|07-03-2014 03:56 AM|
|Ellimaybel||Beautiful boy! He will greet you in heaven one day. They never forget their persons|
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|07-03-2014 02:26 AM|
We adopted a young wolf/GSD mix a couple of years ago - a wonderful soul through and through. He had some behavioural issues, but nothing unusual for a GSD combined with extra intensity from his wolf heritage. To make a long story short, our cat fell ill and we had to keep them separated at all times because he was a hyper pup and lived for harassing the cat. We decided to rehome him so he wouldn't be restricted to just one part of the house, often away from us because our cat was under constant watch. It wasn't fair. His new home was excellent, but he started having some issues with disorientation and hallucinations. He became so sick so rapidly that he had to be euthanized. I still feel horrible that he wasn't with us when he started going downhill. We didn't have him long, but we still had a strong bond.
I know we made the right decision to rehome him, but I will always beat myself up about it.
|05-07-2014 04:20 PM|
|A girl and her dog||
I think there is enough push for perfection to make anyone feel like they're failing their dog on any given day. Sort of like the cosmetics and diet industry has done, making a profit on people's insecurities, I find that the dog training/obedience media explosion paired with people comparing themselves to something they read on the internet without knowing the writer's background is all in part breeding insecurities in the hearts of dog owners. The pet food industry is the equivalent of the cosmetics industry at this point.
Personally, yes, I feel I have failed a few times. I adopted too soon and without enough experience and ended up rehoming. I adopted for the wrong reasons and bit off more than I could chew, rehomed. I failed those dogs.
I currently have two that I'm settled on and committed to. Do I fail them? Sure, constantly, if I compare myself to the perfect internet dog owner, or a person that deems themselves superior. Obviously I'm failing them by taking the time to write this post; I'm literally taking, no, robbing them of precious quality time that could be spent with them playing or training, or obsessing over them.
At the end of the day, my dogs love me, I love them, and I do the best I can for them every day. I also have a family and other responsibilities and I can't let memes like "I'd rather be homeless with my dog than go to work and leave them alone bewildered and confused and traumatized by my absence" make me feel like a cruddy owner. Hyper rescue-types will make anyone feel like a terrible owner. Well, y'all get the point. I hope.
Just a big 'ole doggy FAIL over here.
|05-07-2014 06:39 AM|
|TommyB681||When Abbi died last year my parents were taking care of her because of my schedule. My parents were able to give her 24/7 care and I wasnt. However, we didnt know she was dying until she acutally went. I wasnt there when she passed and I feel like I failed her by not being there when she actually went. I had no way of knowing but it still eats at me when I think about it|
|05-06-2014 11:14 AM|
I like this thread. I like learning from other people's experience (and it makes me feel better too LOL). I failed several dogs long ago who were not mine, but family members' dogs. It was cases where the owner was not taking good care of the dog and I should have stepped in and done the right thing and I didn't. I feel very guilty about these.
A lot about Heidi's life is managed rather than solved. In more experienced hands than mine, she could have probably had a better life. But I don't feel like I failed her, as she has always been well loved and cared for the best I knew how.
|05-06-2014 10:24 AM|
|SusiQ||Yep, one time - rehomed an extremely fearful small WGSD rescue (she was terrified of men and I had a husband and both my boys at home). She would spend the entire time hiding under the bed while the guys were at home. Worked through Echo with the pledge that she would go to a female-only home and that if that was not possible, she would be returned to me. Well, guess what? She was adopted out to a guy in New York (I'm in Ohio) and I have felt guilty ever since. I can't stop wishing I knew that she was OK. I complained, but to no avail. I was told that once a dog goes to rescue, you lose all control. I'll never do it again.|
|05-06-2014 06:26 AM|
I don't think I've failed any of my dogs! I've done the best I can with each and everyone and I've learned a lot along the way.. Each one has taught me something different..
Have I made mistakes along the way absolutely! Have I felt like quitting and giving up, absolutely! Have we failed in trials, absolutely.. That's part of the process.. But I also have a good group of friends that keep me grounded, motivated and inspired!
|05-05-2014 07:24 PM|
I do the best I can for my dogs. But I still feel like I fail them on some points. Maybe they don't get as much excersise as they should, maybe they don't get training as often as they should, maybe they don't feel fulfilled.
Have I been a good enough trainer to bring them to their potential? I think about this a lot with my one girl Lena. She is extraordinary. I feel sometimes like I failed her because I did not try hard enough to find that one thing that she loves and excels at. And I know it's out there!!! So as she has aged I am trying now to figure it out. It's never too late. She is almost 10, and I am getting her ready for a BH.
I don't feel like I failed a dog health wise. Working in the field I am pretty good at knowing when it's time. And knowing my financial limitations.
But I often wonder if I hold dogs back. If, in other hands, they would be and achieve more than I could get them to. I see the amazing potential in my young male, and I KNOW, I can't fully realize his potential. But he does not care. He is happy. He does not care if he titles in IPO, certs in FEMA, or just goes on a walk.
So I think the feeling if failure is on US. The dogs are really only looking for a few specific things. And glory is not one of them.
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