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Old 01-11-2014, 04:51 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Ok this is a partial vent partial question. My sister-in-law has a chocolate lab. This dog is considered to be the "perfect dog." I am always hearing about all the great things Dixie can do and how well behaved she is. Today we are having a birthday party for my 2 year old Rayne. When we walked through the door of my mother-in-law's house Dixie started barking and growling. My sister-in-law told her to hush, which didn't work, and told my kids to pet her so she would stop. When she kept growling my SIL went and got one of her toys and gave it to her. She then my kids not to try and take it cause Dixie might bight them.

I am no expert on dogs, but I have dealt with them for way longer than my SIL. This is the 1st dog she has owned that I know of. She uses a shock collar set way to high, the theory is if you show the dog it hurts then the dog will behave to avoid it. Today she had a prong collar on very loosely around the base of the dogs neck. It is driving me nuts watching all the things she is doing wrong with this dog. She is convinced my boy Ammo is not trained as well as her dog and I don't know as much because Ammo is not cat friendly and her dog is. Her dog was raised with her cats, Ammo has never been around cats.

How do I deal with her dog growling at my kids. My SIL rewards the dog when she growls, with toys or petting. I am very worried that her dog will snap at my daughter and hurt her. I really want to be snotty but I can not, remember she is someone I have to deal with for a very long time. I can tell my older 2 kids to leave Dixie alone but my 2 year old thinks ever dog is like her Ammo. Should I just start bringing Ammo with us so Rayne has a dog to play with that won't bite her? Should I keep Ammo away so he won't attack Dixie for threatening his kids? Should I just ignore Dixie and let her owner deal with it? If it was your kids what would you do?


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That is a tough one...maybe you could speak to her about how " amazing Dixie" really is and go from there?

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Don't allow your kids to interact with the dog. Don't bring the kids or ask to meet where their dog cannot accompany. It's not your dog and it's not worth getting into an argument over. If she notices and asks say that you're just not comfortable with the growling around your children and leave it at that. Meanwhile, delight in your awesome dog and stop comparing.
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I don't really have any concrete answers but I sure as heck wouldn't keep my mouth shut and let one of my kids get bitten. That sure isn't going to help the family dynamic. The first thing I would do is remove my kids from the situation, however you have to do that.

I would definitely not introduce another dynamic into the already complicated situation by bringing my dog.

If this is SIL, I might have a talk with my bro. Tough case but let me share a little story.....

My uncle had a K9. Dog was old and my uncle being selfish refused to put the dog down. My father had been on him for quite a while to put the dog down to the point that it was causing issues in the family. One day I walked up beside the dog and next thing I remember is waking up in the hospital, 52 stitches in my neck where the dog had attacked me. I was 6 or 7 years old. This situation did not turn out well for me, the dog, or my father/uncle's relationship.

My point is, if something happens it will be worse than a little friction. However, it is definitely a touchy situation.
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When people with little kids come over I keep my dog in a different room or on a leash (for now at least). I do this because she is still a puppy in training (can get very excited) and because you don't know what the little kids might do.
I don't want to be responsible for an injury caused by the dog because the little kids were annoying her. You don't know what they might do depending on their last experience with a dog.

I'm very surprised that your SIL lets her dog around the kids if she is going to growl at them. I would tell her (nicely of course) that you value the safety of your children and that the dog should not be around them if she is going to behave like that. Don't take your dog over, it's her dog and her problem.
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It's hard not to be around this dog. She brings Dixie to every family dinner today is my daughter's birthday party at my mother-in-law's house and she brought the dog with her. She is my husband's sister. I may see if he will talk to her.

Also I'm not trying to compare the 2 dogs. I frankly don't give a rat's backside that she thinks her dog is better than mine. I was just trying to give you all an understanding of how great they think this dog is. In the families eyes this dog walked on water next to Jesus.


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It's hard not to be around this dog. She brings Dixie to every family dinner today is my daughter's birthday party at my mother-in-law's house and she brought the dog with her. She is my husband's sister. I may see if he will talk to her.

Also I'm not trying to compare the 2 dogs. I frankly don't give a rat's backside that she thinks her dog is better than mine. I was just trying to give you all an understanding of how great they think this dog is. In the families eyes this dog walked on water next to Jesus.
That is absolutely inappropriate, honestly. This is YOUR DAUGHTER's party and her safety is paramount. The dog needs to be kept in an area separate from your children. Sounds like she just needs some boundaries set with regards to where her dog is welcome.
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Don't allow your kids to interact with the dog. Don't bring the kids or ask to meet where their dog cannot accompany. It's not your dog and it's not worth getting into an argument over. If she notices and asks say that you're just not comfortable with the growling around your children and leave it at that. Meanwhile, delight in your awesome dog and stop comparing.
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I would start with having a chat with your husband. If that did not work then, I guess it would be fight night. I would not be able to keep my mouth shut, family or not. I would have to tell someone about themself and their dog.
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I'm the odd one out.. again

My BiL moved in with my in-laws many years ago. Brought with him a St Bernard who preferred biting to eating it seemed. There was no effort made at all to control the dog or put him away when kids were around. My son did not go over to his grandparents house again until that dog was no longer there. My priority was my son, the relationship with the in-laws was secondary.
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