|05-07-2014 01:47 PM|
I think it's different situations. With people, their loyalties, truthfulness and deceptions among other traits force fellow humans to kind of keep an arms length. Also there are exceptions to the rule with humans. But with dogs, you pretty much know where you stand in the relationship. I think this no nonsense primal connection allows humans that care opportunities to become closer to their dogs than other humans especially when the dog lives inside in close proxcimity.
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|05-07-2014 12:32 PM|
|05-07-2014 12:23 PM|
lovemygirl, your post is perfect. And I'm so sorry for your loss.
You're right, it's missing them at every moment that really hits you hard. They are never anywhere but at your side (like it or not!), how many people can you say that about? None, likely.
|05-07-2014 12:21 PM|
It really depends on your personality.
For the most part, the loss of my dog would hit harder for me. She is my constant companion and a part of my everyday life. I trust her, she doesn't want anything from me, but two square meals a day and love. Her affection for me is unflappable and unchanging. There are no strings attached and I love the simplicity of it.
I lost my mom to cancer about a year and a half ago. That was brutal. Everything about it was like getting a knife in my heart and I miss her terribly. Besides my mom, my dad and my two sisters would devastate me to lose them.
Other than those people, my dog is a bigger part of my life. It doesn't mean I wouldn't be sad or feel a sense of loss for others, but I don't think it would hit me nearly as hard.
I really think some people have the same connection, or sometimes even stronger to their pets than to people.
I for one, have some trust/anxiety issues with people. I'm actually really uncomfortable letting people get close to me, and that even goes for some of my closest friends. I am introverted and shy. To me, my pets are safer, and less complicated than humans. So I think I allow myself to become more attached to them, vs people.
So I think your personality has a lot to do with it. They say people get breeds to suit their personality, well the GSD aloofness, certainly matches my own!
I also don't think it's wrong to love your dog more than you love most people. Your dog is someone who is always happy to see you, they don't nag (well, not much!), they are happy to just hang out and enjoy a comfortable silence.
|05-07-2014 11:14 AM|
|Bridget||When Heidi passes, it will be the worst thing that ever happened to me. I hated losing my parents too. With people since we have so much longer with them, lots of times, we lose them little by little, especially if they live to an old age, so we are kind of ready for it. Of course not always, but often. With dogs, everything is speeded up and it seems like we have them for such a short time, even if they live their entire lifespan.|
|05-07-2014 10:55 AM|
Good timing on this post as I am currently experiencing this....
Eva's death has hit me harder than any human's death. I think partially it's because she lived with me - other deaths, like a family member who passed away suddenly and at a young age, I have been able to compartmentalize and deal with in chunks. But Eva... we spent every moment together when I wasn't at work. Literally. I didn't even shower or use the bathroom alone! There is a huge absence in every moment, from not being greeted at the door to stepping out of the shower to an empty bathroom to not needing to fill up her food bowl to missing (!) our 4AM walks...
|05-07-2014 10:32 AM|
|Galathiel||I think it depends on how healthy your relationships are, human or animal. If you have a loving, close relationship with your family, then of course you will feel their loss deeply when they're gone. Same with your pets. However, troubled relationships sometimes mean you cling closer to your pets and invest more in them because that relationship is uncomplicated.|
|05-07-2014 10:26 AM|
Having to part with WD was much harder than when my father died. WD was part of my being, my father was my father, that's all.
It does surprise me but not to the point of guilt.
|05-07-2014 10:24 AM|
I've lost an aunt as well as a dog and I was devastated by both in very different ways. I was in shock when my aunt arrested and died hours later. It took me a good two weeks of seeming "fine" to everyone else as I comforted family, did chores while others were mourning, etc. for it to actually hit me. I'm not really a crying type but I did feel the intense sadness and loss belatedly.
With my dog I was sobbing immediately and it lasted for days. I felt so lonely and like a huge chuck was missing out of my life. My bed was empty. There was all this free time that was empty. Just a horrible, guilty and empty feeling.
|05-07-2014 08:31 AM|
I don't think there is a right or wrong. It's all very personal and depends on your attachment to your animal.
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