Zoe is 18 months old, so right in the middle of her teen years. And I've got to admit, she reminds me a bit of me and my mother when I was a teen. She is totally a daddy's girl, and will do anything my husband says. With me, its more like 50-70%. If my husband is around and I give a command, Zoe sometimes will look to him as if for "permission." If he is not around, we sometimes get locked into a battle of will. For example, on our walk last night (just Zoe and me), we got to the end of the block and their was a neighbor coming out to a car. I told her to sit, she just stood there. I moved so I was in front of her face, and she looked away. She was doing everything she could to *not* acknowledge my presence. When she is not in a headstrong mood, then I am the bees knees and she does everything I say.
My thinking is that she sees my husband as the alpha (too bad she doesn't understand human dynamics
), and she is battling me for second. Sometimes she wins, and sometimes I win. I know I need to win 100% of the time, but I'm struggling and I admit I get discouraged and frustrated.
I didn't totally realize how bad this was until we signed up for an agility class. She is the youngest in the class and the most excitable. Our trainer has been great and recognizes her potential, but I get very frustrated in class when she pulls one of her "look away" things. Last week, someone took pity on me and gave me a piece of McD's burger (I had treats, but not as good
). This refocused her on me and the rest of the night was fine.
I have been taking her out on a long walk every night, without my husband, and throughout the walk I will make her sit, down, stay, and we won't continue until she does (even if it takes 5 minutes). What else would you recommend? (Sorry I'm so long winded