I have a 2.5 year old, a 9-month-old, and two GSDs. I am thankful that so far, they all have gotten along really well. I don't know what to suggest about this particular problem, when I tell my dogs to back off, they do it. But here's what I might try if I were you (and I'm no trainer, just a pet owner, far from an expert). I'm not sure if you mentioned in your post what training you have done with your dog, but I might do some refreshers on the basics--sit, stay, and down. That might help her to respect and listen to you more since she seems to be brushing you off. (Perhaps only when it comes to the toddler?) In addition, I might buy a short lead (2-3 ft) and have her wear it around the house. I'd try to catch her just before she went into licking mode, take hold of the leash, and redirect her with a command, like sit, then give her a treat when she complies. Though, I haven't bothered to teach it to my dogs, the place command might be helpful in your situation. A short google search should give you directions on how to teach it. In addition, baby gates, crates, and fences are your friends. I've dismantled all our crates recently. But when I need space, I put the dogs outside for a little while or upstairs. I would not rule out hiring a trainer for help. This doesn't sound like an insurmountable problem at all. I'm sure that a trainer could come to the house and offer you a lot of help in a few sessions.
Last edited by sebrench; 02-20-2018 at 02:06 PM.