He is too young..it isn't fair

Sue F · 07-10-2009, 11:05 PM

This isn't fair...he is too young and deserves better than what he has been dealt.

We got Remington late December 2007 when he was about 7 mos old...my big strapping boy, and I found him on this forum. My heart dog...my boy.

He was diagnosed with perianal fistulas this past January...at 1.8 years old. Way too early...so unfair. We have tried all the treatments..nothing has helped. He is getting incontinent, he is miserable and rarely wants to come out of his crate. He won't eat unless I give him goodies...and even then, not as much as I would want. He is losing weight and significant muscle mass. He is obviously unhappy...and his once bright eyes are now sullen and sad. His PFs are 360 degrees and large...and I just know his quality of life is decreasing....

Remy's regular vet is back in town Monday, and we have an appointment to talk about quality of life and where we go from here. I haven't had him long enough, he hasn't lived enough...this is just so unfair. He is too young...but I know that we will probably make this decision, as I see a miserable dog who is just not happy anymore...

This is breaking my heart...I want to avoid it, but I know it has to be dealt with. My boy I rescued and gave everything to..and now I am helpless to rescue him from this. I am lost.

onyx'girl · 07-10-2009, 11:10 PM

My thoughts are with you. I hope the vet can think of something to help him. Remy has had a quality life with you, think where he would be if you didn't find him? It is unfair...

Keegan62 · 07-10-2009, 11:24 PM

http://perianal-fistulas.tripod.com/MainIndex.htm

you can join this site they have a lot of dogs that have this disease

you can judge for yourself about the advice.... sometimes they argue about vets adn tell you what you need to do but I think it can be helpful......

Sue F · 07-10-2009, 11:27 PM

Thanks Kathy, I already belong to that group. Unfortunately, Remington's PF disease came on fast and furious, not at all textbook, and we are really at a loss as nothing is working.

pupresq · 07-10-2009, 11:31 PM

I have no insight to offer on PF, just wanted to say how sorry I am that this is happening to your sweet guy. It really isn't fair.

lucymom · 07-10-2009, 11:42 PM

It IS unfair. I am so sorry. It's gut-wrenching to see your dog so unhappy, and wishing you could take that pain away--even on to yourself, to make him happy. Each day, hoping for a sign he's having a better day, then the disappointment. It's just terrible and my heart breaks for you and him. Sounds like you rescued him, thank goodness---you are giving him every chance and love he'd never have without you.

Sometimes it seems that the heartdogs are the ones most vulnerable. We try to take with us the lessons in love and patience and forgiveness they teach us so as to honor them when they leave.

I respect all you are doing for him and that you are examining his quality of life issues. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

SunCzarina · 07-10-2009, 11:51 PM

I am so sorry. It is quite unfair.

Avamom · 07-10-2009, 11:54 PM

Oh Sue my heart breaks for you and your family. Remy is such a sweet , sweet, beautiful boy and after having the pleasure of meeting him, and seeing him run around with your dogs at your house, I can honestly tell you that he could not have been found by a more loving family than yours.

I know first hand all the treatments and options you have tried for poor Remy, there is not a medicine, food, website or theory you have not researched, and tried...and the heartbreak and frustration you have endured as each option has failed him. You know Remy best and I trust that you will know when he is asking you to make the most loving choice an owner can - to ease his pain and suffering when it reaches "that point".

Its is not fair and he deserved better than his body has given him but he could not have gotten a better family!

Skye'sMom · 07-11-2009, 12:34 AM

I am so sorry - you are so right, it is not fair. Remmy has had a good and caring life with you. It is difficult for you for but loving to him to look at his quality life.

Hugs to you and your family. I will be thinking of Remmy and wishing him a speedy journey when his time comes.

socalgsd · 07-11-2009, 01:07 AM

Hi Sue,

Are you a member of the PF-L on Yahoo groups? I haven't seen you over there but I just lurk occasionally these days. Would you be willing to discuss what you've tried so far? I'm pretty familiar with current treatments if you have any particular questions.

I'm very sorry to hear that Remy has such a severe case. It is truly a hideous disease.

Molly

07-10-2009, 11:05 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sue F Elite Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,816	He is too young..it isn't fair This isn't fair...he is too young and deserves better than what he has been dealt. We got Remington late December 2007 when he was about 7 mos old...my big strapping boy, and I found him on this forum. My heart dog...my boy. He was diagnosed with perianal fistulas this past January...at 1.8 years old. Way too early...so unfair. We have tried all the treatments..nothing has helped. He is getting incontinent, he is miserable and rarely wants to come out of his crate. He won't eat unless I give him goodies...and even then, not as much as I would want. He is losing weight and significant muscle mass. He is obviously unhappy...and his once bright eyes are now sullen and sad. His PFs are 360 degrees and large...and I just know his quality of life is decreasing.... Remy's regular vet is back in town Monday, and we have an appointment to talk about quality of life and where we go from here. I haven't had him long enough, he hasn't lived enough...this is just so unfair. He is too young...but I know that we will probably make this decision, as I see a miserable dog who is just not happy anymore... This is breaking my heart...I want to avoid it, but I know it has to be dealt with. My boy I rescued and gave everything to..and now I am helpless to rescue him from this. I am lost.

07-10-2009, 11:10 PM	#2 (permalink)
onyx'girl Crowned Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: SW, MI Posts: 17,611	Re: He is too young..it isn't fair My thoughts are with you. I hope the vet can think of something to help him. Remy has had a quality life with you, think where he would be if you didn't find him? It is unfair... __________________ Jane~ Kept by Onyx, Kacie and Gideon v Wildhaus aka Karlo

07-10-2009, 11:24 PM	#3 (permalink)
Keegan62 Elite Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: nc Posts: 1,100	Re: He is too young..it isn't fair http://perianal-fistulas.tripod.com/MainIndex.htm you can join this site they have a lot of dogs that have this disease you can judge for yourself about the advice.... sometimes they argue about vets adn tell you what you need to do but I think it can be helpful...... __________________ KATHY

07-10-2009, 11:27 PM	#4 (permalink)
Sue F Elite Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,816	Re: He is too young..it isn't fair Thanks Kathy, I already belong to that group. Unfortunately, Remington's PF disease came on fast and furious, not at all textbook, and we are really at a loss as nothing is working.

07-10-2009, 11:31 PM	#5 (permalink)
pupresq Crowned Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Kentucky Posts: 5,485	Re: He is too young..it isn't fair I have no insight to offer on PF, just wanted to say how sorry I am that this is happening to your sweet guy. It really isn't fair. __________________ http://www.brighterdaysforshelters.com Grace GSD Leo GSD

07-10-2009, 11:42 PM	#6 (permalink)
lucymom Elite Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Cape Cod, MA Posts: 1,250	Re: He is too young..it isn't fair It IS unfair. I am so sorry. It's gut-wrenching to see your dog so unhappy, and wishing you could take that pain away--even on to yourself, to make him happy. Each day, hoping for a sign he's having a better day, then the disappointment. It's just terrible and my heart breaks for you and him. Sounds like you rescued him, thank goodness---you are giving him every chance and love he'd never have without you. Sometimes it seems that the heartdogs are the ones most vulnerable. We try to take with us the lessons in love and patience and forgiveness they teach us so as to honor them when they leave. I respect all you are doing for him and that you are examining his quality of life issues. My thoughts and prayers are with you. __________________ Jennifer Aik vom Haus Gold "The Rock" Age 11 Zuzu--gsd DOB 4-21-09. Naughty n' nice Lucy, Black GSD 2/1997-12-25-2008. " T'was Heaven with you Here." Dweezil, WGSD. RIP, 13 Moon, WGSD. RIP , 12 Shining found treasures both.

07-10-2009, 11:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
SunCzarina Crowned Member Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 12,031	Re: He is too young..it isn't fair I am so sorry. It is quite unfair. __________________ -Jenn Otto von Hena-C 05/23/08 Morgan Donnermond 08/04/01 I have duct tape and I am not afraid to use it.

07-10-2009, 11:54 PM	#8 (permalink)
Avamom Knighted Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Columbia, SC Posts: 2,787	Re: He is too young..it isn't fair Oh Sue my heart breaks for you and your family. Remy is such a sweet , sweet, beautiful boy and after having the pleasure of meeting him, and seeing him run around with your dogs at your house, I can honestly tell you that he could not have been found by a more loving family than yours. I know first hand all the treatments and options you have tried for poor Remy, there is not a medicine, food, website or theory you have not researched, and tried...and the heartbreak and frustration you have endured as each option has failed him. You know Remy best and I trust that you will know when he is asking you to make the most loving choice an owner can - to ease his pain and suffering when it reaches "that point". Its is not fair and he deserved better than his body has given him but he could not have gotten a better family! __________________ Sinclair Director Noble Shepherd Rescue www.nobleshepherdrescue.com Ava:6 yr-GSD Charly: 6 1/2 yr-GSD rescue Apollo: 4 yr old foster: BLOG: http://nsrapollo.blogspot.com/ Raven: 1997-2007

07-11-2009, 12:34 AM	#9 (permalink)
Skye'sMom Crowned Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 4,761	Re: He is too young..it isn't fair I am so sorry - you are so right, it is not fair. Remmy has had a good and caring life with you. It is difficult for you for but loving to him to look at his quality life. Hugs to you and your family. I will be thinking of Remmy and wishing him a speedy journey when his time comes. __________________ Bonnie - http://www.DOGTORS.com - http://www.k9kollegeohio.com With approval from: Skye, CGC & certified therapy dog (GSD) Buddy, CGC & certified therapy dog (golden, tripod) RIP Sophie - the life was too short dog Solo - CGC, AAT 'stars in the sky dog'

07-11-2009, 01:07 AM	#10 (permalink)
socalgsd Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 76	Re: He is too young..it isn't fair Hi Sue, Are you a member of the PF-L on Yahoo groups? I haven't seen you over there but I just lurk occasionally these days. Would you be willing to discuss what you've tried so far? I'm pretty familiar with current treatments if you have any particular questions. I'm very sorry to hear that Remy has such a severe case. It is truly a hideous disease. Molly

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