Originally Posted by Luke Doggy Dog 63
Thanks Jenny the puppy or adult would be home while I am at work and I just don't think my wife would be up for it I don't know maybe I am just being selfish maybe it's for me more than anything I don't know there's just not much to be happy about anymore lots to do and think about
This struck me. In a personal way. I have 2 profoundly disabled kids and sometimes you just need/want hope and joy. A challenge that you can stare down and conquer as opposed to the ones that sit on your chest in the middle of the night so you can't breathe. Everyone told me to get a Lab. I didnt want a Lab.
I don't like " I can't" I prefer "how can I". Everyone would tell me (and plenty did) working line GSDs? What? You with all you have on your plate, 2 little boys that can't speak to varying degrees, one that can walk but not run? Full time career, single mom (with a good supportive other parent, but I am still alone with them 50% of the time and it is all consuming- when I am not with them I have to work extra to make up for the flexibility I get when i do have them). It is working for us. I have 2 year old and 17 week old GSDs. Both working lines.
I dont want to lead anyone into "it will work regardless" mentality. It will work if you map out the "how can I" part. I don't know what your support network is like, or your finances but this was stuff I mapped out for myself for my own situation.
Do I have backup? Yes. If something got worse and or stuff didn't work out people would argue over who cares for my dogs either temporarily or permanently(though that would be only because something catastrophic happened lol)
Can I afford help? No became Yes. I stopped eating out unless traveling. Saved 300 per month. Stopped buying coffee, made it in travel mug instead. Bought in bulk. Started making the credit card points work for daily needs, not extra purchases. I actually bothered to enroll in my solar panel credits. Whoah! Coupons, use those things. I stopped using sitter for going out once a week for like 4 or 5 hours for an expensive meal and a few drinks. I easily found the money to spend on training, a trainer, and I use the sitter an extra hour here and there to train after work rather than having a few pinots and an avocado salad at the restaurant across the street lol Can someone help your wife during the day with a puppy? Because you can't leave her with a new puppy.
As for her wanting a puppy. It's amazing how they can heal, but so can an older established dog that has been fostered and has a known temperament. Don't rule out either.
I think a dog is a wonderful idea for a sick person, or a sick child, as long as you can make reasonable accommodations. Have a plan , and when someone tells you that you can't, tell them HOW you can.
One of my favorite sayings. Saw it posted the other day. Always chokes me up.
Dog watched his human cry, concerned.
Where was human's smile?
Probably lost somewhere, the dog thought.
That was OK. Dog knew how to fetch.