|08-20-2014 01:05 PM|
Gator I am so sorry for the lossof your mother.Take care of yourself. I know it is very hard time. Sending thoughts and prayers.
|08-20-2014 01:00 PM|
|Nikitta||Sorry for your loss Gator. I lost my dad quite a while back and I found out from a call to me from my sister while I was at work. I started screaming. God, it is always hard to lose your parents. Oddly enough, I'd think, I have to ask dad about that before reality would kick in. /hugs Sorry for your loss|
|08-20-2014 12:51 PM|
Thanks you guys
My brother will hold on to the ashes and eventually fly her to Nova Scotia where my Grandmother is laid to rest. My moms sister is there. We will do some type of service then I believe (if I can make it, although my brother said no rush, even if yr. from now)
|08-20-2014 12:46 PM|
Oh and Gator, my mom didn't want a service either. It sounds silly, but she thought it was a waste of money!
My grandmother was the same, so we tried to respect her wishes and never really did anything for her. In the end, we felt like we didn't have closure, and it didn't feel right to those of us who survived her.
So for my mom, we just had all our family and friends over to the house. We put up a big picture board that my younger sister and her friends worked on all night, it was really cute. People got to talk about my mom and it was a nice afternoon.
So that was our compromise. Maybe something like that would work for you guys? I think sometimes people feel like having a service for them when they pass is a burden to their loved ones, but they forget that people need closure.
Anyway, I'm sorry that August is such a bad month for you. I hope you have a good support system to help you through this difficult time
|08-20-2014 12:38 PM|
Oh Gator, I'm so sorry for your loss.
I lost my mom to cancer almost 2 years ago. We also had a strained relationship, and the only thing that is good about cancer is that it gave us time to tell each other we loved one another every day and say whatever it was that we needed to say to one another. I'm glad you got to mend your fences, so you don't have to worry about things left unsaid.
I'm so sorry. I still miss my mom so much and it still hurts so much, but it does get easier in time.
|08-20-2014 11:10 AM|
Try not to bring yourself down with wishing you could have had more time or done more.. as hard as that is.. you were there when she needed you most, you loved her and she knew that. She had you til the end and that's all that matters.
I am sending lots and lots of love, prayers and thoughts your way
|08-20-2014 10:54 AM|
|pyratemom||Sometimes life just sucks doesn't it! I understand what you are going through, but not having a service was her wish. You can perform your own little personal service. Go to a quiet spot either she or you liked and sit and light a candle and think of all the good times. Maybe plant a plant for her. Talk with the spirits and wish her well on her way to the spirit world. She will be there in spirit for you to talk to anytime you want to. Memories will never go away so you will always be able to see her face. Love and hugs from me and Raina.|
|08-20-2014 10:36 AM|
Sigh. Today is final good-bye
First I want to thank everyone for your condolences. Really means a lot to me, so thank you.
This eve is the only viewing for my Mom and then she will be cremated. She didn't want a service , makes me kinda sad as I don't know why.
I am not looking forward to going. I've been managing since Friday, but this is so final. Sigh.
Today also marks the 6 yr. anniversary of my Dad's passing. Aug. 31st, 5 yrs for my Step-Mom.
|08-18-2014 12:17 AM|
|Juliem24||I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I had a similar estrangement issue which was resolved before my mom died, and I will forever be grateful for that. It will bring you some peace of mind. My sympathies.|
|08-17-2014 10:02 PM|
|Quinnsmom||Wishing you comfort and peace at such a difficult time.|
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