Just need to vent

Holmeshx2 · 01-25-2012, 01:34 AM

Hubby has leave from work for 2 weeks and is home ALLL day every day for 16 days (proving to be VERY long days)

Lately hes already been hitting that nerve with me where you can't put your finger on it but they are just driving you nuts. Jinx would whine to go outside(with the I need to go NOW whine) I would be busy and ask him to run her please and he would get up go to the other room to throw his soda can out then go down the hallway go to the bathroom himself then go to the bedroom and get a certain pair of shoes then come walking out to look for a jacket then go to take Jinx out... needless to say by time he got out there I already slipped on some shoes, leashed her and took her out (admittedly with a bit of an attitude) He always has something to say when I give him "the look" like "what did you expect me to take her out without shoes on?" well no darling dearest by all means put shoes on however you had shoes by the door that you were 5 flippin feet away from when I asked you to run her all the other stuff just wasn't necessary.

Now we have the foster pup and I just ran them each out for the night but before I can grab the foster pup to run her out he takes the baby gates down and lets her run down the hallway with no one watching her (she just woke up from napping on the floor and hadn't been out in a few hours) so I see her go down the hallway run to grab her when she stops and piddles a tiny bit before I scoop her up and he gets huffy about how it's too late now she already peed (first accident since we brought her home BTW). As I'm putting the leash on her he tries to come up with an excuse about why he took the gate down which just made me more frustrated. I get he took the gate down because he wanted to put the crate into the room for the night HOWEVER she is a pup just came from a shelter and is learning her house skills and I was getting ready to run her for the night there was no reason to take the gate down THEN walk away to do your own thing then come back to get the crate after everything went down instead of just waiting 10 seconds (I was at the door getting ready to run her) and taking the crate back while the non house trained puppy was outside. (Sorry guys) but why do men always have to do it "their way!" He always talks about he's gonna do stuff HIS WAY however his way doesn't work then he gets mad when something happens that could have easily been avoided if he wasn't so pig headed about everything. I'm not THAT picky he doesn't have to do it my way but simple things like not running all your little errands AFTER the dog tells you it needs to go out would be appreciated. Sorry just needed to vent to some other dog folks and really hoping some others can relate to this and I'm not alone... darn stubborn people!

**Cassidy's Mom** · 01-25-2012, 01:45 AM

Are we married to the same man?

MustLoveGSDs · 01-25-2012, 01:59 AM

Sounds like y'all need more hanky panky and less arguing

RocketDog · 01-25-2012, 02:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Cassidy's Mom

Are we married to the same man?

LMAO

I was just about to post this exact same wording.....

Hang in there. They're only men after all.

ladyfreckles · 01-25-2012, 04:11 AM

Pat does this. It's extremely annoying. He's responsible for about 90% of all accidents that occur. This one time he ignored Viking's whines for five minutes while he did the dishes and then got mad when Viking pooped on the floor. Really?! What did you think was going to happen? I don't think the dog understands or cares that the dishes are "only going to take a minute". Then he runs down to the garage to get his sneakers when he could just grab his boots from front closet and slip them on.

Then he won't take him out often enough. I say every 45 minutes. He waits until it's just barely too late and tries to rush Viking out. I think we're with the same guy.

Jax08 · 01-25-2012, 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Cassidy's Mom

Are we married to the same man?

Or triplets.

I have one of those too. DH take the egg shells out of the oven and please grind them up. He gets the coffee grinder out, walks around the kitchen with the egg shells and ends up back in the exact same spot and starts to put the egg shells in the grinder...at the stove...without the grinder being put together or plugged in...

How are you going to handle that when you ahve to flip the grinder upside down to unwrap the cord?

So I did it myself.

Please wash the grinder cup and lid and put it away while I"m finishing this up. He does 20 other things and plops down on the couch. Hey! ARe you going to wash this like I asked you too? yeaha..in a minute..

So I did it myself.

Holmeshx2 · 01-25-2012, 09:26 AM

Thank you guys so much feeling much better this morning. MustLoveGSDs- its not so much arguing as him just being annoying and me walking around with my fists in a tight little ball doing breathing exercises lol.

So glad to hear others in the same boat and maybe it's just a guy thing but dear lord I could use a break from it. I don't ask for much but the first time in a month that I ask you to run a dog I'd appreciate you just doing it.

Oh or my absolute favorite. He did it with just Jinx and now both of them. He TRIES to be nice (and I give him credit for it) he will get up first and run them out however he literally isn't even out there for a minute. Our backyard isn't even 50 feet deep he walks outside walks down about halfway then turns around comes in and grabs the pup then goes down and does the same then comes in and tells me neither one of them had to go. No clue why he runs Jinx before the pup shes younger and needs to go out more run her before an accident happens not the 14 month old dog whos been potty trained for about 10 months. Anyways I grab the pup take her out walk around for about a minute and she pees walks around a bit more she poops throw her inside take Jinx out tell her go potty and she pees then we go in and I can actually relax for a bit knowing there will be no accidents to worry about for a little bit. Then when I come back in I get asked "what did you do that for I already took them" hmmm hunny I wonder why OH I KNOW because I don't want a dog turning my house into a bathroom I just woke up don't feel like cleaning my carpets AND I don't want to break the progress she's making in house training sounds like good answers to me.

Kittilicious · 01-25-2012, 09:33 AM

Add a quad in there... my husband has been off work since October because of surgery. I was ready to beat him some days. My biggest gripe is that he tries to tell me how to train/act with the dogs, but in the next breath it's "they are your dogs, you wanted them".
In the beginning if I would leave the house for whatever reason he would want me to crate Knuckles so he wouldn't have to deal with him. That only lasted a couple days and I went off on him because part of the problem was he was being a lazy big baby who didn't want to get out of the recliner to let him outside... which he needed to get out of the chair!!

middleofnowhere · 01-25-2012, 09:55 AM

Some rules of training dogs apply to working with humans, too. Here's some suggestions re training a human regarding this task:
1. Quit asking for behavior that isn't taught. It won't happen.
2. Teaching takes patience. And repetition. And consistency. So you will need to be a broken record on the procedure to take the dogs out (when, with what urgency, how) and how to behave when you are out with the dogs for toilet duty.
3. Retain your patience. Learning won't take place if you keep getting angry.
4. The choices seem to be develop the patience to train this ungainly creature, give up and let it run wild in the house, or, rehome it. I find I don't do well with training this sex of the species and have chosen not to have one in the house.

Good luck with your course of action!

Holmeshx2 · 01-25-2012, 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Kittilicious

Add a quad in there... my husband has been off work since October because of surgery. I was ready to beat him some days. My biggest gripe is that he tries to tell me how to train/act with the dogs, but in the next breath it's "they are your dogs, you wanted them".
In the beginning if I would leave the house for whatever reason he would want me to crate Knuckles so he wouldn't have to deal with him. That only lasted a couple days and I went off on him because part of the problem was he was being a lazy big baby who didn't want to get out of the recliner to let him outside... which he needed to get out of the chair!!

Oh this is too funny. I'm so glad I posted this here its great seeing others right there with me. He figures since hes on leave and doesn't have to go to work that he doesn't have to do ANYTHING. He spends all day playing his video games gets mad when a dog is right next to him with something they shouldnt have and I ask him to grab it or when they start wrestling next to him because their noise caused him to die and he can't focus (so sorry real life interrupted game time) Think it just drives me nuts because I don't ask anything of him I do all feedings most all of the potty breaks basically all of the training do all of the cooking and cleaning in the house and try so hard not to be the naggy wife HOWEVER the few times I ask for something to be done I'd appreciate it just getting done. Get your butt out of the chair and stop argueing it. Hmm anyone else wonder if their husbands do things half way because they know if they do that we'll just do it ourselves?

01-25-2012, 01:34 AM	#1 (permalink)
Holmeshx2 Elite Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Ft. Bragg, NC Posts: 1,646	Just need to vent Hubby has leave from work for 2 weeks and is home ALLL day every day for 16 days (proving to be VERY long days) Lately hes already been hitting that nerve with me where you can't put your finger on it but they are just driving you nuts. Jinx would whine to go outside(with the I need to go NOW whine) I would be busy and ask him to run her please and he would get up go to the other room to throw his soda can out then go down the hallway go to the bathroom himself then go to the bedroom and get a certain pair of shoes then come walking out to look for a jacket then go to take Jinx out... needless to say by time he got out there I already slipped on some shoes, leashed her and took her out (admittedly with a bit of an attitude) He always has something to say when I give him "the look" like "what did you expect me to take her out without shoes on?" well no darling dearest by all means put shoes on however you had shoes by the door that you were 5 flippin feet away from when I asked you to run her all the other stuff just wasn't necessary. Now we have the foster pup and I just ran them each out for the night but before I can grab the foster pup to run her out he takes the baby gates down and lets her run down the hallway with no one watching her (she just woke up from napping on the floor and hadn't been out in a few hours) so I see her go down the hallway run to grab her when she stops and piddles a tiny bit before I scoop her up and he gets huffy about how it's too late now she already peed (first accident since we brought her home BTW). As I'm putting the leash on her he tries to come up with an excuse about why he took the gate down which just made me more frustrated. I get he took the gate down because he wanted to put the crate into the room for the night HOWEVER she is a pup just came from a shelter and is learning her house skills and I was getting ready to run her for the night there was no reason to take the gate down THEN walk away to do your own thing then come back to get the crate after everything went down instead of just waiting 10 seconds (I was at the door getting ready to run her) and taking the crate back while the non house trained puppy was outside. (Sorry guys) but why do men always have to do it "their way!" He always talks about he's gonna do stuff HIS WAY however his way doesn't work then he gets mad when something happens that could have easily been avoided if he wasn't so pig headed about everything. I'm not THAT picky he doesn't have to do it my way but simple things like not running all your little errands AFTER the dog tells you it needs to go out would be appreciated. Sorry just needed to vent to some other dog folks and really hoping some others can relate to this and I'm not alone... darn stubborn people! __________________ Jinx vom Wildhaus

01-25-2012, 01:45 AM	#2 (permalink)
Cassidy's Mom No Stinkin' Leashes Moderator Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 24,959	Are we married to the same man? __________________ -Debbie- Dena 9/12/04-10/4/08 Forever would have been too short Keefer 8/25/05 Halo 11/9/08 Cassidy 6/8/00-10/4/04

01-25-2012, 01:59 AM	#3 (permalink)
MustLoveGSDs Elite Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Houston,TX Posts: 1,381	Sounds like y'all need more hanky panky and less arguing __________________ http://www.secondchanceshepherds.org/index.html "If you don't train them, don't blame them" Zelda(husky), Optimus Prime(doberman),Rogue(BGSD)

01-25-2012, 04:11 AM	#5 (permalink)
ladyfreckles Elite Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Seattle Posts: 1,833	Pat does this. It's extremely annoying. He's responsible for about 90% of all accidents that occur. This one time he ignored Viking's whines for five minutes while he did the dishes and then got mad when Viking pooped on the floor. Really?! What did you think was going to happen? I don't think the dog understands or cares that the dishes are "only going to take a minute". Then he runs down to the garage to get his sneakers when he could just grab his boots from front closet and slip them on. Then he won't take him out often enough. I say every 45 minutes. He waits until it's just barely too late and tries to rush Viking out. I think we're with the same guy. __________________ Viking vom Zeder-Kamme (11/19/2011)

01-25-2012, 09:26 AM	#7 (permalink)
Holmeshx2 Elite Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Ft. Bragg, NC Posts: 1,646	Thank you guys so much feeling much better this morning. MustLoveGSDs- its not so much arguing as him just being annoying and me walking around with my fists in a tight little ball doing breathing exercises lol. So glad to hear others in the same boat and maybe it's just a guy thing but dear lord I could use a break from it. I don't ask for much but the first time in a month that I ask you to run a dog I'd appreciate you just doing it. Oh or my absolute favorite. He did it with just Jinx and now both of them. He TRIES to be nice (and I give him credit for it) he will get up first and run them out however he literally isn't even out there for a minute. Our backyard isn't even 50 feet deep he walks outside walks down about halfway then turns around comes in and grabs the pup then goes down and does the same then comes in and tells me neither one of them had to go. No clue why he runs Jinx before the pup shes younger and needs to go out more run her before an accident happens not the 14 month old dog whos been potty trained for about 10 months. Anyways I grab the pup take her out walk around for about a minute and she pees walks around a bit more she poops throw her inside take Jinx out tell her go potty and she pees then we go in and I can actually relax for a bit knowing there will be no accidents to worry about for a little bit. Then when I come back in I get asked "what did you do that for I already took them" hmmm hunny I wonder why OH I KNOW because I don't want a dog turning my house into a bathroom I just woke up don't feel like cleaning my carpets AND I don't want to break the progress she's making in house training sounds like good answers to me. __________________ Jinx vom Wildhaus

01-25-2012, 09:33 AM	#8 (permalink)
Kittilicious Elite Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Minnesota Posts: 1,101	Add a quad in there... my husband has been off work since October because of surgery. I was ready to beat him some days. My biggest gripe is that he tries to tell me how to train/act with the dogs, but in the next breath it's "they are your dogs, you wanted them". In the beginning if I would leave the house for whatever reason he would want me to crate Knuckles so he wouldn't have to deal with him. That only lasted a couple days and I went off on him because part of the problem was he was being a lazy big baby who didn't want to get out of the recliner to let him outside... which he needed to get out of the chair!! __________________ - Berleen - Knuckles - born 8/21/11 - my big knucklehead and can't forget Saki; the Golden Retriever, Born 11/07/07 The felines that rule the house - Oliver, Serena, Sakura & Bastian. https://www.facebook.com/berleen

01-25-2012, 09:55 AM	#9 (permalink)
middleofnowhere Crowned Member Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Arkansas Posts: 12,472	Some rules of training dogs apply to working with humans, too. Here's some suggestions re training a human regarding this task: 1. Quit asking for behavior that isn't taught. It won't happen. 2. Teaching takes patience. And repetition. And consistency. So you will need to be a broken record on the procedure to take the dogs out (when, with what urgency, how) and how to behave when you are out with the dogs for toilet duty. 3. Retain your patience. Learning won't take place if you keep getting angry. 4. The choices seem to be develop the patience to train this ungainly creature, give up and let it run wild in the house, or, rehome it. I find I don't do well with training this sex of the species and have chosen not to have one in the house. Good luck with your course of action!

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