|03-24-2014 05:23 PM|
I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who replied to this thread!
I am going to move and after making some calls, I found out the move will cost so much that it will be a while before I can get a car. I had forgotten that moving can be expensive, especially if the place is not furnished.
Also, the option of car pooling to college just appeared. I do not know how to drive in the city, so I'll probably be riding with someone who does.
Thank you guys so much for your advice!
|03-24-2014 04:39 PM|
Working at a tow yard I can say a car at auction is no bargain. The cars that are left over that we an sell all need work. Most go to scrap and even the ones that appear nice like a BMW end of needing $1000-$2000 worth of work to make them reliable.
You may find a good used car from a private party, but you really need to know the type of car you are looking for well. The Kelley Blue Book website is a good source for information and even what to expect if buying a new car.
As for renting, I cannot offer much other than take things slowly since moving and buying a car are both stressful, so maybe do one of them at a time, wait a couple months then do the other.
|03-24-2014 02:53 PM|
We used to rent but I was super picky about the type of place and the neighbors. I wanted "normal" people, by that I mean working adults and families, not weird people sitting around all day yelling through the walls or college kids that just partied. We found an apartment complex that was affordable, yet did a very thorough background check. We liked it there. Our neighbors were very diverse but there were never any problems. Everyone was working and respected other people's space and privacy. No nosy people and no parties. Personally I feel like where I live is pretty important so I shopped around quite a bit and wasn't going to just settle on the first place that seemed like a good deal. Also as a young woman I consult the public sex offender registries. Sometimes you get what you pay for. After our apartment, we lived in a nice duplex for a while and then bought our house when the market bottomed out and it was cheaper to buy/own than rent.
When it comes to cars, I never had one until I got married and then after that, we just got junkers cheap. We have a good mechanic we trust and it's still cheaper to fix things as they come than pay $200-$300 car payment a month for 3-5 years. When I got my minivan, we did get a car loan because I wanted something a bit newer (as in, not made in the mid-90s and this was 2004 when we got it) so that it was reliable with me driving long distances usually alone. I was able to pay it off a bit early and will be driving it until it falls apart.
|03-22-2014 02:03 PM|
I have bought two cars from dealers in my life. (of many cars.) First one was my first car which I coowned with my folks. Second one I was in my early 40s - it was a huge old toyota crown. It had a very short life. The ford I bought in 1992 from a private party (it was a year old.) I still have it. (I bought a lot of other cars between these.)
I would be warry of public auction cars - I'd check them out very carefully before bidding. Look for certs that they have not been subject to a flood or in a serious wreck. Make sure they have a title and not a salvage title.
Sounds like you had a wierd neighbor the first time out. There are wierd neighbors out there, there are also really terrific neighbors. Keep in mind, a noise canceling "radio" could make your conversations hard to track for a nosey neighbor. Also being very open could make you incredibly boring. Or being disgustingly friendly...
|03-22-2014 12:21 PM|
Let me tell you what my Mom did to me one time at a car auction....I went and I bid on a nice little wagon and was done, but my mom wasn't. She decided I needed a van and while I was wrapping up things with the wagon she ended up with a van. Now this might not sound bad, but she decided that I would pay her back for the van that I never wanted by working at her pizza place for free. She was never one to argue with so I spent many hours working for a van I never wanted...true story I swear
Look around for deals for the car and don't be afraid to take the next step if you feel you are ready as far as moving. Only you can decide that. Good Luck
|03-22-2014 12:14 PM|
|Blanketback||I think robk gave you great advice about the car, and I'd look at a private seller too. Lots of people sell their old cars for cheap when they want a new one. The thing about this new apartment that I want to point out is that if you're a private person then it might not be a good idea to live surrounded by people who do nothing all day, because they're retired. I know lots of retired people who've enjoyed this time in their life, where they devote alot of time to volunteering for causes they believe in. However, I also know from past experience that it only takes a couple of busybodies to make your life a living nightmare. So before taking this new place, I'd be looking to meet the neighbors first. If they're friendly and interesting and have a life, then go for it. If they're nosey and critical and sit at the window watching the action all day long then save yourself the nightmare of being their next entertainment. Good luck with your decision!|
|03-22-2014 11:58 AM|
|wyoung2153||Sorry you responded while I was responding.. glad to know more about your social life.. makes a difference. Don't mean to make you sound like a fragile, unsociable person..|
|03-22-2014 11:56 AM|
I'm not going to sit here and tell you that you have to move out or you shouldn't leave. Because as others stated.. it's really going to come down to you and what you know is right for you.. btu I can give my opinion. In my experience, moving away from home might actually help with your people skills.. and staying home may only deepen that fear. I also think that it is so unfortunate that your first move went the way it did. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Just know that not everyone is that way. and if you decide to move it might actually be a good thing to introduce yourself to your neighbors. If not only to let them know you are are a nice person and not a sketchy character, though keeping to yourself wouldn't be a bad idea either, it really is up to you and your comfort level. I think when you have had a bad experience it tends to stick with you and that's why you are unsure of yourself right now. The first time I lived on my own was in Germany.. military moved me there for my first station. I was scared outa my mind. I was 18 and not ready for that.. it put me in a situation where I had to decide to be uncomfortable the entire time and not talk to anyone outside my home, or get the courage to go out, walk around, take Titan places, wave to my neighbors, etc. It was the best experience I ever had. IT set the tone for how I want to be at every new place I move, because it's a lot. Now my situation is very different because I had no choice but I wanted you to know that I struggled too and once you find a good place, it really is an incredible growing experience.
On the other side. Staying home may be beneficial too as someone stated, where you can learn to be more social and unafraid of being ridiculed. It may set the foundation for confidence in your future home.
As for the car.. I'm sorry but I don't have experience with that.
Mind me asking how old you are and if you will be bringing you dog?
|03-22-2014 11:46 AM|
I CAN comingle with the neighbors, but I know from experience it's not worth it. It's better to live some place for years without knowing your neighbor's name or face, then to be nice to them and have them making comments about you and listening to every single one of your phone calls.
|03-22-2014 11:40 AM|
I kind of understand where your going here >
My thought is; you're not ready to commingle with the neighbors, you want to keep to yourself, afraid of ridicule. Am I correct ?
If this is the case, get treatment for that and stay at home with your parents where you feel more secure. Then once you can get into an elevator and start up a conversation with anybody that smiles at you, your ready to move on, from what I read here, your not ready and asking here is the proof. Sorry to be blunt, know about these feelings and the inability to just talk about the weather to a stranger seems difficult, you need emotional stimulation and what's called coping skills !!
btw, a bus pass is your ticket..
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