Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Great Mills, MD
Question about Grief.
We just put our 14 yr old Collie, Cheyenne, down. It was one of the hardest things I've personally had to do, but it was necessary. Her quality of life was slowly going down, but she was still happy and healthy. The last month, it was as if the bottom fell out. We wanted to do it before she got to point where we were rushing to find an emergency vet; the closest emergency vet to myself is over an hour away and we never wanted her to be in pain that wasn't controlled by low strenght non-narcotics. She got to the point very early Thursday morning where she was unable to stand and she urinated/deficated all over herself before my husband could pick her up and get her outside. We got the quickest appointment possible for our Princess and she went with all the grace she exhibited in this world.
My question is, what should I look for in my 4 year old WGSD, Finn? I have never had a multiple dog household until I "adopted" Chey by moving in with and marrying my husband. Finn has known her all of his life; we picked him up at 8 weeks and they've never been separated for longer than a day. If my husband took Chey out for a walk, Finn would sit by the front window until she came back.
We kenneled Finn before we left after making sure he got to love up on her one more time. When we came back with an empty leash and her pillow resting empty in her favorite spot, I'm sure he picked up on our mood immediately. He has a very high drive, but not even the combination of his "Jackpot" toy and treats could get him from going from the front door, to the pillow, to the garage where the car is, then repeating the process. After about an hour of this, he laid down on her pillow and whimpered for a while.
What are the warning signs that we've gone past the "standard" grieving period and that we are progressing to something that needs to be treated by a vet? I know to make sure he continues to eat and drink and I know the signs to watch for when it comes to dehydration and hypoglycemia from not eating, but I don't want to go to the vet every other day because he's "not acting right" for them to just tell us he's upset and to give him two scritches behind the ears and call them in the morning, but I don't want to miss a subtle, but important sign and create a bigger problem.
I'm also completely okay with people telling me I'm a little nuts and I should just let my dog do his thing. I've just never done this before and I don't really know what to do.
Thank you in advance.