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Old 12-27-2013, 06:16 PM   #1 (permalink)
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At the family Christmas party my mom was talking to her sisters about our animals and of course they had to voice their opinions about how we shouldn't get more animals. My mom said "I'm not getting more birds or fish" (she doesn't like them, they are mine). Her sisters replied with "And no more dogs!" My mom continued to tell them that when she finishes school (she is going back) and gets a job, she will get another dog. They went on to tell her how crazy she is and four dogs (what we have now) is way too many.

I just really can never understand their need to tell my mom, and me, how to lead our lives. If we want to use all of our money on our animals, what is it to them? I just cant wrap my mind around it.
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Old 12-27-2013, 07:31 PM   #2 (permalink)
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its hard with family. they are her sisters so let her deal with it.
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Old 12-27-2013, 09:07 PM   #3 (permalink)
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My family stopped visiting because we have "too many" too. It's two dogs two birds and a cat -______- some people just don't get it.
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my sister has 24 chickens, she is causing the local ordinance to be reviewed. I didn't voice my opinion on the numbers she hoards...but would have liked to. I know, 24 chickens is nothing to some people, and 4(like we have) is too many for others. My grandmother use to rehab critters all the time, and I know the neighbors looked down on her. "Why rehab a raccoon or opposum, just off those nasty vermits" yet we loved them and nutured them until they could be released.

It is all in the eye of the beholder, but when it comes down to neglect/hoarding or possibly abuse, then I'll step in and ignore the judgements.
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Old 12-27-2013, 09:47 PM   #5 (permalink)
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My family stopped visiting because we have "too many" too. It's two dogs two birds and a cat -______- some people just don't get it.
Priceless! They won't want to visit me either, then. We currently have two dogs and five cats.

Years ago, when we did not have dogs, we had 12 cats and I saw one at the shelter that I HAD to have. He went on to become my heart cat

The shelter I went to required several pages of info ( and that is great) and asked me how I was going to care for a 13th. I explained exactly how and told them they could call my vet for a reference.

They called and after only a minute or so, said "He gave you an excellent reference, so you can adopt him."

I know that seems like a lot of animals, but if can truly take care of X number of animals, with attention and vet care, then who cares what anyone thinks!



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Old 12-27-2013, 10:02 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I don't think they care what anyone thinks .. it's just annoying to have people tell you what THEY think is an appropriate number of pets for another person to have. I have run into that with family members in the past. I also have someone in the family that has wayyy too many dogs that don't get to be family members. They are used for various forms of hunting so I do get it ... but eh .. not when someone can care for the number they have and those have a quality life.
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Families are so distant nowadays. One would think that sisters ought to be able to voice their opinion about a sister's choices. It is just an opinion. Maybe it would indicate that someone cares.

And there are people out there that have too many dogs or cats. Maybe if someone important to them, did care enough to discuss it, it wouldn't get blown so far out of hand. And then, maybe there is nothing one can do that will make that problem better until the person who has the problem is ready to try and change.

I dunno. I think people have to choose their battles and try to figure out what is being interfering, and what is in the best interest of all the parties involved.
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your mother was engaged in a conversation with her sisters
about animals. they expressed their opinons to your mother.
you weren't a part of the conversation. it seems like you
were minding their business. you overheard a conversation.
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your mother was engaged in a conversation with her sisters
about animals. they expressed their opinons to your mother.
you weren't a part of the conversation. it seems like you
were minding their business. you overheard a conversation.
That seems like a pretty big assumption on a couple different fronts.
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Old 12-27-2013, 10:54 PM   #10 (permalink)
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assumption??

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>>>>> At the family Christmas party >>>>my mom was talking to her sisters<<<<< about our animals and of course they had to voice their opinions about how we shouldn't get more animals.

My mom said "I'm not getting more birds or fish" (she doesn't like them, they are mine). Her sisters replied with "And no more dogs!"

>>>>> My mom continued to tell them<<<<<

that when she finishes school (she is going back) and gets a job, she will get another dog. They went on to tell her how crazy she is and four dogs (what we have now) is way too many.

>>>>> I just really can never understand their need to tell my mom,<<<<

and me, how to lead our lives. If we want to use all of our money on our animals, what is it to them? I just cant wrap my mind around it.
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your mother was engaged in a conversation with her sisters
about animals. they expressed their opinons to your mother.
you weren't a part of the conversation. it seems like you
were minding their business. you overheard a conversation.
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That seems like a pretty

>>>>>big assumption<<<<<

on a couple different fronts.
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