Help!! dog bit and not listening to daughter
Ok, Heres the deal- I am a single mom of a 10 year old. We recently rescued a 4 ish year old west German male from . He was only just neutured day before we took him home, which has now been just over a month. At first he seemed to want to be more around my daughter, then within a day or 2 really warmed up to me.
Now a month in and he's VERY attached to me, border line obsessive. He had no previous training, yes at 4 years old he did not even know sit. And yes I did try several different languages, nada. Now he sits, downs, goes to lay down on bed, working on stay and heel. My daughter has sole duties of feeding, letting out back in yard, giving treats etc, and when we go on walks she holds leash (with me right there to grab just in case) and he does walk nice for her at side, will 'focus' and not eat food til given ok command and will sit and wait until given ok to go outside for her.
However, he won't come or lay down for her, sometimes won't sit abut does it for me 100% and he stills prefers to want to be by me all the time, will follow me every where but not daughter, and will whine if he can't see me or if I go in another room and close door. The whole reason she is in charge of feeding etc was to prevent this, didn't work.
Recently, and twice now, I was in another room and he sat outside the door crying. The first time I told her to get him and bring him downstairs. Well next thing I know is I hear her yelling bad dog, no! I run out and her arm is red and instantly bruised, he bit her when she reached for his collar. He was immediately given a 'bite' by me and he turned and self submitted. He was put in crate for rest of night where he howled and whined literally non stop until morning when let out.
A few days later I was in the garage for a minute, he again came to the door and cried, my daughter forgetting about what happened before, or not thinking much of it since she was raised with big dogs her whole life, once again grabbed his collar to pull him away and stop the whining.. This time I heard a loud deep growl then cry. He again bit her arm, but this time added a growl afterwards. He was put in crate for 2 days (non stop whine and howling) with only potty breaks. Now- I work from home so am always here. And so is daughter for summer.
What I did was start ignoring him, stopped letting him sleep in my room (floor only) I gave no commands. Any attention was from daughter only. All commands and any treats from her only. And he slept in her room now. This was working, at first. He would play with her, come to her wagging tail and would love to be pet and scratched by her, would roll over exposing tummy while she brushed him etc. So after some time I started petting him again. Well that started the following me all around again, the whining and wanting to be with me. He was still nice to daughter, but would always try to get to me.
Well today she was opening his food to feed him and he was pushing in trying to get his mouth in the bag, she told him no and walked into him telling him back, he then barked at her. He does not see her as alpha at all and is telling us that loud and clear. Now I used to be an apprentice trainer and I used to successfully rehabilitate rescue dogs, but I admit this is only the 2nd gsd I have owned, and my last one was only for a year before she was put down for very bad hips, and she was 6 when I got her from an old trainer I worked with. My dog of choice that I always went with were akitas, who have a bad rep but I never had any aggression issues with mine and they always listened to both my daughter and I and treated us equally.
I have tried what all trainer advised, but it is not working but seems to be escalating. And there is a small time frame to fix this, I have a newborn due in 2 months. Now its not outright aggression, it seems so that's good. But it only happens when Im not in the same room so hard to correct, and no way will my daughter be allowed to correct without me there. Sorry for long post, wanted it all out there for best advice. Please any suggestions! Besides this he was been an amazing rescue lol, don't want to give him up, and daughter does still love and want him too, but with newborn don't want any chances if not fixed..