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04-14-2014 04:30 PM
Buggibub well she's going to be taking jackson tonight. says she'll give me sundays with him, and that if i have to bounce back and forth to houston, she will watch buggi for me as needed until she moves to NY.

so at least i'll have sundays with him.
04-13-2014 02:14 PM
LaRen616
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Originally Posted by DJEtzel View Post
You know what, if a significant other can't accept that I have a dog that I will care for more than them for a significant period of time and I have joint custody with an ex, then they don't need to be a part of my life. My dogs are more important than the idea of being in a relationship in the future.

And the potential significant other better not think my dogs are "just dogs".
Yup and yup.

My ex still sees Sinister all the time, he loves him very much and he would be heart broken if I kept Sinister from him. He also likes my cats and Draco, he's known them all and has been there for them all since they were kittens/a puppy.

I make sure to tell potential boyfriends that my animals come first, they are my children and they were there first. I will always choose them over a man.
04-11-2014 03:16 PM
Buggibub most ladies in austin come with dogs, which is nice. the gal i had drinks with last night has a little dorkie named Loca and she is a total hypochondriac doggie parent. her dog has some auto-immune GI issue, so she gets IT and understands dogs come first ALWAYS.

that being said, if i do blow off the ex-gf about this in any future interactions, she may let me take him.
04-11-2014 03:02 PM
DJEtzel
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Can't you accept that the ex has the dog? It may be better for future relationships if you are not involved in a custody battle with an ex for a dog, because to the new potential girlfriend it will be "just a dog".
And the harder you want the dog, the harder she will try to keep it. If you let go by telling her "Hey, it's OK, you keep the dog." and let the entire issue run its course, you may be still wind up with your dog.
I don't agree with this, at all.

Better for future relationships? You know what, if a significant other can't accept that I have a dog that I will care for more than them for a significant period of time and I have joint custody with an ex, then they don't need to be a part of my life. My dogs are more important than the idea of being in a relationship in the future.

And the potential significant other better not think my dogs are "just dogs".

And I'm off my soapbox. XD

(I do agree, fwiw, on the last bit about how she may be more likely to let OP see/have the dog if he acts like he doesn't care, however.)
04-11-2014 02:51 PM
wyoung2153 That is great advice. But know too that there's nothing wrong with asking about taking him to begin with. Of course, at some point, acceptance will be key.
04-11-2014 02:16 PM
Buggibub
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Can't you accept that the ex has the dog? It may be better for future relationships if you are not involved in a custody battle with an ex for a dog, because to the new potential girlfriend it will be "just a dog".
And the harder you want the dog, the harder she will try to keep it. If you let go by telling her "Hey, it's OK, you keep the dog." and let the entire issue run its course, you may be still wind up with your dog.
that's a good point, and probably what is best. straight down the middle, clean break. especially as i start to pursue other dating endeavors. i don't think new ladies will be interested in being with a man in custody battles over dogs.

i appreciate all of you. this is advice that i need to hear.
04-11-2014 02:14 PM
Buggibub
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uck.. no fun I'm sorry. Any way you can justify keeping him instead of her?
well because she is going to be living in a 2br apt with her friend and her friend's mom for only 2 months, it made sense for jackson to stay with me where his life is consistent, he's on a routine, and has a stable environment. so that's why we agreed to let him stay with me.

not to bash, but in typical fashion, ex-gf decides on her own without consulting me what she thinks is best and digresses from previous arrangements and decisions.
04-11-2014 02:13 PM
wolfy dog Can't you accept that the ex has the dog? It may be better for future relationships if you are not involved in a custody battle with an ex for a dog, because to the new potential girlfriend it will be "just a dog".
And the harder you want the dog, the harder she will try to keep it. If you let go by telling her "Hey, it's OK, you keep the dog." and let the entire issue run its course, you may be still wind up with your dog.
04-11-2014 02:04 PM
wyoung2153 uck.. no fun I'm sorry. Any way you can justify keeping him instead of her?
04-11-2014 02:04 PM
Buggibub all her stuff has to be out of the apartment on Sunday, so I'll get her apartment key back. so frustrating trying to deal with her.

people like that never get far in life.
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