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post #1 of 13 (permalink) Old 12-06-2012, 11:10 AM Thread Starter
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Talking I'm alpha... Pup and boyfriend fighting over...

Ok... Have a question.... Our 3 month old, Addie respects my commands, doesn't really play bite me, and pretty much listens to me... My boyfriend on the other hand.. Thinks that he is alpha... Addie challenges him at everything... Barks at him, play bites at him.. Do you think Addie is trying to establish who is alpha??? I think that I am alpha, while my boyfriend thinks that Addie challenges him for the alpha role... Who is correct on this... Thanks...
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post #2 of 13 (permalink) Old 12-06-2012, 11:51 AM
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I don't like to think of myself as alpha or pack leader. I am a human. My dog knows I'm a human.

Your puppy is too young to be challenging anyone, and is probably just being a puppy trying to decipher all the mixed signals we as humans send them

Have you looked at NILIF? Do you take her to puppy class? What training do you do? Who does the training? How much is your boyfriend involved in feeding, grooming, training, walks, etc? maybe he's just a big play buddy to her, if he is not involved in these activities...
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post #3 of 13 (permalink) Old 12-06-2012, 12:07 PM Thread Starter
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In my opinion I think there is an alpha... I agree with the way Cesar Milan thinks... It's just a question me and my BF are curious about... We both participate in daily feedings, walking, etc... She is doing well in training...
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And again...your puppy is 3 months old and doesn't challenge anyone at this point. more likely your boyfriend is just more fun to cause trouble with than you

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I am thinking he doesn't respect your boyfriend as much and treats him like a littermate.
What does he do differently from you when interacting with the dog?
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post #6 of 13 (permalink) Old 12-09-2012, 10:18 PM Thread Starter
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My BF tries correct her.. Addie usually barks at him. Just doesn't mind him as much as she minds me... Our puppy, I guess just thinks he is playing with her... I think that pups from an early age start to learn dominance..
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post #7 of 13 (permalink) Old 12-09-2012, 10:21 PM
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You ought to check out this link for training tips

Mind Games (version 1.0) by M. Shirley Chong

At 3mos. you don't want to go "all out" with Mind Games but start slowly implementing some.

Don't roll the puppy over (if you are doing so or thinking of doing so), there's many reasons to not do so, but especially because that alpha/dominance theory has been debunked in the dog world.
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post #8 of 13 (permalink) Old 12-09-2012, 10:45 PM
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alpha, pack leader, dominance is overrated. i'm thinking
your BF plays differently with the pup. he probably gets
her excited when he plays with her. her barking and nipping
is probably excited play.
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Is this your first dog? You sound like you have very strong beliefs in one training method and are set in your ways but for some reason are asking for advice on a public forum.

Cesar Milan is great, but he's a PET trainer and the things you see on TV are dogs that have most of the time been ruined by owners that didn't know what they were doing. If you're doing some of his methods as preventative methods so that you don't get a "red zone" dog then that's fine, but the chances of you having that if you got your dog from a reputable breeder are probably very small.

At 3 months old, she's not challenging anyone. She's playing. A dog barking doesn't necessarily mean a challenge. It can mean a variety of different things. Most of the time its excitement or fear at that age. Trust us, she doesn't want to be the alpha at this point, and you don't need to go all Cesar Milan on her to establish yourself as the alpha. Just be a good, fair, confident leader and you'll become the alpha without having to destroy your dog's confidence.

I've spoken to so many people that believe their dog is an "alpha" when really its just that they don't have proper leadership so the dog decides to make its own decisions. They tell you how their dog is an "alpha" when it comes to other dogs and then their dog gets it handed to them by a more confident dog that just doesn't want to take their dog's crap. Really do some research on the whole "alpha" thing. Even Cesar doesn't use that method anymore, he actually never ever says "alpha."
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No.. Not my first dog... My first GSD...
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