I can't tell you how much I appreciate everyone's help and suggestions!! Thank you! Luckily, Buddy does not jump on us or new people during a greeting. Thank goodness! And he greets people/dogs outside of the home (even in our front yard) very calmly and respectfully. He just turns into a different dog inside of our house, which, again, I understand is his instincts. He is protecting his people. And I want to train him in a way that respects his instincts, while still getting the result that I desire.
We already tell people to not look at, touch, talk to ~ pretty much pretend we don't have a dog, lol, when they walk in. Once Buddy is calm, I'll walk with Buddy on leash up to the new people so he can meet them, sniff them a little, and so he can get a treat when he's calm. And when we come home, he is ignored until he is sitting calmly. That's all his routine and he's used to it. You can almost see him struggling to stay calm while being so excited just so we will love on him.
My biggest issue is when our visitors get up from their chairs, go to hug one of the kids, or tickle one of the kids, Buddy gets very upset and starts to bark at them. How do I let him know that it's ok, that I'm in charge, I know what's going on, and it's ok that people get up from their chairs, or play with the kids? That's my biggest issue. Just the protective barking. I tried his enough command, his quiet command, I even got out the water bottle, nothing worked, he was too worked up.
Now, to be fair to Buddy, when he acted this way, he was neutered 4 days before. So he was off, it was not the best timing to have people over. But we didn't have a choice, it was my son's birthday. He wasn't being exercised (due to his neuter and recovery.) He was basically wound like a string and just releasing 5 days of pent up energy while people were here.
I just want to help him, though. To relax, to be calm, when people are here.
I read a post yesterday about how to desensitize a dog from the doorbell. I think I'll start there. Then I know I need to work on Buddy's down/stay and his quiet commands. There's part of me that worries that the exitement of having people over will override his desire to obey those commands, though. But, like our trainer tells me, I have to believe that my dog will do it before he actually will
do it. So, I just have to believe in Buddy's ability to stay calm and stay when I tell him to. He's such a teenager and butthead still, though. lol (He's 16 months.) I love the suggestion, doggiedad, of having him go to his bed and put him in a down/stay. And I wish I could think of people I could recruit to come over on a daily basis to help train him. That's awesome that your neighbors were so willing to help.
Gusto's mommy, thank you so much for the name of the training book ~ I'm going to go out and get that this week.
Thanks, everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Buddy and I appreciate your help!!!
Smyke, let me know how Fanta is doing!!! Good luck to you!!!