|04-14-2014 08:08 AM|
I feel for you, and know where you're coming from. My partner and I decided we would return our pup to the breeder at around the same age, as I was completely unprepared for the bundle of energy that had entered our lives. I was extremely emotional as I was getting up all night for her, waking up early to exercise her, and overall had very little sleep and time to myself. My partner tried to book a flight for that very night before we could change our minds but the airline (we live rural and only have one to choose from) said they couldn't take her for five more days. He booked and I spent five days literally crying my eyes out saying I was failing her and didn't want to give up on her. The night before she was due to fly out he turned to me and said he couldn't give her up either, and so we cancelled her flight.
I don't want to make you feel bad, but honestly the situation seemed to make us stronger and more determined and things have only gotten better since that day. We'd been discussing trying for a baby for a few months and I said to my partner that a baby will also keep me up all night and take up all my time and energy, but I can't exactly give a baby up when it becomes too hard so why should I give up my puppy just because it feels too difficult at times? we determined the difficulty was in the unexpectedness and the speed with which we had to re-adjust our once comfortable lives. Suddenly things weren't just done on a whim, decisions were made always with our pup in mind. Even now my partner sometimes turns to me and says 'let's drive to *insert destination* and hop on a charter boat for a couple days fishing? oh wait, what would we do with Zelda? never mind'. It's not easy to have your life change so dramatically, but it will get easier with time!
|04-13-2014 08:17 PM|
|cmlenard||I went through this exact same thing not 4 months ago. We had a 16 month old Dobe that was a total handful already and we got our GSD at 6 months old. Two weeks in, and I was calling the breeder asking what I could do. I was totaly overwhelmed. My husband and I both work away from home. (Part of the reason we got him as a companion for the Dobe). She was willing to take him back and re home him for us, but I felt like I wanted to be the one to find him a good home, I wanted to meet and get to know whomever took him. So we started searching, and in the weeks that followed, while trying to re home him, I slowly began to establish a routine and started to realize I COULD do this. So we stopped the search, kept him and I am soooo glad we did. He's a wonderful addition to our pack and we all love him and are bonding with him. Please give it just a little more time... It might be a little harder if you still decide to give him up but I'm willing to bet you won't....|
|04-13-2014 07:46 PM|
I'm so sorry I could literally feel your sadness just reading your post!
It sounds like you are a very caring person, a pup would be so lucky to have you! Do you really think things won't work out? Your pup is at the age that it requires the most attention and up bringing, do you not think you could get past this stage and then be able to cope better bringing him into your lifestyle? Sounds like he would/will have a more than terrific home with you. If you really don't feel you can carry on, then I applaud you, that takes some strength to admit to it and take action (something in which I'm not sure I would be able to do....as selfish as that may seem!) x
|04-13-2014 07:15 PM|
I brought home my puppy at 8 weeks. I think I literally cried at about 10 weeks sitting in the car wondering what I'd done. That overwhelmed feeling passes.
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|04-13-2014 07:07 PM|
you are entitled to change your mind. truthfully i wondered if your post was even real. nice of you i guess to think of saving others from this situation, but may i say, with all due respect, your reasoning sounds kinda lame (as you've written it). better, i think, to just say you changed your mind. the reality is that anyone in your situation, as you describe it, has the facilities, the time, and the work schedule to raise a puppy successfully if they wanted to. bottom line is it sounds like you got a puppy and now you don't want to have one.
forgive me if i've misinterpreted what you wrote, but speaking of being brutally honest with yourself...
|04-13-2014 06:47 PM|
I feel your pain I'm sorry
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|04-13-2014 06:10 PM|
|Shade||All I can say is that if you want it bad enough, you make it happen. Is it easy raising a GSD pup - heck no most of the time. They're smart, fast, high energy, and driven dogs. But they are seriously amazing and every moment of training you put into them you get back ten fold and it's beautiful to see|
|04-13-2014 06:03 PM|
Next time....get a rough coated Collie....auto pilot dogs.
|04-13-2014 05:20 PM|
|petite||I have always had employment dealing with dogs and even I was overwhelmed by my GSD when I got her at 10 weeks. They can be exhausting! When I feel stuck on something or overwhelmed, I try to imagine if I will care at all about the difficulties in a year. If it's not something I can imagine being as upset or lost about in the moment, I think of it as "this too shall pass" and struggle on. I feel it's a small price to pay for a great companion. I hope you reconsider and keep in mind puppyhood is short in the scheme of things.|
|04-13-2014 04:46 PM|
|readaboutdogs||After losing my 2 gsds in the past year and a half now I have gone back and forth on getting another pup. I do have a non gsd still. At first I really wanted to get a pup or rescue right away, I like watching the play, but then think to wait till I retire and am able to stay home to work with the pup better, plus I always hated that they were waiting on me always to get home. But on the other hand, they were well house trained, I could trust to leave them for long periods of time, working, shopping trips, short day trips because they were used to that. They had full reign of the house, not crated. So I wonder too if best that they grow up learning to stay in the house the way I described. They were very loving and the greetings I received each day, well, that is sorely missed. I guess it's like a lot of us humans, might not always get to go where you want or do all you'd like to, but the times you do are much more valued! As they say, dogs live in the moment.|
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