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Advice. To give or not to give?

Is it better to give solid advice or to give any old advice based on your experiences, knowledge, gossip, etc?

Am asking because I am a first time dog owner with 2 dogs. I enjoy sharing my views, my stories, my experiences etc but I don't want to offend anyone and I definitely don't want to give bad advice (never intentional)...

The thing I've noticed on here is that people aren't afraid to state that someone else's is wrong, which I do not mind at all.

But, should I keep my mouth shut if I am iffy about something or do my best anyway?
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I think it's fine to give advice based on your own experience, so long as you qualify it with something like, "In my experience. . " or "What I've seen with my own dogs is. . . "


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I tend to do as emoore said...no one's an 'expert', but there are alot of things that may have worked for me, that might work for someone else

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I think advice should be qualified such as my experience is.

I did, heard, read, saw etc...

There are some people on here that don't need to do that because they have so many years of experience that it is obvious. You will realize who they are after awhile.
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You can give whatever advice you want to give. I usually qualify it if it is not something I experienced, but something that is typical, like "You might try NILIF (Nothing In Life Is Free). You can Google it. I don't use NILIF with my dogs, but lots of people here have found it very helpful."

Telling people they are wrong, kind of goes over like a ton of bricks sometimes, especially when there are only a finite number of things that are totally black and white. Most things, somewhere lay in the realm of opinions, and while some opinions may be better constructed, more popular, better explained, they are still opinions. And even if you are 100% sure you are right and they are wrong, this:

"What I have experienced is that a healthy dog will not starve himself to death, if you pick the food up after 15 minutes and then wait until his next meal time, he will probably eat it eventually."

goes over a whole lot better than,

"You're wrong, spicing up a dog's food to get him to eat it is just going to make him a picky eater."

If you tell enough people they are wrong, then someone will probably start a rude-thread to complain about how people come across.

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Telling people they are wrong, kind of goes over like a ton of bricks sometimes, especially when there are only a finite number of things that are totally black and white. Most things, somewhere lay in the realm of opinions, and while some opinions may be better constructed, more popular, better explained, they are still opinions. And even if you are 100% sure you are right and they are wrong, this:

"What I have experienced is that a healthy dog will not starve himself to death, if you pick the food up after 15 minutes and then wait until his next meal time, he will probably eat it eventually."

goes over a whole lot better than,

"You're wrong, spicing up a dog's food to get him to eat it is just going to make him a picky eater."

If you tell enough people they are wrong, then someone will probably start a rude-thread to complain about how people come across.
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I tend to do as emoore said...no one's an 'expert', but there are alot of things that may have worked for me, that might work for someone else
I'd much rather "share my experiences" than "give advice". I don't know if I'm qualified to tell someone else what they should do with their own dog - no matter how well I think I know and can read my own dogs, I don't know theirs at all! Nor do I know their level of training experience, or their timing and skill. But I do what has worked for me and what hasn't. And like Diane said, if it worked for me, maybe it would work for someone else too.

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I just give suggestions, unless its something I know for sure that works but even then its just an' opinion' I love gsd's just like everyone else here i dont want to see anything happen to anyones dog and if I think maby a suggestion will help...I give it

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There is a wide variety of advice available here.
Some of it is based on a combination of reading and actual experience. Some of it based on the advisor's 'logic'. Most of it based on some combination of these. In the end it is all opinion. Because one person's experience, reading or logic does not necessarily apply in the subject case. So when a thread is created, the OP should let the thread live for a while and ripen on the vine then go back and read through all of the 'contributions' and go with what makes sense to the OP.
When giving advice, I try (usually unsuccessfully) to remember to include a JMHO or IMHO because I only know what I have experienced, read or surmised.
And that is all subject to my limited mental capabilities.

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