Join Date: Feb 2019
Location: Michigan, Detroit
Our situations are a bit different but when I read your post I immediately could relate.
I also have a pup that was in daycare twice a week. He used to go from 6-11 months old.
Every time I picked him up I would get so upset because he would bolt out to the lobby area and run up enthusiastically to any other person but me. I could have been anyone taking his leash by the way he acknowledged me. I would have to almost drag him out past people to leave. In my case he was not trying to go back in but I remember thinking "what on earth is the point? This is MY dog right?" People often commented on it in the lobby with me. It was embarrassing. I didn't exist. He was happy enough to get in the car and was pretty normal back home, always begging to play, so that part is different.
In my case, things did change a bit. After a few months he did acknowledge my presence more when I picked him up. Low key still but I got a nose bump or a quick lick. He seemed to get more comfortable at daycare too, not as frantic from the stimulation and I noticed when he came out he would often seem nice and mellow versus in the beginning he was all hyped. I still lose to any interesting person or dog in the lobby but I know he is attached to me now. Sometimes when i drop him off, if he is feeling particularly needy that day, he won't follow the staff member immediately, he stares hard at me while I leave. I can't turn around or he will cry for me. And I know he loves daycare. We also have a slight issue if I leave the house momentarily to grab mail or lock my car he practically screams (we are working on this).
So maybe as she grows up you will notice some changes like I did. And even though she may not be acknowledging you at daycare, I am sure she is showing it in other ways. They are so weird sometimes. I just tried to stop getting upset by it but it was hard :/ I am a very needy, jealous and possessive person so I have had to keep an open mind when trying to interpret my dog, like his dislike to being cuddled, and the way he shows affection vs the way I WANT him to show affection, it's very hard.