, Hi there! You bring up some good points. This puppy might know more about psychology than I do lol! Thank you for taking the time to provide such great information and advice.
For the whining and barking for attention I agree. I ignored her (both positively and negatively) her first few nights here. She got it and settled down. Iím not a total softie, just fooled by how smart my puppy is lol! Here is where it can be confusing to me. Out in the yard the whining is usually because she wants to play with a cat and not walk. We keep walking, she shows out I stand still until she calms down. I feel like I am getting some of this nipped or under control. But, this morning for example, We ate breakfast and went and pottied outside, played for a bit, pottied again, into the crate for a nap. We didnít want to nap and started whining and yapping. Ignored her. When it continued (since she normally hasnít been whining in her crate) I thought maybe she needed to go outside, so out we went. She seemed to only want to play with the cat. Once I realized she wasnít going I brought her in and put her back in the crate. Immediately started whining, tried going outside again, still no interest. Same game again. Once in the crate she started whining again (we are really having a rough day) so I ignored her. Completely and fully ignored her. I decided that when she calmed down we would have some play time. My reward was her pottying in the crate. So now Iím caught between ignoring the whines or giving her attention by her understanding she wins and gets to go outside. I see you posted a schedule I will add that in and see if that helps.
You really hit the nail on the head with the soothing. I didnít realize that a puppy would act scared to get attention. As a matter of fact I am over the top soothing when she acts scared of something so she feels reassured and safe. This little girl has been playing me!
When I take her out it is on a leash and I walk her. When I feed her, I do it outside and let her play for a bit not 100% supervised all the time. I see her potty in the yard and see the evidence on the deck (she goes to both). Before I bring her back in we put on the leash and go for a walk. I do not set her in the yard but have been walking with her to the yard. Is that maybe why she potties on the deck? She doesnít really understand where to go? I had someone tell me the other day to just let her spend more time outside and she will figure it out. I will definitely start picking her up and setting her down in the yard.
When she has an accident in her crate, I do 2 things. If I see her potty I stop her (clap and NO) and take her outside. Where we want to play as we have already pottied. Iím not sure if she has made the connection of me saying this is where it should have happened. I then change her bedding. If I donít see her do it then I change her bedding and she does get to go outside before I put her back in. To be honest, I use fleece blankets and sometimes have no idea that she has gone in her crate. I think she has done good until I open the crate and feel them or check underneath. They are very absorbent and appear dry. She might equate soiling her crate with outside time but it probably backfires more than it works. I am changing her bedding 3-4 times per day. I thought I was taking her out too much but clearly need to keep taking her out. We will start as soon as she wakes up. I did add a puppy pad in her crate so I could tell better when she goes. I am sure this isnít advisable by most, but she was already going in the crate so I donít think itís encouraging her???? She is not the first dog I have crate trained but she is the most challenging. One thing I learned is they are all different and different methods work on different dogs. I know itís my fault I canít figure this out. And thatís what worries me. It continues as I canít figure it out. I will start watching for a reason why she may be doing it whether play time or attention. Glad Iím not the only one who has struggled with this. I havenít thought there might be another reason she does it. Definitely food for thought.
For your potty schedule, what do you do at night? Or during the day when you work? Any schedule I do wonít be the same when I work.
I always try and show a crate is a safe haven and not punishment and other dogs I have had always loved theirs. I absolutely agree that the crate should not be used for punishment. I need to back up though. When she does something particularly destructive and I scold her, and being stubborn she does it again, the next stop is the crate (seriously she is eating through door frames, cabinets, you name it). I put her in the crate to stop the destruction as well as calm her down. She might see that as punishment since it comes after being scolded. Should I try giving her a toy first?? Should she get treats going into the crate in that situation? Iím going to pick up some bitter apple spray today and see if that helps.
Again, thanks so much for the help. I know my posts are ridiculously long, but I am desperate and so scared of messing this up, or rather continuing to mess it up. She wants to be a good dog and I want a lifelong best friend. I am open to any and all suggestions. I know some of what I am doing is going to get me scolded at, but I would rather say exactly the good, bad, and ugly and get real advice than sugar coat it and not get anywhere.