Hard enough saying good bye

Tina & Dave · 08-24-2009, 03:06 PM

Well our beautiful gentle and loving Ben is nearing his end. He can not walk and has stopped eating, its been 4 days now. So I have asked dh to make the preparations. He called the vet this am and asked about cost to have him come to the house and then have a cremation done and I think dh is in shock. The total service package, as they called it costs over $600. Not that I won't pay it but it seems like so much money. Hard enough saying good bye to our loyal and loving pets but to then have that charge is something else. I wonder silently and now aloud how some people come up with the money in these trying times.

Oh well - I guess I am just venting a bit... The end is coming so soon for my guy... it just seems like yesterday we brought him home from the shelter. 8 1/2 is far to young to go...

Tina

ozzymama · 08-24-2009, 03:13 PM

Aw hugs Tina!!

I remember that e-mail Dave sent you when Ben was first with you, it was so funny!

We will be thinking of you and wishing you strength.

Brightelf · 08-24-2009, 03:24 PM

I'm so sorry, Tina. Wishing you and Dave some strength during this difficult time.

rgrim84 · 08-24-2009, 03:25 PM

Aww. I'm sorry, my prayers will be with you. How come your losing him at such a young age? Poor guy, at least he had a happy life with you.

sunfluer · 08-24-2009, 03:33 PM

<span style='font-size: 11pt'>I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. He seems so young, though... has he been sick? Prayers and thoughts are with you.</span>

Tina & Dave · 08-24-2009, 03:55 PM

Thank you all....

Ben was diagnoised with DM earlier this year. Sadly it has advanced very quickly. He hasnt been able to get around too well for the past 2 weeks but still looked forward to his 100 foot walk every nite.. lol However over the past few days he has now stopped eating. We have tried everything and he just isnt interested. It appears to me that he has just given up. Last nite he soiled his bed not once but twice. I see that look when I look at him... I just cant be bothered mum. There has been a rather big change with dynamic also within the pack recently. Our little female has always been the top dog, even though she came after Ben. But he allowed it and she seemed to amuse him with allowing him to think he was still tog dog. She is now fussing and brooding over him constantly. I also noticed that my latest foster wont go near him.. I am wondering if death scares her?

Sashmom · 08-24-2009, 04:19 PM

I am so sorry about Ben

Actually I am so shocked that vets even come to the house.
The day I lost Sash (he died sometimes during the night) at almost 9 yr old I was looking forward to his birthday in 3 wks.
Anyways, the vet would not even send the vet tech up here to help my husband get him into the car. that was so upsetting we live only 3 min away and he has alays been his vet since a puppy.
I am a little bitter about it, youre right, it is hard enough just losing them.
Why does it cost so much? Are you having a service or they just cremate him and you bring the urn home? I did not pick out an urn, I thought: he is no longer here I cant even explain what I thought that day I think I was in shock I went numb.
Poor Ben, I think he is trying to tell you: let me go Mom.
God bless you Tina and Dave.

sunfluer · 08-24-2009, 04:25 PM

<span style='font-size: 11pt'>Guess I'm not too smart - what's DM? And, once I read it, I probably go duh

</span>

kshort · 08-24-2009, 04:28 PM

Oh Tina...I am so sorry. I don't know what to say. He seems far too young to have to be dealing with this horrible disease.

When I lost Max, his acupuncture vet (who is the one who came to our house), made a paw print for me. I treasure having it.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you all.

middleofnowhere · 08-24-2009, 08:26 PM

I think my vet now would send someone out to help me. They've said they would do it just in general although I am across town from them. Private cremation here is 325 - 350. My vet gave me a huge credit - and a ton of her staff and she came in on a Sunday to figure out Barker the Younger's case. So I would have to check on what the normal charges would be.

In the past I had a vet come to the house once, the earlier two I took in. There was no charge at all for those. The last one I drove up to be cremated myself. (With Barker the Elder who was but a punk at the time.) I guess I've been lucky.

08-24-2009, 03:06 PM	#1 (permalink)
Tina & Dave Master Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: North of the GTA Posts: 921	Hard enough saying good bye Well our beautiful gentle and loving Ben is nearing his end. He can not walk and has stopped eating, its been 4 days now. So I have asked dh to make the preparations. He called the vet this am and asked about cost to have him come to the house and then have a cremation done and I think dh is in shock. The total service package, as they called it costs over $600. Not that I won't pay it but it seems like so much money. Hard enough saying good bye to our loyal and loving pets but to then have that charge is something else. I wonder silently and now aloud how some people come up with the money in these trying times. Oh well - I guess I am just venting a bit... The end is coming so soon for my guy... it just seems like yesterday we brought him home from the shelter. 8 1/2 is far to young to go... Tina __________________ Tina and Dave - Volunteers for Precious Paws Rescue - Barrie Ontario Approved foster Proud Owners of: Beni gsd Dec 31, 2000 - Sept 5, 2009 Lia gsd & Mas Survivor Render July 9/91 - Mar 31/2001 Autumn Jan 1979 - Oct 1990 (Sheltie)

08-24-2009, 03:13 PM	#2 (permalink)
ozzymama Crowned Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: ontario, canada Posts: 6,031	Re: Hard enough saying good bye Aw hugs Tina!! I remember that e-mail Dave sent you when Ben was first with you, it was so funny! We will be thinking of you and wishing you strength.

08-24-2009, 03:24 PM	#3 (permalink)
Brightelf Crowned Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 9,357	Re: Hard enough saying good bye I'm so sorry, Tina. Wishing you and Dave some strength during this difficult time. __________________ Patti Frauchen von: Grimm van den Heuvel, aka "The Doofinator" My strong-minded, very loving boy

08-24-2009, 03:25 PM	#4 (permalink)
rgrim84 Master Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: SoCal Posts: 627	Re: Hard enough saying good bye Aww. I'm sorry, my prayers will be with you. How come your losing him at such a young age? Poor guy, at least he had a happy life with you. __________________ ~Rachel

08-24-2009, 03:33 PM	#5 (permalink)
sunfluer Senior Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Horse Country, NY Posts: 415	Re: Hard enough saying good bye <span style='font-size: 11pt'>I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. He seems so young, though... has he been sick? Prayers and thoughts are with you.</span> __________________ Barbara http://www.sunfluerdesigns.blogspot.com DOG spelled backwards is GOD - no small wonder dogs are humans best friend. Snickers aka Buddy Boy, (Lab) http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2534/...7d686aebbd.jpg 5/97 - 7/10/09

08-24-2009, 03:55 PM	#6 (permalink)
Tina & Dave Master Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: North of the GTA Posts: 921	Re: Hard enough saying good bye Thank you all.... Ben was diagnoised with DM earlier this year. Sadly it has advanced very quickly. He hasnt been able to get around too well for the past 2 weeks but still looked forward to his 100 foot walk every nite.. lol However over the past few days he has now stopped eating. We have tried everything and he just isnt interested. It appears to me that he has just given up. Last nite he soiled his bed not once but twice. I see that look when I look at him... I just cant be bothered mum. There has been a rather big change with dynamic also within the pack recently. Our little female has always been the top dog, even though she came after Ben. But he allowed it and she seemed to amuse him with allowing him to think he was still tog dog. She is now fussing and brooding over him constantly. I also noticed that my latest foster wont go near him.. I am wondering if death scares her? __________________ Tina and Dave - Volunteers for Precious Paws Rescue - Barrie Ontario Approved foster Proud Owners of: Beni gsd Dec 31, 2000 - Sept 5, 2009 Lia gsd & Mas Survivor Render July 9/91 - Mar 31/2001 Autumn Jan 1979 - Oct 1990 (Sheltie)

08-24-2009, 04:19 PM	#7 (permalink)
Sashmom Crowned Member Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: FL Posts: 3,621	Re: Hard enough saying good bye I am so sorry about Ben Actually I am so shocked that vets even come to the house. The day I lost Sash (he died sometimes during the night) at almost 9 yr old I was looking forward to his birthday in 3 wks. Anyways, the vet would not even send the vet tech up here to help my husband get him into the car. that was so upsetting we live only 3 min away and he has alays been his vet since a puppy. I am a little bitter about it, youre right, it is hard enough just losing them. Why does it cost so much? Are you having a service or they just cremate him and you bring the urn home? I did not pick out an urn, I thought: he is no longer here I cant even explain what I thought that day I think I was in shock I went numb. Poor Ben, I think he is trying to tell you: let me go Mom. God bless you Tina and Dave. __________________ Sashi ALWAYS REMEMBERED Sept 1, 1999- Aug 11, 2008 Neek Our special needs Rescue adopted 09-March 4 yr old

08-24-2009, 04:25 PM	#8 (permalink)
sunfluer Senior Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Horse Country, NY Posts: 415	Re: Hard enough saying good bye <span style='font-size: 11pt'>Guess I'm not too smart - what's DM? And, once I read it, I probably go duh </span> __________________ Barbara http://www.sunfluerdesigns.blogspot.com DOG spelled backwards is GOD - no small wonder dogs are humans best friend. Snickers aka Buddy Boy, (Lab) http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2534/...7d686aebbd.jpg 5/97 - 7/10/09

08-24-2009, 04:28 PM	#9 (permalink)
kshort Crowned Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Colorado Posts: 9,448	Re: Hard enough saying good bye Oh Tina...I am so sorry. I don't know what to say. He seems far too young to have to be dealing with this horrible disease. When I lost Max, his acupuncture vet (who is the one who came to our house), made a paw print for me. I treasure having it. My thoughts and prayers will be with you all. __________________ Kris ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Murphy, Sheltie/Keeshond, 10/31/91-10/3/10 Max, GSD, 6/3/96 - 4/26/08 Kitties: Taz, Chessy, Jacki and Lucy Samson, GSD

08-24-2009, 08:26 PM	#10 (permalink)
middleofnowhere Crowned Member Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Arkansas Posts: 12,472	Re: Hard enough saying good bye I think my vet now would send someone out to help me. They've said they would do it just in general although I am across town from them. Private cremation here is 325 - 350. My vet gave me a huge credit - and a ton of her staff and she came in on a Sunday to figure out Barker the Younger's case. So I would have to check on what the normal charges would be. In the past I had a vet come to the house once, the earlier two I took in. There was no charge at all for those. The last one I drove up to be cremated myself. (With Barker the Elder who was but a punk at the time.) I guess I've been lucky.

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