Am I too morbid?

Yvette · 07-14-2009, 12:18 PM

Last year my Boy Friend had to put his old boy down. It was his time.

It was sudden.
He keeps asking me, When the time is ready, will I be able to handle it & Am I prepared?
No. I am not prepared emotionally. I can not fathom Dakota being gone. She & I are having fun. But, when the time comes I am ready in other aspects. Our vet will come to the home when it is time. I was also told (by my boss & her husband) that DaKota & my cat Salem, both have a forever resting spot. They would pick up DaKota & Salem & bury them in a wide open field. I can visit the resting places at any time. When DaKota's time comes, I want to say to her, "go find" (a game we play) Mre' mre' & klyde. Is that morbid? Is this a bad thing for me to think?

JazzNScout · 07-14-2009, 12:37 PM

I don't think it's morbid. It's part of life. No problem in planning for it as long as we don't obsess over it. I agree: We are never emotionally prepared no matter what we do.
I kept telling Jasmine that Morgan (her hero) was waiting for her. It made perfect sense to me to tell her that.

DnP · 07-14-2009, 12:40 PM

I definitely don't think it's morbid. No more morbid than making plans for my own demise. In fact, to have a plan in place will help when the time does come. I know it helped immensely when my own Dakota's time came. I knew I'd have the vet near my parents would do it and Dakota would be buried on my folks' property under his favorite chestnut tree. Did it make saying good-bye easier, **** no...but it didn't make things harder by having to make decisions when I was not able to keep from bawling like a baby.

Brightelf · 07-14-2009, 01:17 PM

I think it makes sense to consider now what you may wish to do at that time. Sometimes feeling prepared, even for smaller details, helps settle our minds.

meisha98 · 07-14-2009, 07:47 PM

Agree with all of the above. The less decision making you need to make at the time it happens, the better. The more details you can sttle before hand the easier for all involved.

PipiK · 07-14-2009, 08:42 PM

I don't think it's morbid either.

In fact, I think that it helps us to appreciate even more (as if we don't do it now!) the limited time we have with them, no matter how long they live.

Each and every day counts.

middleofnowhere · 07-14-2009, 10:24 PM

No more morbid than writing a will.

07-14-2009, 12:18 PM	#1 (permalink)
Yvette Crowned Member Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Rutland, MA., United States Posts: 4,718	Am I too morbid? Last year my Boy Friend had to put his old boy down. It was his time. It was sudden. He keeps asking me, When the time is ready, will I be able to handle it & Am I prepared? No. I am not prepared emotionally. I can not fathom Dakota being gone. She & I are having fun. But, when the time comes I am ready in other aspects. Our vet will come to the home when it is time. I was also told (by my boss & her husband) that DaKota & my cat Salem, both have a forever resting spot. They would pick up DaKota & Salem & bury them in a wide open field. I can visit the resting places at any time. When DaKota's time comes, I want to say to her, "go find" (a game we play) Mre' mre' & klyde. Is that morbid? Is this a bad thing for me to think? __________________ ~Saving just one will not change the world, but surely will change the world for that dog~

07-14-2009, 12:37 PM	#2 (permalink)
JazzNScout Master Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Land of the Chupacabra Posts: 665	Re: Am I too morbid? I don't think it's morbid. It's part of life. No problem in planning for it as long as we don't obsess over it. I agree: We are never emotionally prepared no matter what we do. I kept telling Jasmine that Morgan (her hero) was waiting for her. It made perfect sense to me to tell her that. __________________ Spending more than a few hours a day in a forum is unhealthy and makes people mean

07-14-2009, 12:40 PM	#3 (permalink)
DnP Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 1,248	Re: Am I too morbid? I definitely don't think it's morbid. No more morbid than making plans for my own demise. In fact, to have a plan in place will help when the time does come. I know it helped immensely when my own Dakota's time came. I knew I'd have the vet near my parents would do it and Dakota would be buried on my folks' property under his favorite chestnut tree. Did it make saying good-bye easier, **** no...but it didn't make things harder by having to make decisions when I was not able to keep from bawling like a baby. __________________ Diana Mom of Brightstar's Phoenix In loving memory of Dakota 1/93 - 10/2006 He seemed neither old nor young. His strength lay in his eyes. They look as old as the hills, and as young and as wild. I've never tired of looking into them.-John Muir

07-14-2009, 01:17 PM	#4 (permalink)
Brightelf Crowned Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 9,357	Re: Am I too morbid? I think it makes sense to consider now what you may wish to do at that time. Sometimes feeling prepared, even for smaller details, helps settle our minds. __________________ Patti Frauchen von: Grimm van den Heuvel, aka "The Doofinator" My strong-minded, very loving boy

07-14-2009, 07:47 PM	#5 (permalink)
meisha98 Master Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: MA Posts: 670	Re: Am I too morbid? Agree with all of the above. The less decision making you need to make at the time it happens, the better. The more details you can sttle before hand the easier for all involved. __________________ Kim (MSPCA Vol.), Lainey (Lainey Express Destiny Ryanhaus) and Beau (formerly Booker GSD/Lab?- Rescue) (At Rainbow Bridge) Vegas- Our Gentle Giant R.I.P. 2000-2008 Meisha - Moo Moo R.I.P. 1990-2000-All GSDs

07-14-2009, 08:42 PM	#6 (permalink)
PipiK Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: The Hilltowns, Western MA Posts: 137	Re: Am I too morbid? I don't think it's morbid either. In fact, I think that it helps us to appreciate even more (as if we don't do it now!) the limited time we have with them, no matter how long they live. Each and every day counts. __________________ Sarge Rescue dog 11/14/96 - 11/14/08 Samantha - 7/9/95 - 3/10/09 Amy Rescue dog - 4/1/96 - 6/2/09 **Rest Well, My Sweeties** Lucy & Nikki - Rescue dogs Born 6/11/08 Adopted us: 3/31/09

07-14-2009, 10:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
middleofnowhere Crowned Member Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Arkansas Posts: 12,472	Re: Am I too morbid? No more morbid than writing a will.

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