asking if you "blamed" your roommate. But did you feel they were responsible in any way for creating the situation which allowed the theft to take place? Like, you left the garage locked and they were careless and left the door open?
Totally agree with you on the prevention thing. I think people just tend to continue to blame (not you) a victim for not doing A, B, C and D after the fact. The way I see it, it's a lesson learned for the victim in prevention, of any crime, but from that point forward, no more should be focused on what could have been done to prevent the crime.. does that makes sense?
I am all for seeing holes in where things could have been tightened or done differently, especially when nothing has occured yet. In this instance "Hey, jane doe, I see you leave your dog out a lot, I think you should consider that people may steal her and keep her safe inside." vs the latter, where people jump on this "well, that's why you shouldn't leave them out there," after the event occured.
As for my purse, after about a day when I was thinking about everything.. I was a little peeved that she did it because I had told her to make sure she shut it when she left.. but knowing she was a VERY forgetful person, I actually didn't "blame" her really. To be honest, I was pissed that I left my dang purse in an unlocked car. Used to do it a lot because the garage was always locked.. and that was the response I got from everyone "well shouldn't have done that!" Only the cops and a few family members went "man that stinks. Lesson learned, what a jerk for doing that" or something to that extent. I was wouldn't say I blamed anyone other than the person that did it, but I definitely know that I could have helped in prevented the purse stealing by simply bringing in my purse. That being said... coming to my house into my garage was diliberate. I had a very long drive way and you had to be intentional to decide to go up it... you didn't just happen to see a car and go "oh let's see if it's open since I'm already taking Fifi for a walk." So there's that too. I also am a little perturbed that I didn't listen to Titan. He tried to wake me up, and I told him to lay down. He NEVER tries to wake me up.. he did as told and I KNOW he heard something. Not that it would have done me much good. I would have been blindsided by someone robbing my car.