|07-03-2014 03:36 AM|
|07-03-2014 03:34 AM|
It's pretty much my name and state. I don't have a big online presence and I thought that if I post under something close to to my real name--it would keep me honest and polite.
|07-03-2014 03:13 AM|
|Zeeva||Fabulous story blehmannwa (what is the significance of your user name? it took me two attempts to spell it correctly )|
|07-03-2014 02:45 AM|
|Ellimaybel||My sister works at one of the chain thrift shops that most people donate to. I have learned, I will NEVER donate to this place again. Turns out, a lot of what you, I, and others have donated has wound up just getting thrown away anyway. For example jeans. They only take certain brands. The tags still have to be attached. Anything else, they send off to be turned into rags. If it's after a holiday and you are donating your old holiday stuff, they put what they can hold into their storage space. Any overflow gets thrown out. I'm not saying places like this don't do a lot of good for people, but I would rather take donations to a church where they don't waste what I am trying to give. Just something for people to consider. Just like money, you need to be aware of what happens to things once you donate them.|
|07-03-2014 02:36 AM|
|blehmannwa||Well said..we are all people.|
|07-03-2014 01:47 AM|
There are food banks in most cities in the states. That aside, the "Great Recession" certainly hit some folks very hard. I think this movie was produced by HBO but "American Winter" is worth a look. It tracks six families in the Portland, Oregon area through a winter of the recession. These are all folks who were doing everything right - and it fell apart. Heartbreaking.
I'm glad your neighbor has a home.
There are kids on the street, there are families on the street. Most are there because the other choice was untenable or non-existent. I don't know what the answer is, I don't know what we can do individually. I think there needs to be pressure put on elected officials to increase programs for people - and a way for people to get what they need without feeling self conscience or guilty.
Long ago and far away, food stamps helped keep me fed through college. There was one location where the official acted as though I were taking food from her table. But only one. When I drew unemployment, I only had one clerk that acted as though I shouldn't be getting it. These were both people who shouldn't have had the jobs they did as they were not sympathetic to their clients. They were the exceptions 'though and I am thankful for that.
A lot of policies have changed since then although I think the recent financial mess has loosened the system up a little bit.
Bottom line - I think we need to take a hard look at ourselves, our governments and it's collective policies -- and how that combination treats people. Because whether you agree with their choices or not, whether you think they should have done things differently or not -- they are people.
|07-02-2014 10:08 PM|
And remember 50 is the new 20, sadly that also is equal when it comes to $.
I just got that--too true.
|07-02-2014 10:06 PM|
llombardo--what a good story! I have been very fortunate in my life. My family was wealthy when I was little but by the time I was a teenager--it was all gone. Reminds me of the saying. "I've been rich and I've been poor. Rich is better."
I spent time on public assistance. I've been a single Mom on food stamps--splitting a Top Ramen with my kid--he got the noodles, I got the broth.
But things turned around and I'm in a comfortable place but like you I try not to forget how I had to make some hard choices about what got paid each month and how tight a budget can be.
|07-02-2014 09:51 PM|
|07-02-2014 09:42 PM|
|llombardo||Growing up my dad worked two jobs to support my two sisters and I and to give my mom the ability to stay home. We had a wonderful childhood. Of course I thought I knew it all and left at 18, got pregnant a year later and found myself living in a car with my dog and cat. I eventually went home and stayed put for a couple years. Throughout the years I've lost jobs, places to live and a couple times everything I owned, but I kept moving forward. I work in the garbage industry and deal with peod who can't pay bills because of hard times. Once a year they turn off the water until they pay the bill and things get very emotional. Customers yell, scream and cry. We fight within the office because I am the most understanding person there. One girl has been in difficult situations , but obviously doesn't remember them. Another girl is married and they pull in over a hundred grand a year, no understanding there at all. Then there is me, I have talked bosses into payment plans, listened and felt for these people because I was there at one time and I never forget where I came from. And because I don't forget that nor do I think I'm better then anyone I show compassion and try to help anyway I can. The others don't understand or forget what it's like to have to pick between what bills have to be paid and which ones get put to the side until something gives. I don't know if I think the situation some of these people are in or my co-workers are more sad.|
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