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05-08-2014 10:45 PM
lorihd@comcast.net My mom had her lst operation about 4 yrs ago, then again about 2 years ago, but unfortunately they did nothing to improve her eye. Now both of them are in their 80's, and have been married almost 60 years, and when they are not fighting, they are very fond of each other, lol. anyway once a dog lover, always a dog lover that's just the way it is, so why not bring a puppy over to make a dog lover happy
05-08-2014 10:33 PM
selzer
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My mother has had 2 eye operations, has to put numerous drops in daily, and it looks so bad, all the specialists really don't know what to do for it. Now she is blind in that eye, but I do bring lexie with me when I visit. she adores her (of course she purchased her for me as a present). Now you could just say to your dad that your bringing pups to make your mom happy, just have her wash her hands or you could put sterile gloves on for protection.
It does brighten her up. She was blind in that eye for over a year. She is recovering from this latest surgery and sees out of it somewhat. She puts all kinds of drops in her eye, it's been a real struggle.

It's been a struggle for both of them. They've been married for more than half a century, and they do appreciate each other.
05-08-2014 10:27 PM
lorihd@comcast.net My mother has had 2 eye operations, has to put numerous drops in daily, and it looks so bad, all the specialists really don't know what to do for it. Now she is blind in that eye, but I do bring lexie with me when I visit. she adores her (of course she purchased her for me as a present). Now you could just say to your dad that your bringing pups to make your mom happy, just have her wash her hands or you could put sterile gloves on for protection.
05-08-2014 10:15 PM
shepherdmom
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Dad's a good guy. He has taken care of my critters when I have been in the hospital or if I have spent the night elsewhere a few times a year. I don't want to tick him off either. I think his frustration and flat out anger about this today was off the scale though. He's going to get a stroke over all this crap. He isn't any more healthy than my mother.
I wonder if something else was bothering him and you just got the short end of the stick?
05-08-2014 09:03 PM
selzer Thanks all. I was upset earlier because, well, I don't bring them over often, but my mother loves baby puppies, and I do like her to see them. I don't have them all the time.

But Mom's eye has been awful with this crazy evil disease that basically ate two corneas already. So it isn't anything lame on my father's part. It is a nasty problem. I don't think my dogs are any more likely to cause her an infection than my sister's kids. I mean, as for diseases, it has to be a zoonotic disease. As for bacteria, well, kids have bacteria too. My dogs aren't filthy. My sister's baby has MRSA for heaven's sake. I don't know.

I took it personally. I know my dad is worried about my mom. But it was Cujo as much as any of the rest of us that helped my mother beat cancer. She wants another dog, and I think that is mainly what my dad is worried about. He doesn't want to go through the heartache again. We lost Pippy and then Cujo, and he doesn't want another dog. Mom does.

Mom doesn't ask me to bring the pups over. She doesn't. She enjoys them when I do. And I am for the most part talking about 2-4 week old puppies. I only bring them out if I am going to vet for something to do with the dam, and then I will stop by for a few moments for her to see them.

As for the couple of times in the last 2+ years that I brought and older pup or dog over, well, I dunno. I think I am more likely to spread an infection than they are.

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If you sit with your mom as she is petting the puppies and then help her use hand sanitizer right in front of your dad so he knows that she has nothing pathogenic on her hands, maybe that will help calm his fears. In some facilities that our Therapy Dogs visit, they ask us to carry sanitizer and help the residents use it at the end of a visit.
Ah well, Dad runs and gets the antibacterial soap and waits for me to get done, yelling at the pup to stay away from him. That was today.

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Ask your mom's doctor.

can't you bring your mom to your place to enjoy your dogs?

There are plenty of folks your parents age enjoying GSDs.
No, it is hard but my dad doesn't want her around dogs because he is afraid for her eyeball. It just wouldn't fly for her to come over to my place.

Dad's a good guy. He has taken care of my critters when I have been in the hospital or if I have spent the night elsewhere a few times a year. I don't want to tick him off either. I think his frustration and flat out anger about this today was off the scale though. He's going to get a stroke over all this crap. He isn't any more healthy than my mother.
05-08-2014 08:35 PM
zyppi Ask your mom's doctor.

can't you bring your mom to your place to enjoy your dogs?

There are plenty of folks your parents age enjoying GSDs.
05-08-2014 07:25 PM
Quinnsmom If you sit with your mom as she is petting the puppies and then help her use hand sanitizer right in front of your dad so he knows that she has nothing pathogenic on her hands, maybe that will help calm his fears. In some facilities that our Therapy Dogs visit, they ask us to carry sanitizer and help the residents use it at the end of a visit.
05-08-2014 07:18 PM
Msmaria Even though I think seeing the dogs would benefit your mom, the stress caused by your disagreement with your dad over the dogs might be harder on her. We all know how stress can effect the immune system and recurring infections. Even though your dad may be the one in the wrong here it might be up to you to suck it up for your moms health and not take the dogs to visit for now. So I gotta agree with Zeeva. Hope your mom gets better soon.
05-08-2014 07:05 PM
Oliver'smom If there is some medical evidence that the dogs are causing her eye infections, then it is not something that should happen anymore.

But I'm skeptical that this is the case, especially if you are helping your mom wash her hands after handling the dogs. There are so many studies that show dogs have a calming effect on people that are ailing.

My dear departed grandmother was a semi-invalid for about a decade due to a stroke, broken hip and several other aliments before she passed. My grandfather very much wanted to limit her activities because she was hard to maneuver around and in a fragile state. But grandma loved social interaction. She loved going to family parties, her grandkids soccer games, out to lunch and dinner etc. To limit her in these things ate at her soul and killed her by inches.

If your mom is a dog person, being limited from interacting with dogs might be slowly killing her spirit. I suppose the only way to truly figure it out is to sit your parents down individually and see if you can figure out what is really going on. Maybe what is happening is your mom pines for a dog after you leave and it causes friction between your parents. Or maybe your dad is just so worried that she is fragile and he could lose her that he is being irrational.

I know I very much worry about a time when I might be elderly and not able to fully care for a dog. How sad will that be for me when I don't have a furry companion. I hope at that point someone will let me regularly love on their dog.
05-08-2014 06:13 PM
Stevenzachsmom Sue, how are your parents doing mental health-wise? Does your mother speak up and voice her opinion? Does she express to your father that she wants the dogs to visit? If possible, I would try to not get in the middle and see if the two of them can work it out. It seems unfair to deprive your mother of something she loves. I don't see where a dog puts her at greater risk of infection. Could you speak to her doctor about this? Perhaps your father would be convinced that a dog is safe. I actually think it would be beneficial for your Mom to see the dogs.
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