|08-18-2014 07:37 PM|
|wyoung2153||Hahaha wouldn't that be nice I suspect by next year this time we'll be talking ti the breeder|
|08-18-2014 07:20 PM|
|middleofnowhere||Eh, forget the fancy wedding and honeymoon, skip having kids and get the puppy.|
|08-18-2014 05:59 PM|
|Blanketback||I know - get the wedding over with, have the baby, get past the diaper stage, and then bring in the BB puppy?|
|08-18-2014 05:00 PM|
I waited too long to edit the last one after I thought about it. This wasn't an attempt for people to peg a relationship issue, the thread was started to help decide between a rescue or the replacement puppy becasue at the time we couldn't decide.. I didn't expect anyone to dig into my relationship.. just wanted to see what people thought, then decided to update with what we decided and a little of why, for those that cared.
|08-18-2014 04:27 PM|
When we started dating, I told him we were a packaged deal and he accepted that, and since living together, he has grown to love Titan and not view him in the responsibilty way.
When the talk of a second dog came around I knew he didn't want one, and he knew I wanted one. He will literally move mountains to make me happy, and I the same, so we talked last year and decided end of summer/fall 2014 we would start the search, gave him time to prepare himself, and gave me a timeframe. We ended up deploying last year so it worked out..
Well as time got closer, when I started this thread, I could tell he still wasn't thrilled (not by comments he made or anything, but when you have been with someone for a while, you just know certain things, and this I just knew), but because he's a man of his word, he was going to go through with it anyways. We had many appointments to meet dogs in the last few weeks, that he was interested in but oddly all fell through, they couldn't meet, the dog was adopted already, etc. All was my coordinating, so I know he nothing to do with the falling through
When this last one popped up, we were the first contacted because I work with the rescue directly, knowing he wasn't thrilled (against all his attempts to hide it because he promised) We had another talk to see where his head was at. He did admit that he was keeping his promise but in all honesty would rather wait. For his own personal reasons but also, like a stated above, for financial reasons as well.. the fact that we are getting married and planning a honeymoon were large factors. Those are expensive, if you actually have the wedding, and we plan to, and when you actually go on a honeymoon, and we plan to. Also factoring in his new position, my deployment cycle (coming up in the beginning of next year), and a few other reasons. It just made sense where his head was at and were certainly things I wasn't thinking about. I think waiting until we are married, my deployment cycle has passed and he has settled in his new position in his unit, AND we are in a better financial spot would be a better decision at the moment.
Not that you were expecting that response, but I didn't want people to get this idea that there is some sort of "relationship issue" going on here, as I have seen the threads take a steep turn when one makes a comment as such. (not that it was your intention) Just felt the need to explain.
|08-18-2014 03:50 PM|
This is a relationship issue. Your guy either means what he says or doesn't. A group of GSD enthusiasts on a dog board who do not really know either of you can't peg this.
What I (certainly not a good example of relationship success in my own life) would say is trust what your partner says.
Maybe your destined to be a three dog household...
|08-18-2014 01:44 PM|
|wyoung2153||Thank you I would have loved this girl, but it's really important to me to be on the same page.. it makes a world of difference.|
|08-18-2014 12:39 PM|
|katieliz||Good, sound, mature decision!|
|08-18-2014 12:30 PM|
Ooooook so... just an update in case anyone has been wondering (oddly). We decided to forego the 2nd dog idea at the moment. We had come across a few dogs that were deserving and needed homes, but something fell through every time. I then came across a year old BB that needed a home, everything we were looking for. Because of the real possibility of rescuing her, we had a VERY long discussion about a second dog, because I just ahd this feeling my BF wasn't quite ready for it, which turned out to be the case (for his own reasons that I respect). We also decided that since we are going to get married soonish (next year some time) it would be a better idea to get our finances more stable and to put our excess money toward the wedding rather than go in debt right off the bat.
We also then discussed a timeline of when. He said he feels much better with the idea of getting my replacement puppy after we are married and when we are more stable. So that is the deal I was happy for the much needed talk, because even though some may not think so, bringing in another dog to a two person home, is a big deal if one person isn't on board like the other.
Anyways.. there you have it. Thanks again for all the help with this decision and the sites and advice toward rescuing.
|07-25-2014 02:30 PM|
Thank you for the sites and information! I will be checking things out. The foster option is definitely something to consider as long as I can get witha good rescue that will support me like you said. I think the one place we have looked at here doesn't have enough funds to support like that, but I honestly haven't asked.. I just have volunteered and know they are always in need of money.. AND it's not a no-kill shelter. They will only PTS if the dog is aggressive or has an illness that can't be treated, buttt still. unsure about them sometimes.. one of those means well, but can't help some things.
I would like a rescue that takes the time to really learn their dogs and invests time in placing.. Thank you again for the info! We have some time til we are REALLY searching. We are thinking October time frame.... conveniently my Birthday month if one comes our way.. we will consider but the active search begins then!
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