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07-15-2014 02:23 PM
GSDolch I would never pick my dogs over my SO, nor would I pick my SO over my dogs. That isn't how it works, or should work IMO.

My husband and I have been in marriage therapy since Feb. We have both learned a lot, and the main things we've both learned is that things aren't as they seem most of the time, its hardly ever what we really think. Communication is a HUGE part of a relationship, something many lack, and don't really even realize it.

My question is, WHY be in a relationship if you are so easily going to choose one over the other? One thing I am very thankful for is that, despite our problems, there has never been an issue with having to choose one living thing over the other (be in dogs/kids/SO/in laws/etc).

If it ever came down to having to choose, the choosing isn't the issue IMO, its something much deeper and probably something the couple in question hasn't really thought about. (much easier to just push things aside).

If an SO says "me or the dog" and the other SO says "ok the dog!" and thats it....then they probably don't need to be together to begin with.

If my SO said "me or the dog" I would want to know WHY they felt that way and if there was a way to fix it. Am I really spending all my time with the dog? WHY am *I* spending all my time with the dog and not giving my husband attention?

Communication and understanding is the key. It's never the simple answer IRL.

Going to marriage therapy has really changed the way I look at things. lol
07-08-2014 02:32 PM
Courtney My husband comes first of course. He's a hot guy and a great husband
We both love dogs and Rusty was a easy addition to our home. We both dig him - but he's really "my" dog.

I could never in a million years imagine a scenario where I would have to chose between them.

I did see a joke on line before - it read something like "Husband and Dog Missing - REWARD for dog returned". lol
07-08-2014 02:10 PM
Ellimaybel
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I was with a man off and on for 7 years, all of my animals grew up around him, I call him the father of my furry children.

He has always said to me "When/If I die I want to come back as one of your animals." I spoil my animals, I love them to death, I give them all of my attention and normally wherever I am in the house, the animals are there right next to me. So he felt neglected sometimes but as sad as it sounds, he knew/knows that I will always choose my animals over him and he knows that the only person I love more than Sinister is my mother. He accepted it because he loves Sinister half as much as I do.
Ha! My husband just said the same thing yesterday. I was preparing Gunther's food and he said "If I come back as a dog will you take care of me?" I think sometimes he THINKS I prefer my animals over him. Sometimes I tell him it's because my animals never pick fights with me and give me unconditional love. Mostly though I just remind him of all the things in our lives I have forgiven him for, extravagant gifts I've bought him, and simple ways I care for him too. I spoil everyone and everything I love. I am a giver, friend, spouse, or pet, if someone is important to me I show it everyday. Sometimes the hubby just needs a reminder of this.
07-08-2014 09:11 AM
LaRen616 I was with a man off and on for 7 years, all of my animals grew up around him, I call him the father of my furry children.

He has always said to me "When/If I die I want to come back as one of your animals." I spoil my animals, I love them to death, I give them all of my attention and normally wherever I am in the house, the animals are there right next to me. So he felt neglected sometimes but as sad as it sounds, he knew/knows that I will always choose my animals over him and he knows that the only person I love more than Sinister is my mother. He accepted it because he loves Sinister half as much as I do.
07-07-2014 07:49 PM
misslesleedavis1 Ty and are pretty bonded. I am at a thai food restaurant as I type and I miss the little brat.

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07-07-2014 07:39 PM
Mishka&Milo I would take my dog over any human on earth, except for my husband.... I'd even take her over the rest of my family. Mishka knows when I am upset, and tries her hardest to make me feel better... But my husband always knows why, and always does whatever it takes to help. Humans suck. Personally I believe I have the only good one .


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07-07-2014 01:38 PM
Galathiel I think if you prefer your dog's company over your husband/wife,'s then there's something wrong with the relationship. I'm not talking boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. I never was into long-term 'dating'.

I love my dogs. I spend too much money on them that we can ill afford at times. However, that doesn't mean that I ignore/neglect my husband. We still have 'date night' every week. We still enjoy each other's company.

There's really no comparison between the two. Our relationship with our pets is easy because it's uncomplicated, because animals are simple. Human to human relationships are much more complex and take more work.
07-07-2014 12:40 PM
gsdlover91
Significant other vs. Dogs

I love my SO and I love my dog. Luckily, they both love each other too. I need them both, I couldn't imagine life without either. I got lucky and he also can't imagine life without Berlin :P

Also, when we met - I made it clear my dog is a huge part of my life and if that wasn't okay - it wouldn't work. Turns out he's just as GSD crazy as me.

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07-06-2014 11:03 PM
pyratemom I've been with my husband over 37 years. He was not raised with animals. I was raised on a farm. It took him awhile to understand my bond with my animals but he does understand and would not even consider asking me to make a choice between my dog and him. It would hurt all concerned but my dog needs me and my husband doesn't at that point. He knows this and accepts it. If he were sick with cancer I would do all I could for him but I wouldn't get rid of my dog because I don't think that would help him. On the other hand if my dog were sick, I would do anything I could for her as well. It's pretty nice having both of them but my dog is my priority.
07-06-2014 11:01 PM
MustLoveGSDs
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Exactly, and I think having a significant other who is just tolerant of dogs - and doesn't really love them - is asking for trouble more often than not. I know some people make it work, and it works well, but I couldn't imagine being with someone who doesn't understand the bond you can have with an animal.
I think it's just as important to really support a SO in their hobbies and passions as they do with our passion for dogs. I feel that is what really builds on a good partnership and relationship. With whoever I am with I always make a point to tell them I care about their passions, want to learn about it and help support them and watch them succeed. I treat them as I want to be treated when it comes to my love for dogs. My BF has one rescue mutt and was scared of dobermans before he met me, he had never been around them and of course he's never dated a woman so into dogs, training, clubs, and competing(I'm sure most of us hardcore dog folks can relate). This guy hogs my Doberman from me to cuddle with now, dog sits for me when I'm in a bind, and helps to educate friends and family on dog stuff he's learned from me. I wouldn't tolerate anything less in a relationship though so you bet the hobbies and passions he has that I know absolutely nothing about and never had an interest in, I am attending events with him and letting him teach me because I know how happy it makes us dog people to talk about our dogs and help educate others and it's especially nice when our SO indulges us in our love for dogs, so I repay the kindness.
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