We're our dogs keepers and its our job to keep them healthy and conditioned since they can't get out and do it themselves, which is why its so important to not just ignore the problem in fear offending someone. You can "love" any animal to death.
This is all true, and if our society was made up of a simple majority of people who acted in others' best interests (kids, pets, parents, spouses, etc) the world would be a great
But we have lots of folks with entitlement mentalities wanting immediate gratification and even faster fixes to the problems they created for themselves but blame others for. The symptoms show up, in part, as people whose lives are a train-wreck and their poor pets are just along for the ride.
It's not the offense taken that people like me fear. There actually is
no fear. It's the disappointment
of wasted concern spent on people who should know better. Remember, the "my dog isn't fat" owner is the same owner likely to sneer at another (non-fat) dog's owner because their
dog isn't neutered. Or isn't from a shelter. Or is an "aggressive breed".
All you can do is hug your own dog(s) and as you do, feel for their ribs each night. If you can feel the ribs, the dog feels your love! That has to be good enough.