Sorry for the delay in replying, but that was a lot of information to process. I'll first answer some of the questions about the puppy... This is gonna be a looong post...
She did not come from a reputable breeder and we never saw her parents. We bought her from a random guy who posted the advertisement on Hoobly Classifields. On April 20th, we went to a Meijer's parking lot and had a choice between 2 girls. My husband until now, still say he thought he was going to get shot. I don't remember if the guy told us her birthdate but I do remember that she was about 8-9 weeks old. He was supposed to send us pictures of the parents as well as her vet papers, but they never came. He never registered her parents and she does not have papers either. Perhaps that was why we got her cheap for a GSD at $450. So we have no idea if she is a 100% GSD or has mixed blood or anything about her past before she came to us. She should be about 18 weeks old now.
The first night we brought her home.
Not sure if you can see her rib sticking out there, as she was very fluffy from her baby fur, but she came to us a skeleton...
She is now averaging 30lbs and I have been feeding her 3 and a half cups of Fromm Gold LBP per day. I have been separating that into 1 and 1/4 cup breakfast and dinner, and 1 cup for lunch. Her waistline was terrible during Purina, but it has been improving now and her ribs are no longer sticking out as if she was emaciated. If you guys think I should change my feeding to twice a day, then I'll try that too. And yes, I add water if I'm adding the DE. I know better than to attempt feeding her powder. I don't enjoy eating powder myself...
This was June 8th, when she got her new squeaky toy.
This is today, in her bed. Yes, she got lighter, then darker...
Am I afraid of the puppy (Aiya)? I don't think so. I think I'm afraid of what she CAN be. I see my sister-in-law's dog (Rascal), and I see my husband's parents' dog (Lucky); I most definitely fear her becoming like Rascal. What my husband sees on the other hand, is Aiya becoming like Lucky, who is very well behaved, has never bitten anyone, and is very reserved in her barking/growling which she rarely does. Lucky is by no means, a perfect dog, but everyone would say that she acts as if she has gone for obedience training which she hasn't. That is what my husband thinks Aiya will be. I HOPE she will be like that, but I am nervous about the possibility of her being more like Rascal. I have never seen a dog attack someone before and have never experienced anything that would put this fear in me, but I'm also a pessimist and have heard plenty of stories.
It is just a cultural thing .
so , understandable then why your extended family has the dogs the way they are --- but you don't have to follow --
My husband and his side of the family are Caucasians. I'm the Asian.
I don't know if a dog is right for you either --
whose idea was it ?
We both wanted a large breed puppy. We were actually looking for mixes at adoption agencies, but after having the first agency take forever to decide on an adoptee and after all that extremely long forms, hubby got annoyed and decided to just buy a puppy rather than adopt. I wanted a dog that had the sharp snout, pointy ears and manageable fur as I hated living with a golden. He decided on GSD because he had previous experiences with them when he was younger. I agreed to it because I thought we were BOTH going to handle the dog, like take evening walks together, train her together, etc etc. Turns out, I feed her, I walk her, I train her, I let her out and at first, I clean up her accidents. These days, I've been pushing him to do the clean ups. Basically, he wakes up, teases her, goes to work, comes home, plays with her, goes to sleep... and repeat... I didn't realize he wasn't going to agree to puppy classes either. I had definitely thought that was on the agenda if we got a dog. I had thought that unlike my parents, puppy classes was the norm here, just like vaccinations and vet visits was the norm...
so the dog lives in the kitchen -- does the dog get pushy for food when you cook - or eat
Not so much pushy for food, but she insists on sticking to your legs and tripping you. We tell her to go lay down in her bed. She's been doing that a lot more, but sometimes, we have to put her in the cage and close the door just to cook. We eat in the living room and she whines and whimpers because she's not able to get near us. Whether because she wants food or because she just wants to be close, I don't know. We don't feed her table scraps.
so never mind the food , what other issues are there -- how social is the dog when out in public , being walked ? Problems walking with some manners? Problems with seeing other dogs ?
What happens when you have guests or family to your house ?
Do you plan to have the relative's dogs , with all their wildness and bad manners come visit your home ?
How do you bond with the dog.
Besides food, she still has separation anxiety... mostly when the husband leaves. If we leave together, she tantrums even worse. When I leave, she whines for a couple seconds, then calms down. I don't make a fuss when I leave and have done so from the beginning. She is VERY social, she loves people, always friendly approach. She enjoys jumping on people and licking them, and mostly, people allow it because they think it's cute. Again here: I see the possibility of the attack dog, others see the fluff ball that is "dawwwwwsoadorableawwyougivingmekisses"...
She walks very distractedly. She likes sticking close to people's legs and tripping them, a lot like cats. I don't let her sniff around or lead the walk and I keep her on a short leash so that I don't end up with a dog that pulls, though I'm sure if given the chance, she WILL pull
With Lucky, she quickly learned her place, but with their other dog (Cuddles), a miniature pincher, Aiya seems to like bothering her. Even after multiple corrections. Cuddles doesn't like her, especially now that she's bigger than a min pin, so their relationship ends up being one where Cuddles is constantly trying to get away, constantly growling and snarling at Aiya. We don't plan on ever introducing her to Rascal.
I don't play with her all that often, hubby does that most. I'm just the one who is there all day. I've placed my laptop on the kitchen table and that's where I usually sit. That's also how I've been watching her, corner of my eye and stuff. Lately though, I've been watching movies in the living room. I started doing that when we got a baby gate to block off the kitchen as well as a potty bell, so I'm not constantly in the kitchen anymore. When I am, I basically just ignore her, sometimes pet her when she comes up to me. But otherwise, she's left to entertain herself. I wouldn't say we have much of a bond, really.
If a class is out of the question for what ever reason , can the breeder provide some hands on help .
The breeder is no longer in contact with us. After selling us the puppy, that was the last we heard of him, no pictures of parents, no vet papers, so definitely no training help...
Maybe the dog would do better with one big satisfying meal -- wolf it down and then go for a snooze --- instead of these scheduled , timely , measured meals which leave the dog hungry in between , never satisfied --( fullness is satisfying -- ) . Maybe the amounts are recommendations on a bag - but your dog is an individual -- might not be adequate for your dog - or as nourishing as the food should be.
Every morning, her ribs stick out again... IS one big meal better? Would that leave her looking emaciated once she poops after that meal? I've fed her 2 cups at once before due to missing her lunch if I had to go out, she finishes the 2 cups, has a pot belly, and then waggles around as if she ate too much (like a drunk person, really) and starts burping... like a drunk person... I was told to avoid increasing her food for a few weeks because Fromm was a lot more nutritious than Purina.
the dog is always with you , but no one knows how the two of you relate - and you constantly watch the dog - that isn't fun for you and it isn't fun for the dog .
I'll admit, I've been feeling miserable once I started realizing that I'm doing all the work.
are you in a house , do you have a yard , are you able to put a little safe kennel outside for the dog
Yes, we have a house, and a fenced yard. We probably could put a kennel outside, but hubby doesn't want to spend money on that either...
The 2 arrows point to the two different yards where there are 2 dogs on each yard. So when they're out and she goes out to do her business or whatever, they rush to the fence and start barking and hollering.
I keep her on a long chain attached to that yellow clothes line above the 2nd arrow, so she can't reach the back fence to have a barking match or anything like that. We do that because the yard behind the garage is not safe for her at this time. Previous occupants left behind a very old pond and other stuff that we haven't had the time to clear (since hubby works all the time right now - seasonal job). I myself have only been in the country since late February... She doesn't seem interested in barking back though, she just watches them, then comes back into the house.
Thanks for all the videos, I will look through them. I found a thread that said trainers sometimes accept trades, instead of the usual money for lessons... What kind of items would they usually want? I'm pretty good at crafting stuff, and perhaps this will give me access to an in-home trainer? How would I look for such a trainer anyway?