, thank you! Exactly the kinds of things I was looking for. I’m trying to upload videos to YouTube to share, but can’t figure it out. I’ll have to have DH show me when he gets home 🤣.
The reason for not wanting to compete or seek out clubs is because I’m next level introvert. As in, even if it’s a family member, and a visit wasn’t arranged, and they try a drop in, I just won’t answer the door. I don’t go to family events with DH, because the thought of it sends me down an anxiety spiral, and I break out in hives. When we take the pup to the vet, DH chats everyone up, asking questions about their dogs, just being a normal human I guess. When I take her, I sit quietly, don’t engage with other dog owners there, and if one starts talking to me, I give brief answers that leaves no room for additional questions. For example:
Q) Oh, why is the poor guy wearing a muzzle, she’s too young to be in a muzzle.
A) broken jaw
Q) oh no, how did that happen?
A) doggie door
At that point, they either realize I have no peopling skills and no desire to have a conversation, or they prattle on about this cousins dog who had a broken jaw, and we did this and this and that, and you should try this and this and that. I just stay disengaged, and they normally walk away thinking I’m a total B. Which is A okay with me! Can’t stand small talk, don’t want to engage with strangers.
I’ve always been able to flip it on for work, because I was a single parent for most of my boys life, and then again for most of my girls lives, and I didn’t have a choice. But I would be mentally exhausted and drained by the time I would get home.
So now I just blabber all over a dog forum for human interaction, and vomit replies that are chapter books, because it’s a comfortable way for me to engage without having to actually engage, if that makes sense.